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Banned for putting Ted on a diet.

Great, asexual men are being seen as the same as incels. 😒 Hey, they are not the fucking same!!! Asexual men are NOT dangerous! Like how can you even correlate the two? Do you even know the definition on an incel and an asexual? I hate the fucking assumption that asexuals are just celibate or in this case, involuntarily celibate. I think it’s pretty fucking clear that the words “lacking of sexual attraction” appear in the definition of asexual. How does that not make sense to you?! It’s the very thing that makes us NOT want to engage in sex with you in the FIRST PLACE!

A few years ago there was some evidence to suggest a correlation between autistic spectrum disorder and gender identity issues. However there was also anecdotal evidence to suggest that claiming to being trans was an "in" thing within online forums used by autistics. The medical profession just want to ensure that nobody starts trans treatments until the "patient" is absolutely certain. On another note, a judge who's transitioned is taking the government to court saying that the supreme court decision contravenes her human rights. Also, one of the supreme court judges is reported to have said that lesbians and homosexuals should either suppress their desires or convert to heterosexual. If this is true it would probably render the court decision as invalid due to the judge in question being biased

Hi - as an allo in an allo/ace relationship, I think it's wonderful that you're thinking carefully about the kind of commitment you can have with someone. I applaud your self-knowledge and courage to explore. I wish I could point you to a great resource, but as an allo, I'm sure I'm not the kind of person you're hoping to hear from on this issue That said, I think you've found a great space to get ideas, suggestions, etc. and hope you find some people who can support you as you navigate this. I also encourage you to be open and honest with whoever you may partner with to save you both pain down the road. Best of luck!

I’m tired of the Conservative Party. These people are evil. Like actually evil. There is no other word to describe it. You’re telling me you guys dedicated 50 fucking years to write out this project of yours because you hated others that much!! Controversial take but I hope the Conservative Party ends after all this. Even if it didn’t, I don’t see how anyone could trust these people ever again. Trump, his administration, red America. Everyone who aligned with Trump are all monsters. I’m tired of them rigging the system that constantly makes us take multiple steps back instead of forward. That let us have a minority rule instead of a majority! Are you fucking serious?! I mean, where would we be if they actually played fair? I don’t see how a party that constantly disagrees with progress can help us move forward. I know we can’t ever get rid of bigotry or anti-intellectualism, or greed, but we can at least minimize it in providing a better option. I’m just tired of their party. I’m disgusted by them. They are evil! Deporting a child with cancer! Like what the fuck is wrong with you?!?!?! And you take pleasure in that?! It’s fucking sickening! I am TIRED of their outdated beliefs! I am TIRED of their stubbornness! Everything they do is based on fear! I’ll say it again, I hope their whole party ends! They are a cancer and they only prove me right when I see them cut funding to cancer research, education, and science in general. And yes, I know that traditional conservative values were and are different than this far right regime, but these are still the same people who took 50 FUCKING YEARS OF PLANNING THIS! Are you kidding me?? I wasn’t here during the Reagan era, but the more I learn about history and the more people keep telling me, the more I notice all this kind of started with him. He planted the seeds and now look at where we are at. It’ll take a lifetime to fix what these people have done. (I mean the whole political system here sucks. America sucks. It was never great! Idk, this is a very emotional rant if you couldn’t tell. There was SO much we already needed to fix and I’m mad that Trump, Republicans, and red America refuse to help us through their actions and votes.)

It's really unfortunate that ndp lost so many seats. I think diversity is better.

Still isn't confirmed, but it looks to me like the liberals won't get a majority. Is the most likely next step a coalition (with the NDP?) or the Liberals try to form a minority government?

Yeah, I don't think too fondly of such tests either, sorry. They are like Tarot reading: They give you hints and if you follow them, they become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If not, then they have no value for your life

There were some weird questions. I don't particularly think it's that great xD. I was just curious but I know I'm bi, it said I'm 84% gay or bi. Not very specific anyway.

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Hi! I'm a 26 year old asexual Muslim woman from Hyderabad based in UAE. I'm currently being pressured to marry and I don't know how to explain to anyone that committing to a lifetime is not in the cards for me if I can't communicate that I'm a. asexual and possibly aromantic hence we may not have a "normal marriage", b. that I may not want kids. I'm trying so hard to look for spaces online that are safe and are for people like me to find a match but I've been hitting a wall everywhere. Any suggestions or recommendations?

Yeah it's going to be a long night of counting (and apparently advanced votes are the last to be counted or so I heard?), but the numbers seem to have stabilized a bit. Liberals are confirmed elected in 136 of the 163 seats they're leading in so far. It's been good I'm about wiped out from being sick this weekend and the anticipation of the results so I'm out. Hopefully, we wake up to confirmed good news.

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well, seems libs will win. But I don't know how much of that is projection

Banned for tying Helium balloons to the fruit before weighing it

@houhou99998 It's awesome that you found so much value in this test! Although I will say, I took it purely out of curiosity, and it seems to be biased toward confirming that whoever's taking the test is gay - I'm not sure it's possible to get a result that says you're straight or asexual. The test said I was likely bisexual, although I'm certain I'm asexual and oriented toward men somewhere along the grayromantic spectrum. Although, I do see the value in quizzes like this anyway, because taking them at all is a strong indication for many, and this quiz rather hilariously acknowledges that as it provides validation.

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@Vall You're definitely not the only one with questions like these! TBH as I've gone through a few more years of life and tried out having a relationship since I've discovered I was ace at 18 (I'm currently 26), I've realized that I need to hold the label loosely. I wasn't sure I'd ever enjoy a sexual relationship (I felt pretty indifferent about it before I was in one), but then I did. Then suddenly, am I not ace anymore? I don't think so, though every once in a while it's a thought that still enters my head. And if I'm not, can I still accept the idea of who I am, without the strong cognitive dissonance I experienced when I was questioning myself the first time around? I like to think that I've made peace with the idea that maybe my orientation could change, or that maybe as I have new experiences, it might not be exactly what I thought it was. Although, liking the thought of sex and romance alone - or even choosing to participate if that's what floats your boat (but like @Darn Dane said, don't do it if it's only to please someone else!) - doesn't change your ability to feel those sorts of attraction. Heck, the prefix cupio- in this space refers to just these sorts of people who want to experience romance and/or sex, but don't possess the attraction piece. Though mostly, I participate because my partner is definitely not ace and I trust him (he's overly cautious about respecting my boundaries) and I'm not repulsed (and I do actually enjoy the sensations). But - he tends to need to be the one to bring it up, and I apparently end up doing things that "frustrate" him without realizing it, because when most allosexual people do those things, apparently it turns them on. But like - I definitely enjoy physical closeness - I'll cuddle all day every day. I just don't associate cuddling with sex, really. The two can exist together, or they can exist separately. Kind of like [insert any 2 random non-related things here that at some point can coexist in the same space]. Like fishing poles and cars. You can have a fishing pole without a car, or a car without a fishing pole, or you can put your fishing pole in the car to take it to the lake. But this does not seem to be the case for my partner - the two seem intertwined for him.

Yo, aroace here- I know it's a thing for aces to have interest in sex for the emotional closeness, especially with a romantic partner. I don't know if there's a specific word? But I think that's a pretty common thought, to want some part in the social thing that is put around sex without being really into it from an attraction standpoint. Anyway, you don't have to do anything you don't want to, but if you do want to try things, just makes sure you are communicating well with a partner so that you are on the same page and comfortable the whole time.

It's perfectly possible to be romantic, yet at the same time be completely put off by the notion of having sex with someone. Lots of people think these two things have to go together; that if you're romantically "into" someone, you'd also be into having sex with them, but that's by no means set in stone. There's this thing called the Split Attraction Model, according to which there is a whole bunch of different kinds of attraction, which one may experience to (very) varying degrees. You may find someone visually pleasant, there's the good ol' friend you really like to hang out with, or the kind of person that's nice to hug/cuddle/give or receive a massage, just to mention a few beyond romantic and sexual attraction off the top of my head. You say about doing sexual things, Please never feel "obliged" to do stuff that wrenches your guts, just to e.g., keep a relationship going! We've seen lots of people in here, who did just that for years, thinking they were somehow "wrong" or "broken" for not enjoying it, and it seems to tear them down from the inside. If the hanky panky stuff isn't "your thing", then that's a perfectly valid boundary to set.

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