Phiffenella Posted June 28, 2015 Share Posted June 28, 2015 Not at all. I didn't mind sex when I was married and never said "no" but it bothered my husband that I never initiated it. I've been divorced for 34 years and have not minded being celibate at all. Link to post Share on other sites
foodsobber Posted June 28, 2015 Share Posted June 28, 2015 I could probably go the rest of my life without penetrative sex at least, but I feel from time to time I would like some other level of sexual activity, yes. I didn't really come to terms with what I would say is my demisexuality until after I had tried oral sex and various encounters of foreplay w different guys. I don't feel an innate desire to do anything more, but I'm open to it and accept that it may help a partner (I've never had an asexual partner) establish an emotional bond with it. I'm fine with or without if I'm in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Ace Posted June 28, 2015 Share Posted June 28, 2015 I'll take the million euros personally (which is worth quite a bit less now than a couple of years ago). I'm a virgin but have no desire to change that. However, it does remain a curiosity. Kind of like what it must be like to take meth or heroin. Link to post Share on other sites
GussieL58T Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 No, it would not bother me. Link to post Share on other sites
That asexual guy Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 It will not bother me Link to post Share on other sites
Mr.zee Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 The last and final time ended up with my nuts being poisoned I'm to kind for most people I realized it would take someone like me to put up with me playful but not sexual Link to post Share on other sites
Midnight Radio Posted June 30, 2015 Share Posted June 30, 2015 I would be perfectly fine with it. As someone else has said, I miss cuddling. Not even in a romantic sense, I have some friends who get cuddly when they're drunk ^_^ Link to post Share on other sites
Digitus1 Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 nope.It was sometimes OK when I was young and in love but I prefer listening to my favourite music... Link to post Share on other sites
jay williams Posted July 7, 2015 Share Posted July 7, 2015 The last and final time ended up with my nuts being poisoned I'm to kind for most people I realized it would take someone like me to put up with me playful but not sexual Your nuts were poisoned? What does that mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Techie Posted July 7, 2015 Share Posted July 7, 2015 The last and final time ended up with my nuts being poisoned I'm to kind for most people I realized it would take someone like me to put up with me playful but not sexual Your nuts were poisoned? What does that mean? I assumed VD. Link to post Share on other sites
Gonzo79 Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 Sex just isn't a part of my life, and if I never have it again I couldn't care less. I have had relationships end because of it, and am single. I think it is highly unlikely I will ever be in a relationship again because I think it is highly unlikely I will meet someone else who wants a sexless relationship. I am reasonably content being single but am 100% content without sex. What does everyone else think sexuals/asexuals about the thought of not having sex again, would it bother you? I've been in relationships and had sex many times before- trying to fit in and be normal, it's the done thing yadda yadda yadda... So no one can use the 'oh you don't know what you're missing' line on me. I can say that for the first time in my life (fairly long life, I'm no spring chicken) I am totally happy and I would not want sex or a relationship ever again...the thought that it might happen (you know while I'm asleep, or not looking or something then Aargh crap - I'm in a relationship and oh dammit I've had sex!! Noooo!!) bothers me much more than the thought of it not happening. Link to post Share on other sites
Autumn Season Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 I'm so busy avoiding sex, it would make me a huge hypocrite to desire it in secret. So no, I don't miss or want sex at all. Link to post Share on other sites
AwkwardGuy Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 It bothers me a LOT that I've never had an experience where I was completely accepted and loved in that way, despite my issues and dysfunctions. I feel like the sexual part of my being has never been accepted or loved unconditionally, and that is what I feel deprived of and deeply sad about. Link to post Share on other sites
UncommonNonsense Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 I've only had sex once in my life. This was long before I learned that there was a legitimate term for my lack of sex drive. And I only did so because I thought that it was expected and because the guy was really pushing me into it. I was only 17, was quite naive, and really did care deeply about the guy. I was, at that age, way too easy to coerce. I did not enjoy the experience, to say the very least. I would be thrilled if I never have to deal with that again. I'm 39 now. Looking back on that experience, it was coercion, maybe even rape, since I had said no a few times before and during it and he just kept going despite me trying to push him off. The relationship between us did not survive that episode. We never went out or hung out ever again. I moved away for university later that month without giving him my new address or phone number. Link to post Share on other sites
UncommonNonsense Posted July 18, 2015 Share Posted July 18, 2015 It bothers me a LOT that I've never had an experience where I was completely accepted and loved in that way, despite my issues and dysfunctions. I feel like the sexual part of my being has never been accepted or loved unconditionally, and that is what I feel deprived of and deeply sad about. I understand this.. though I don't have a 'sexual part of my being'. For me, it's that no one I've ever cared for in a romantic way has ever loved me enough in return to overlook my differences, disabilities, and the aspects of my appearance that do not conform to what is currently seen as 'ideal'. And while it doesn't usually hit me hard, if I fall back into one of the cyclic depressive episodes I am prone to, this is one of the things I can get very depressed about. Because it *is* kind of lonely, to feel that way. I'm ace and sex-repulsed, but I do have a romantic aspect. I'm also very loving and loyal, and like to do things that tell the other person that I care, even if I'm not very good at saying it. Link to post Share on other sites
Unlabeled Posted July 29, 2015 Share Posted July 29, 2015 Sex no. Masturbation and climax yes. :) For myself, think I'm more scientific when it comes to sex. I've had sex, I've repeated the experiment to confirm the result, and I'd much rather just masturbate. :) Link to post Share on other sites
Jea Posted July 29, 2015 Share Posted July 29, 2015 I'm an aromantic non libidoist ace and a virgin so I'm not looking for it. I think I would like to try kissing someone, just to know what it's like, not to have any kind of relationship with them. I'm a bit curious about it to be honest, but not enough to want to try it :p Link to post Share on other sites
HypocryteHater Posted July 29, 2015 Share Posted July 29, 2015 Physical sex, aka sex with meat people, hell no, never again! Online, aka cyber ... I don't actually miss it right now but can't rule it out completely. I don't think it would bother me if I never had that again, either. Link to post Share on other sites
Hypergraph Posted July 31, 2015 Share Posted July 31, 2015 Absolutely not. And if I could wave a magic wand and banish the fact of ever having had it in the first place, I would. Link to post Share on other sites
KendraPM Posted August 2, 2015 Share Posted August 2, 2015 Depends on your definition of sex, I guess. And whether or not I was in a relationship.... Sex meaning sexual intercouse? Nope, wouldn't bother me a bit. Besides maybe once every ten years or so, I'd prefer to not have sex in that way. Sex meaning sexual contact? If I'm in a relationship than yes. I like the emtional connection I feel with my partner through that and hate the idea of giving that up. If I'm to be single for the rest of my life, than nope, doesn't bother me at all. Link to post Share on other sites
oskietje Posted August 2, 2015 Share Posted August 2, 2015 I don't care either way. If not having sex negatively were to negatively affect romantic relationships, then obviously I'd need to rethink things. Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted August 2, 2015 Share Posted August 2, 2015 It would mean doing without something I've never wanted and never experienced, so on that side no problem. On the other hand my enquiring mind wonders if it really is the mystical life enhancing experience it's portrayed as. But it could just be a lot of hard work for nothing. Overall all then, no I won't miss it Link to post Share on other sites
Nidwin Posted August 7, 2015 Share Posted August 7, 2015 Nope. And I hope I'll never have to go through that, I feel nothing, stuff again. Tried it, done it multiple times. Job done. Link to post Share on other sites
Heckin Chonkosaurus Posted August 8, 2015 Share Posted August 8, 2015 I'm in my mid-40's now, never had sex, and never want to. Some of this comes from body image issues, but it's mainly because the thought of having sexual contact makes me feel a bit queasy. Link to post Share on other sites
Kasb Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Would not bother me to not have sex, 38 still a Virgin, happy single. Not someone who seeks out relationship, but if I did find a companion it wouldt be anything more than curling up on the sofa Or the odd hug... Link to post Share on other sites
MardiRob Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 Had sexual intercourse once. It happened on September 11, 2002 and I was 35 years and 248 days old. The next year, 40 year old virgin came out and I was.... relieved that nobody would find out I was a virgin when I turned 40 and try to get me laid. I don't ever have to have sex again. Link to post Share on other sites
skellyton Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 I really wouldn't mind never having penetrative sex. I'm not even sure I would be bothered with never experiencing non-penetrative sex with another person. It just seems like an intimacy I'm not comfortable sharing with another person. Link to post Share on other sites
asanaambitions Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 I think the fact that I really could, quite happily, never have sex again is what prompted my decision to explore if I might be asexual. Like some others, I do enjoy romantic companionship but overall I feel like I just can't connect to most people because I don't understand the obsession with sex. And I've had lots. At best it's kinda nice. At worst it's something horrible and soul crushing. Why so many want it constantly I have zero clue, things like books, food and conversation are always way more pleasureable experiences. Link to post Share on other sites
Runly Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 Don't need sex at all, but I love the idea of being in love. Hard to work that out. Link to post Share on other sites
dmm1969 Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 It wouldn't bother me to never have sex again. But that would probably ruin the relationship I am in, and I do like that. Link to post Share on other sites
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