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The Asexual-Sexual Q&A Thread
ryn2 replied to biggreenmonkey's topic in For Sexual Partners, Friends and Allies
Maybe it’s towel size? I always used old bath sheets, which are about 6’x3’ -
How does one explain this?
OptimisticPessimist replied to PollyRo's topic in Questions about Asexuality
This does make sense. It’s ok to explore, it doesn’t make you any less Asexual. I would explain that your curious and that you have decided to see what it’s all about. This doesn’t mean you aren’t Ace. I’d direct them to some sources to help explain or to AVEN. -
The Asexual-Sexual Q&A Thread
skullery replied to biggreenmonkey's topic in For Sexual Partners, Friends and Allies
@Snao van der Cone... Ceebs and I were just talking about that. That bodies and experiences are not all that different, but we use drastically different language to refer to male and female experiences, as though that's biology based and not... keep people in their place... based. -
"Family is not who you are born with. Family is who you would die for."
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I guess that's fair, but do we really need a whole museum dedicated to them, as with one dedicated to penises or any other mundane body part?
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Banned for dreaming in infinity. Eternity has much better dreams.
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I don’t know how to explain this to people and I’m trying my best to. Hopefully you guys could help me out? I identify as a heteromantic asexual. I have always known this all my life, but this past year I started “coming out” to people. Most of my friends don’t understand it, since I recently been exploring what sex means to me. I’m pretty much a late bloomer so I never really had the chance to figure it out at a young age because I grew up in a catholic house hold. Personally, I always thought people had sex so they could procreate. It never occurred to me that people do it for fun. They do it so the good chemicals in their brain get fired and they can feel good about themselves. I still think that is true to this day. I’m trying to get more sexual experience just because I want to learn more about it and I’m curious. I try to tell my friends about this but they get confused. They would tell me how you could do something sexual with someone if you are asexual. I know sexual attraction and sexual behavior are two different things. When I would try to explain that, they would get even more confused. I just dont know how to explain it in a way where they could understand. my question is... how do I explain this in away where allies can understand it? Or does this not make any sense at all?? Idk i hope I’m not the only one who is like this 😅 THANK YOU SO MUCH for your input (if you chose to) and I hope you have a wonderful day 🖤
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Alphabetical "Better than sex" game
KuraTheChibiCrystalKitty replied to Jillianimal's topic in AVEN Arcade
Barely holding onto your convoluted feelings is better than sex. -
I think vaginas deserve more attention than they're getting, to be honest, as far as education and research and care.
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True. Though my bed is very comfortable already. The person below me gets crushes/squishes easily.
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Yum...ish. Rice dumplings?
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So many things we could do in this world with our time, our resources, our technology..... Sigh.
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Thanks, @Semisweet! And, yes, lots of treats, including Marionberry pie. 🥧
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Problem with the Primary vs. secondary sexual attraction model
Nowhere Girl replied to Dawning's topic in Asexual Musings and Rantings
Aroace (or, usually, aro ace) means someone who is both aromantic and asexual. Just that. But whether or not one experiences sexual attraction and/or desire has nothing to do with that. It's fully possible to be alloromantic, feel no sexual attraction and not desire sex. Not really. Viagra doesn't increase libido, it only works on a very specific physical part of arousal. Men can, for several reasons (such as simply age), feel aroused, desire sex, but be unable to achieve/sustain an erection. This is the situation in which viagra can be helpful. This is, also, exactly why drugs messing with women's desire, such as infamous filbanserin, cannot be compared to viagra. Viagra is not psychoactive, it only works on a particular physical, or even "mechanical" aspect of arousal. It's not a drug without its risks (it was particularly known for being risky for men with some cardiovascular problems - spoiler below for a little joke which may be annoying because it needs some explanation, it can't be translated 1:1) - compared to that, "female viagra" messes up much more in a woman's thoughtfeeling. A man taking viagra wants to have sex, but can't (at least can't have some forms of sex and it's anyway good to remember that sex doesn't have to be penetrative...). A woman typically doesn't want, she may want to want, but then again: is it her free wish, or rather sociocultural pressure about being expected to enjoy sex and about sexless relationships being pitiful and invalid... Sure, the same objections may be raised with regard to men: does a man truly want sex, or is he just afraid that by no longer having sex he would lose his "masculinity"? But anyway, the female non-equivalent of viagra is a much more serious drug, so pushing women to take it is also a more serious intrusion... -
The Asexual-Sexual Q&A Thread
Snao van der Cone replied to biggreenmonkey's topic in For Sexual Partners, Friends and Allies
Spoilering this since some people are already uncomfortable with junk talk... -
Maybe life is meaningless, but hobbies give it meaning so they aren't merely distractions. Humans exist to create more humans and that's it, so why not enjoy life and make something of it? I feel humans are also hardwired to produce things: stories, games, inventions, and anything else to help themselves and others. We're not a sedentary species content with just sitting around fucking and eating. This is also not taking into consideration that hobbies serve to distract us from our boring jobs or lives. We want to be adventerous and everything but can't, so live precariously through others or build things just for fun. We're stuck in a 9-to-5 but going out and fishing every weekend gives you a sense of accomplishment.
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Japan: US partner or vassal?
SithGirl replied to Alex Po's topic in Philosophy, Politics, and Science
You're blowing the bad incidents out of proportion, in my eyes. The Japanese in the region may not like the military personal much, I doubt many people like the young, bored miltary people around their area when they come from a completely different culture and don't feel the need to assimilate. Japanese people would also loudly object to you calling them a vassal under the US. -
Well as much as I love having a therapist, he is more or less there to tell me to not kill myself and how to balance my emotions. At our last meeting he forgot my name. But I might go to my school counselor who knows me and the person a lot better.
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I think mine is pretty self explanatory. 😉
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Problem with the Primary vs. secondary sexual attraction model
Lucinda replied to Dawning's topic in Asexual Musings and Rantings
QPR?? Lucinda -
Sexuality, Romantic Orientation, and Gender Correlation With ASD
Twisted Tempest replied to QuirkyGeek's topic in Census Forum
I'm Autistic. Sex repulsed ace, Demiromantic, Gender indifferent; Biologically I am a Male, but in terms of identity I don't identify as anything. -
Feelings of anger/sadness for luck of awareness
dentedcanoe replied to Chris_Kappa's topic in Older Asexuals
THIS. I feel like I wasted so much time having sex that was boring and unfulfilling. -
Asexual people's attitudes about possibly having sex
Twisted Tempest replied to Nowhere Girl's topic in Census Forum
1. Nopenopenopenopenopenope 2. Very very repulsed.
