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  2. Alejandrogynous

    Nineties internet nostalgia, anyone?

    We didn't get internet at my house until '98, I think. I remember always trying to sneak onto the computer late at night when my mom was asleep, burying the tower in blankets to muffle the sound. Recently a customer in my store had the dial-up tone as their ringtone and I had my very own Vietnam flashback. As for nostalgia, I miss the anonymity there used to be with screennames and everything being easily compartmentalized. Nowadays Google owns everything so I'm paranoid to ever post anything personal because I know there's always a trail back to me somehow. Back in the day, I mostly used AIM, Xanga (because Myspace was too popular, ugh), and MUD RPGs games. Good times good times.
  3. Ardoise

    Nineties internet nostalgia, anyone?

    I was only alive for the last few months of the 1990s, so I can't contribute anything here.
  4. NordicNoir

    Word association game

  5. In my opinion, sex isn't inherently bad or good. It provides some of us with tremendous pleasure and comfort, but it can have horrific unintended consequences (for example, the AIDS epidemic) and be wielded as a weapon to harm others physically and emotionally. I also think that modern society puts too much pressure on people to have sexual experiences as soon as possible. Even people who aren't asexual may not be emotionally ready for sex until they're a bit older, or need a strong emotional connection to their partner. In addition, we should respect people whose personal preferences or religious/ethical beliefs preclude casual sex. Looking down on those who are cautious or restrained about sex is every bit as bad as slut-shaming.
  6. I am a fujoshi, I enjoy BL manga and m/m fan fiction, I have read some erotica too and I enjoy reading the sexy parts. I have tried real life porn, but its just so unrealistic I really can't get into it. Sometimes I am in the mood to watch (mostly read) hentai (because the stupid characters I like won't get together 😤), I have tried to imagine myself in situations like that but it just makes me uncomfortable, I also enjoy writing fanfiction but for some reason I suck at romance and I can't write smut. I am very romantically oriented when I read, but when I try to write it I´m like "Hikaru chan needs a friend not a boyfriend!"ლ(ಠ益ಠლ)so I am unable to write the romance that is usually required for me to enjoy a story. I am NOT interested in haviving sex in anyway, shape or for. People have cooties, you know? I love fictional scenarios though and if I feel aroused, I just read some smut and it goes away once I finish reading. Is that weird? I have stimulated myself sometimes but never outrigh masturbated, I do not want to touch any icky stuff, be it mine or not.
  7. Ace of J

    And now she knows...

    Sooooo I came out to my wife on Friday, and it's been a rollercoaster. I feel like she hated me for telling her. I think she might be (very) slowly coming around, but I know she was really hurt by the whole deal. It's been a rough few days, but I feel like we might be okay. Hopefully. I keep going between feeling relieved and feeling broken. She's a very sexual person, and I'm just... well I'm here. Here's a link to my first post regarding this. (I wasn't sure whether it was better to start a new post or add onto that one. This is my happy medium, I guess.)
  8. RoseGoesToYale

    Nineties internet nostalgia, anyone?

    Yeah, I think for the most part it sucked, but there is one thing I miss about pre-2005 internet... as long as you stuck to known websites, advertisements stayed in their place. In neat little boxes on the side or banners at the top, not obscuring any of the content you came to view. Back before Java had the capacity to support continuous autoplay video ads, mouse-move-wait-don't-go ads, and teasing content paywalls. Of course, if you went to strange sites, pop-up city.
  9. VanillaCakesForever

    An excited hello to all!

    Hello there! Be very very welcome and feel free to overthink (I love to hear people's overthinking process, it is always enlightening in a way or another). I've just joined aven too and I'd like to show you all my appreciation for this welcoming community. I've come across the term asexuality more than five years ago, at college. I didn't know what it meant so I googled it and discovered this place. Once I became familiar with the term(s) everything made sense although I'd never felt uncomfortable with my (a)sexuality. From this moment on it has been a process of reanalysis of my past and current feelings and dealing (or not!) with labels. Aven has been here all the time to enlighten terms and doubts. I'm pretty settled with my id now and I just want to give you all a huge cake party for being so friendly and open and honest to discuss such an important aspect of people's life. 🍰 Cake! 🍰
  10. Ardoise

    An excited hello to all!

    Welcome to AVEN!
  11. Snao Cone

    TV shows no one else seems to know

    So many people are mentioning Canadian shows because there are so many gems that only a fraction of the Canadian population bothered to watch. We are so immersed in American television that without laws requiring a certain amount of Canadian content, so many shows wouldn't have been made.
  12. daveb

    Nineties internet nostalgia, anyone?

    No nostalgia for me. I don't miss the slow load times, the poorly designed websites, the sheer gaudiness and all of the "teething" problems that tend to come with something new.
  13. aliciagold

    What video games are you playing?

    I tried slot games not so long ago and won $25 for the first time. It was so cool, I've never won before. Want to become a pto and win a jackpot one day.
  14. SydtheKid40


    Honestly, I feel like ace but Demi seems to fit my patterns more. I definitely feel like it fits I jut didn’t feel like I belonged or maybe I was making it up. Thank you ❤️
  15. I think it depends on how to interpret your position. I think its completely fine for you to think that casual sex is generally bad. Where it gets tricky is the extent to which its OK to tell others how you feel. (Not talking freedom of speech - IMHO anyone is free to say just about anything), but rather what is the preferred behavior. I tend to agree with you about not liking casual sex *myself* but arguments about what is "normal" can sound a lot like those made against homosexuality. I'm not sure, but I think "first sexual experience" can mean something very different these days. In the past, people, especially women, often would go into their first sexual experience with almost no knowledge and no experience. The wedding night was a dramatic (and maybe traumatic) event. Now though I think most people tend to more gradually engage in sexual behavior from kisses, to fondling ,oral sex etc, and I think most have access to a great range of information about sex. Other than a somewhat arbitrary definition of "virginity", I think things are much more gradual now. My feeling is that peoples personalities vary a lot. Some people are "wired" in a way that casual sex works for them, others are not. It would not work for me, but I don't have any problems with other people engaging if it works for them.
  16. AceMissBehaving


    It sounds possible you could be ace or demi, unfortunately it’s hard for someone outside of you to say. If you are unsure and don’t feel like any label so far fits, but you want to offer full disclosure when attempting to date etc, you can tell people you are currently questioning that you might be ace/demi. That way you have space to figure yourself out, and can still set the expectation that sex may not be in the cards for a good long while, or at all. Either way way it doesn’t make you broken, there are a whole lot of people who feel the same way you currently do.
  17. will123

    Asexual Men Musings

    No. I've only had one in my life and that was when I was a teen.
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  19. InquisitivePhilosopher

    Does anyone else like strip clubs?

    Ha! Yeah, that was.
  20. SydtheKid40


    I will! Thank you!
  21. Kuebiko


    brain let me enjoy things that other people like too so i don't feel left out or worried that i'll offend people :< 

  22. Elonat

    Never have I ever... (AVEN edition)

    I have, some lived, some died. NHIE been to Iceland
  23. Elonat

    corrupt the wish above.

    Granted, but you confuse them all the time. I wish I liked cooking.
  24. iam135

    Teen Corner

    That's really just a normal introvert thing. Hell, I'm a fairly extroverted introvert but I'll get tuckered out after a few nonstop hours of socializing. Introverts need time alone to recharge their batteries while extroverts need time with others to recharge. It's just how those personalities tend to work.
  25. Modern Jazz Hands

    The Banning Game!

    Banned for not realising that here in sunny Yorkshire the winter of our discontent has been made glorious summer by this sun of York.
  26. DebtheDemi

    Hello, I’m Demisexual

    I did say that it has been my experience, so it is correct for me thus far.
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