Following Through Posted March 24, 2020 Share Posted March 24, 2020 Hey, no. My 40s have been pretty consistent with my 30s, which were by in large quiet. 23 is the age I identify as despite what a knuckle head I was at the time. 40s are good, I’ve a better understanding of what to do in given circumstances… well, in some cases. 🙂 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Professor Tarknassus Posted April 7, 2020 Share Posted April 7, 2020 On 2/23/2012 at 2:09 PM, newgirl said: Are you in your 40's? Do you feel being in your 40's is a turning point? Mid-40's. It's only a turning point for me in that I'm finally figuring out stuff I should have dealt with decades ago. Now I'm much more content with who I am and how I behave/react/cope/any other responses around people. I've learned I don't need to change myself into someone I'm not, I just need to accept the person that I actually am. 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted April 7, 2020 Share Posted April 7, 2020 @Professor Tarknassus welcome to AVEN 🎂 🎂 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LeChat Posted April 7, 2020 Share Posted April 7, 2020 7 hours ago, Professor Tarknassus said: ...Now I'm much more content with who I am and how I behave/react/cope/any other responses around people. I've learned I don't need to change myself into someone I'm not, I just need to accept the person that I actually am. Hi, and welcome. Well said! 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
hyperfractal Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 @Professor Tarknassus I'm in about the same place you are, emotionally and age-wise. Welcome to AVEN and to the 40's forum. 🎂 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AmberUK Posted April 16, 2020 Share Posted April 16, 2020 I just wish I hadn't spent so long getting here, when I work out what here is! 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Curlyfox Posted May 10, 2020 Share Posted May 10, 2020 I suppose it's time to stop lurking awkwardly in the background and actually say hello. I'm new to Aven (or at least I've never posted before), 47 years old, and didn't realize there was such a thing as asexuality until about 5 years ago. I have been married and have a son. Needless to say, it has not worked out well for me and didn't last (marriage that is - the son is great). As I said, about 5 years ago I stumbled across asexuality, looked back on my failed relationships, and went "well that explains a lot." I haven't told any friends or family because I just feel like it's really no one's business, but I do wear the black ring (after reading about it here) to remind myself not to compromise my comfort for social expectations or someone else's enjoyment. Like some of the rest of you, I'm a bit annoyed at not figuring this stuff out earlier in life, but I believe it's never too late to be what you might have been and to fall in love with yourself. Besides, I have discovered that I am an awesome date. I take myself to all the places I like and don't make myself share the dessert. Anyway, here I am. Trying to be brave and figure out where I fit. It's nice to know I'm not alone. "Hi" (shy wave) 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
argar Posted May 10, 2020 Share Posted May 10, 2020 Welcome to AVEN. Better late than never. Yeah, I took a sex ed. class in college back in the 90's. Nothing that I felt or was going through was yet to be defined. I hope you make a lot of positive connections with some of the awesome people on the site. Have a beautiful night. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted May 10, 2020 Share Posted May 10, 2020 @Curlyfox, welcome to AVEN 🎂 🎂 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Some Call Me Tim Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 44 and just started to figure things out. Going through a lot of confusing thoughts, feelings, and memories ... some things making more sense, some things getting resignified, lots of new questions coming to the fore. Answering the OP: Yes, 40 was a turning point for me, but very subtle. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted May 30, 2020 Author Share Posted May 30, 2020 On 4/7/2020 at 1:47 AM, Professor Tarknassus said: Mid-40's. It's only a turning point for me in that I'm finally figuring out stuff I should have dealt with decades ago. Now I'm much more content with who I am and how I behave/react/cope/any other responses around people. I've learned I don't need to change myself into someone I'm not, I just need to accept the person that I actually am. I hope you enjoy your 40'a. I turn 50 2020 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kelwyne Posted June 1, 2020 Share Posted June 1, 2020 MId-40's. I echo what others have said in that its a moment of clarity/enhances my understanding of who I am and potentially providing new perspectives on some old scars. But overall, I am happy with where I am in life. Understanding myself better will only continue to enhance my life. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
argar Posted June 1, 2020 Share Posted June 1, 2020 Welcome to AVEN. Glad to have someone new in the 40's thread. This thread tends to be really slow though. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted June 1, 2020 Share Posted June 1, 2020 @Kelwyne, welcome to AVEN 🎂 🎂 I echo what @argarsays, more of us 40's post in the 50's thread than here 😋 😋 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kelwyne Posted June 1, 2020 Share Posted June 1, 2020 Sunny day here, loving sitting in the window working, chatting, while the sun shines in I should probably go for a walk since my steps are about 1000 so far. Getting into a bad habits, need to correct that! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bluedragonwings Posted June 5, 2020 Share Posted June 5, 2020 Just officially checking in. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AmberUK Posted June 6, 2020 Share Posted June 6, 2020 its oh so quiet! Just like the 30-plus-pure-chat on the ace date space discord 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kelwyne Posted June 7, 2020 Share Posted June 7, 2020 Shhhh.... it's nap time! 😛 I did absolutely NOTHTING today, and it feels good. 😄 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CaramelCoffeeCake Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 Hiya, heading to my late 30s but I feel much much......MUCH older. I'm definitely not young at heart and I like it : ) Hope I can hang out here? I've always naturally gravitated towards people older than me - friends, etc (not deliberately). Think I might be an imposter if I head to the 50s section, though I won't mind ha! 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AmberUK Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 HI! You won't struggle to keep up on the posts! 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 @Ellash, most people of all ages gravitate to the 50s thread Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CaramelCoffeeCake Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 5 minutes ago, Skycaptain said: @Ellash, most people of all ages gravitate to the 50s thread Alright. Off I go then, thanks 😊 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kelwyne Posted June 9, 2020 Share Posted June 9, 2020 Welcome @Ellash, you'll hit 40 in no time! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CaramelCoffeeCake Posted June 10, 2020 Share Posted June 10, 2020 Thank so much @Kelwyne Looking forward to it. 😅 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Trace the Time Slicer Posted June 14, 2020 Share Posted June 14, 2020 Hi everyone, I'm a true newbie here. I popped onto the part of the site with definitions something like a year ago when I was first figuring things out. I was 40 then, 41 now. Like many I've read I wish I'd known a lot more in my 20s. Things might have been different, but... then I wouldn't be who I am now. As I get more comfortable and learn more about my asexuality it's great to find places where we gather. Anyway... hi! 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
argar Posted June 14, 2020 Share Posted June 14, 2020 Welcome to AVEN. I hope you enjoy the site. We have a lot of stories of various experiences. I hope they generate some interesting questions. Have a beautiful day. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
OldNews Posted June 15, 2020 Share Posted June 15, 2020 Welcome, @Trace the Time Slicer! I also discovered my asexuality at 40 (I'm almost 45 now). I definitely could have used that knowledge earlier, but my journey of self-discovery has been very rewarding. You probably have lots of positive discovery still to come! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Moggie Posted June 17, 2020 Share Posted June 17, 2020 Yes, I feel like a little bit of a difference being 40 and out of the category of young adult now into adult lol. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kelwyne Posted June 21, 2020 Share Posted June 21, 2020 Welcome @Trace the Time Slicer! and @Moggie, I still love how each decade gives me a different perspective/opportunities to explore! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Clumsy Fairy Posted June 24, 2020 Share Posted June 24, 2020 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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