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I feel you. I am currently going though something that seems to be similar to what you are going through. You are not alone.😊
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I do not like cats. They are handy around as they keep certain things(mice, rats) at bay. Cats for me, are not the type of animal, i like. Dogs, give unconditional love, to there owners. Cats, just use there owners. There is a difference. But like we all know, we all have our own outlook, and see things differently. I can understand why alot like cats, but i do not. The difference, between cats and dogs, is that dogs give unconditional love to there owners, and cats, just use there owners.
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I don't think you can ever anticipate things like that, really. And as a whole, that sounds like a really unsupportive and unequal relationship; clearly they were too wrapped up in themselves. I'm very glad you got out. And I know you've probably heard it many times and I very much hope you believe it, but a reminder doesn't hurt... it wasn't your fault at all and you didn't deserve to be treated that way.
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I generally give goblins goofy technology. Orcs on the other hand are the fallen descendants of the noble race that served the dark lord. The are just waiting for a leader to restore them to their former greatness. For now though they just squabble among themselves. (In one game the PCs introduce them to communism...) Pity the poor ghouls, results of dreadful experiments to turn humans into more robust slaves. Now shuned, they hide in tunnels and graveyards, eating the dead as their only source of sustenance.
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Sometimes this is all you can hope for...
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so. I've been on a quest to find an existing gender that fits mine and literally can't find the definition... You know the whole "I feel like 89 precent cisgender and the rest is sorta fluid but not really and sometimes the precentage of the fluid part changes" thing? Please tell me I'm not alone...
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Welcome!! I am new myself and I hope you'll feel comfortable here. 😊
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Agreed, there is always some risk involved. The details (what exact risk, how it might manifest, how to best protect and extricate yourself) may vary with the communication medium but the risk is always there. I wonder why part of why online doesn’t seem like it would work for me is that I’ve always had/built a “two-person” life. I suppose if you aren’t - and don’t have plans to be - in a relationship when you choose your housing, furniture, living location, etc., you’re less likely to end up in situations where going it alone is really hard.
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I understand mental illness is difficult to handle. Personally, I don't avoid dating people with mental illness as long as I know what type of illness they have. I have known healthy individuals being stuck with mental illness all of a sudden, so I don't discriminate. Well, now I know better, and hopefully won't ever be in that situation. I guess, I was caught off guard and didn't know how to handle it.
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Anyone find out they are ASexual and are married?
uhtred replied to Foo Dog's topic in Older Asexuals
As the partner of someone who is near-asexual, my advice is: talk to them. They are probably as unhappy as you have been, and may be "blaming" themselves for your lack of interest. Try to find some way to make things work. Sex is vitally important to the happiness of sexual people. Lack of a good sex life is like living under a cloud all of the time. -
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Don't give up. There really are quite a lot of people who actively enjoy pleasing someone and who would be very happy to do something that gives you pleasure even if it isn't traditional sex. If there are a set of sexual things you can do for your partner (doesn't need to include penetration), you can probably find someone who would be a great partner. While "matching" is important, I think that if each wants to please the other, and enjoys doing so, there is usually a way.
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Why do some aces dress provocatively/in revealing clothes if they don't want that kind of attention?
uhtred replied to yester's topic in Questions about Asexuality
Some of this may have to do with what is meant by "provocative" clothing. I think if it as clothing that specifically / intentionally displays the body in a way designed to be sexually attractive. Very short shorts / skirts, low cut shirts that reveal a lot of cleavage. Various slits / cuts that provide a peek-a-boo effect. Other people may be thinking of more generally attractive clothing that enhances the general female shape but which isn't directly provocative. It may also be that some people who themselves don't feel sexual attraction also don't have a good idea of what sorts of things or overtly sexual as opposed to just nice-looking. Someones comment on there not being provocative male clothing is interesting. I can't really think of anything either. Your comment on lingerie makes sense to me. What I don't understand is why my wive wears very provocative lingerie around the house when she is not interested in sexual activity. I think she appreciates the attention she gets, and (as a near-asexual) doesn't recognize that its also extremely frustrating. Maybe its that she used to wear provocative clothing around the house when she did want sex - discovered my positive reaction to it, and now wants that reaction even when she doesn't want sex. -
^^This is the first thing I see when I finally decided to join the convo 😂
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@Chihiro I'm so sorry you had that experience. I'm no stranger to mental illness for sure, story of my life. It's really hard to live through firsthand of course, and often very hard to support someone you care about (family, partner, friend, whatever). The fact that your partner was messing around with multiple other people is... ugh. Anyway. Nothing much to say but I'm sorry, and yeah, all stories aren't good ones. As is the case with relationship stories in general, no matter how or where the connection begins.
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Is it OK to have a romantic partner AND a QPP?
Homer replied to 海斗 (Kai)'s topic in Asexual Relationships
So it's more an issue of semantics? I'd say that as long as everyone is on the same page and happy with what's going on, you're good. -
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That high school was the best. We had a GSA, the school defended the LGBT and ace/aro students from bullies with zero tolerance, decent dress codes and they treated staff and teachers with pretty good pay.
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You totally get me too. You too are demisexual, I suppose. I'm so glad I get to talk my issues out here. So glad!
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Foreasmuch as thine chivalric demeanor speaks most auspaciously of prolific deportment, happenstance dictates a banning is warranted for thee, Most Delightful Fellow.
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I wish mine was like that, it's not so strict now I'm in Sixth Form, but we still have to wear full uniform, no jeans for me ☹😂
