Sister Mercurial Posted October 4, 2022 Share Posted October 4, 2022 This one speaks to the general confusion I have about feelings, incompatibility with society's expectations re relationships etc.. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jocasta Posted October 6, 2022 Share Posted October 6, 2022 Currently Bob Dylan's "It ain't me babe" is really resonating with me: Go away from my window Leave at your own chosen speed I’m not the one you want, babe I’m not the one you need [...] You say you're lookin' for someone Who'll pick you up each time you fall To gather flowers constantly And to come each time you call A lover for your life and nothing more But it ain't me, babe No, no, no, it ain't me, babe It ain't me you’re looking for, babe 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Exoplanetarian Posted January 13, 2023 Share Posted January 13, 2023 Oh yes, more music chatties : ) I love listening to all your tracks and discovering new things! I kind of generally prefer instrumental music because I can glean from it whatever I feel rather than being steered into a direction by lyrics but really enjoyed this album by IDKHOW And I've been listening to Jörgen van Rijen in an absolute loop - especially his version of the "Vater Unser" - made me choke up and cry in the office the first time I heard it. I got to hear some of these live last November and I'm still flying and smiling really stupidly when I remember it. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bloominoko Posted January 13, 2023 Share Posted January 13, 2023 Always liked the song Absentee by Jack Campbell I think the song be read as both as being sung from both an asexual perspective or aromantic perspective (or both!) 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Almost_something Posted January 13, 2023 Share Posted January 13, 2023 This one doesn't perfectly represents my experience, but "We'll never have sex" by Leith Ross it's one of the sweetest songs I've heard. Spoiler [Verse 1] Depollute me, pretty baby Suck the rot right out of my bloodstream Oh, dilute me, gentle angel Water down what I called being grateful [Chorus] Oh, you kissed me just to kiss me Not to take me home It was simple, it was sweetness It was good to know [Verse 2] You look perfect, you look different I don't wonder about your indifference If I said you could never touch me You'd come over and say I looked lovely [Chorus] Oh, you kissed me just to kiss me Not to make mе cry It was simple, you are sweetness Lеt's just sit a while [Verse 3] Depollute me, gentle angel And I'll feel the sickness less and less Come and kiss me, pretty baby Like we'll never have sex. Also, Kudos for "Idea of her" by Cavetown, for giving me a relevant insigh about aromanticism. Spoiler Can't get your name past my lips like a slur And I think I'm in love with the idea of her Lie in the morning aurora What time is it in California? Throwing up brains through my mouth Yeah, I'm thinking out loud, things we won't talk about Remember the time that we snuck in her house? They don't want me around But I can't get your name past my lips like a slur And I think I'm in love with the idea of her Cry like annoying cicada What time is it in California? GMT minus eight and I'm staying up late With your face in my head like a drone If I don't want anyone then why do I feel so alone? I'll reach out if you don't 'Cause I can't get your name past my lips like a slur And I think I'm in love with the idea of her Lie in the morning aurora What time is it in California? I can't get your name past my lips like a slur And I think I'm in love with the idea of her Cry like annoying cicada What time is it in California? 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Thujaplicata Posted January 14, 2023 Share Posted January 14, 2023 The song Jezebel by 10000 maniacs seems like an aroace story to me. It makes me think of stories I've heard here about people who were married before they figured out they were ace, and about how often we find ourselves thinking "is this romantic/sexual attraction? Lyrics: To think of my task is chilling. To know I was carefully building the mask I was wearing for two years, swearing I'd tear it off. I've sat in the dark explaining to myself that I'm straining too hard for feelings I ought to find easily. Called myself Jezebel. I don't believe. Before I say that the vows we made weigh like a stone in my heart. Family is family, don't let this tear us apart. You lie there, an innocent baby. I feel like the thief who is raiding your home, entering and breaking and taking in every room. I know your feelings are tender and that inside you the embers still glow. But I'm a shadow, I'm only a bed of blackened coal. Call myself Jezebel for wanting to leave. I'm not saying I'm replacing love for some other word to describe the sacred tie that bound me to you. I'm just saying we've mistaken one for thousands of words. And for that mistake, I've caused you such pain that I damn that word. I've no more ways to hide that I'm a desolate and empty, hollow place inside. I'm not saying I'm replacing love for some other word to describe the sacred tie that bound me to you. I'm not saying love's a plaything. No, it's a powerful word, inspired by strong desire to bind myself to you. How I wish that we never had tried to be man and his wife, to weave our lives into a blindfold over both our eyes. Also, You've Got a Glow by Vienna Teng and Tanya Shaffer. It's from a musical (sort of) and it's a duet between close friends - male and female - and neither of them want a romantic relationship though she thinks he does for a moment so there's some blatant "I'm not interested" followed by "no, no, that's not what I meant." I enjoy it. The "take me with your" followed by a very blunt and matter of fact "why?" Also, it's lovely, as all Vienna Teng's songs are. You've Got a Glow 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CrisisApple Posted January 16, 2023 Share Posted January 16, 2023 It's Only Sex by Car Seat Headrest, he just doesn't really get what the hype's all about and neither do i -- contains an explicit reference to asexuality!! Some excerpts: "OK, so I've been reading all the sex blogs And they all talk about how OK it is to be gay And straight and bisexual and asexual And have sex however you like..." "I want to hold you tight I want to feel your love physically I want to sleep with you But only in the literal sense" 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LobsterBisque Posted January 21, 2023 Share Posted January 21, 2023 Daft Punk's Within from Random Access Memories Lyrics: https://genius.com/Daft-punk-within-lyrics Audio: 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
marieatsplants Posted January 22, 2023 Share Posted January 22, 2023 Do You Wanna Do Nothing with Me? by Lawrence is gr8!! Spotify link bc I'm not a youtube person (sorry) & I also have an aro/ace playlist that has some others!! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
marieatsplants Posted January 22, 2023 Share Posted January 22, 2023 1 minute ago, marieatsplants said: Spotify link lol forgot this thread was active a while ago and now I've gone and linked it twice. still got some bops though Quote Link to post Share on other sites
kimbo21 Posted January 31, 2023 Share Posted January 31, 2023 Some of these songs aren't specifically about asexuality but they are about accepting where we are at or being happy with life and so I relate it to asexuality because sometimes i've felt sad and wished I was straight for a 'normal' life but then this music helps me to be happy, or more resilent, or more accepting Que Sera, Sera Doris Day When I was just a little girl I asked my mother what will I be? Will I be pretty? Will I be rich? Here's what she said to me Que sera, sera Whatever will be, will be The future's not ours to see Que sera, sera What will be, will be Life Is a Flower (Remastered) Ace of Base We live in a free world I whistle down the wind Carry on smiling And the world will smile with you Life is a flower So precious in your hand Carry on smiling And the world will smile with you Chumbawamba - Tubthumping I get knocked down But I get up again You're never gonna keep me down I get knocked down But I get up again You're never gonna keep me down Search for the Hero M People Sometimes the river flows but nothing breathes A train arrives but never leaves, it's a shame Oh, life like love that's walked out of the door Of being rich or being poor, such a shame But it's then, then that faith arrives To make your feelings alive And that's why, you should keep on aiming high Just seek yourself and you will shine You've got to search for the hero inside yourself Search for the secrets you hide Search for the hero inside yourself Until you find the key to your life In this life, long and hard though it may seem Live it as you'd live a dream, aim so high Just keep the flame of truth burning bright The missing treasure you must find Mmm-mmm-mmm Because you and only you alone Can build a bridge across the stream Weave your spell in life's rich tapestry Your passport to a feeling supreme December, 1963 (Oh, What a Night) Frankie Valli & The Four Seasons Have included this cos it's my favourite song Oh, what a night Late December, back in '63 What a very special time for me As I remember, what a night Oh, what a night You know, I didn't even know her name But I was never gonna be the same Quote Link to post Share on other sites
orangy Posted February 3, 2023 Share Posted February 3, 2023 !!!!!!!!Incapable by Róisín Murphy!!!!!!!! Could be interpreted as someone struggling with their relashionship or questioning but that chorus!! Aro/Ace anthem right there!!! I always sing it with the biggest grin on my face, so what if I'm incapable of that stuff? Still living my best life! : D [Verse 1]: It's gone cold, it's horrible weather It's gone stone cold and you know we should've got it together Well, it's nice, it's nice to be wanted But I want to want you too and never be frightened [Pre-Chorus]: Never had a broken heart Never seen me fall apart Haven't got a broken dream Not that into crazy scenes Don't know where I get the strength And I go out of my head I'm not evеn out of breath I could go forever, yеah [Chorus]: Never had a broken heart Am I incapable of love? Never seen me fall apart I must be incapable of love Never had a broken heart Yet I'm unavailable for love And I should try and play my part But I'm incapable [Verse 2]: I don't know what I'm doing Never had a broken heart I don't know if I can love in all honesty I don't know if that's what I'm feeling Never seen me fall apart When I've never had my heartbroken [Verse 3]: Well, I get that there's a sensation Never had a broken heart Though I don't know what it means You might never get to make a connection Never seen me fall apart If I don't learn how to feel But I'm incapable [Bridge]: Haven't got a broken heart You have got to play your part What will all the talking do? I just wanna be with you Haven't got a broken will I could never get my fill Haven't lost the energy Haven't lost this other me The song and the shorter version 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
KeithRax Posted February 6, 2023 Share Posted February 6, 2023 I love and feel this way towards a lot of Big Thief/Adrianne Lenker songs, but "Anything" is my favorite. Particularly the chorus. And I don't wanna talk about anything I don't wanna talk about anything I wanna kiss, kiss your eyes again Wanna witness your eyes looking I don't wanna talk about anyone I don't wanna talk about anyone I wanna sleep in your car while you're driving Lay on your lap whеn I'm crying Quote Link to post Share on other sites
GreyMars Posted February 9, 2023 Share Posted February 9, 2023 I'm aroace, and this song speaks more to the aro part, but "when" by dodie. It makes me think when I was a kid and the concept of love was something just so simple and beautiful. When By Dodie I think I've been telling lies 'Cause I've never been in love Everyone falls for the sunshine disguise Distracted by who they're thinking of I'd rather date an idea Something I'll never find Sure, I'll live in the moment But I'm never happy here I'm surrounded by greener looking time Am I the only one Wishing life away? Never caught up in the moment Busy begging the past to stay Memories painted with much brighter ink They tell me I loved, teach me how to think I'll take what I can get 'Cause I'm too damp for a spark Kissing sickly sweet guys 'Cause they say they like my eyes But I'd only ever see them in the dark I'm sick of faking diary entries Got to get it in my head I'll never be 16 again I'm waiting to live, and waiting to love Oh, it'll be over, and I'll still be asking when Am I the only one Wishing life away? Never caught up in the moment Busy begging the past to stay Memories painted with much brighter ink They tell me I loved, teach me how to think I'm sick of faking diary entries Got to get it in my head I'll never be sixteen again I'm waiting to live, still waiting to love Oh, it'll be over, and I'll still be asking when Oh, it'll be over, and I'll still be asking when 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 9, 2023 Share Posted February 9, 2023 Freak by Silverchair. It's about feeling like a freak because you're a young teen band that's touring the world and it's about accepting being different. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
minkewhale Posted February 9, 2023 Share Posted February 9, 2023 Me and Carmen by Christine Fellows. Deep friendship vibes "We'll live in houses side by each with one big garden" Cure for Me by Aurora. Aurora wrote it for the 2slgbtqia+ community, and I find it very comforting. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fantastic mx. foxglove Posted February 9, 2023 Share Posted February 9, 2023 Snow Cats by AFI. Specifically the verses have always spoke to my aro/ace soul, especially this one: Am I loud too much, and proud too much? You wanted me in this stance Or on my back, you said I am, I am Not red enough, in bed enough I've given up on romance I've nothing left for love, I am, I am here 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
C_37 Posted June 6, 2023 Share Posted June 6, 2023 My first post here! I found this via google while simply searching for songs about asexuality. I'm a bigtime KISS fan (which IS ironic considering the orientation haha) and there has always been one song that REALLY spoke to me "Saint and Sinner" (from the excellent "Creatures of the Night" album). There's a few lines in it, but one of them is THE line. "Next to you I feel I'm all alone, love's turned to stone Oh, yeah, cross my heart and hope to cry Well, I'm not gonna die --->without you it's aces high<---" & I like this one as well: "There's no right and there's no wrong and I'm moving on I'll go it alone because love's turned to stone" ~~ but right there it is! Long before the slang took hold, Gene Simmons is telling us all. ACE'S HIGH! ___ Meanwhile, there is a song on the (less impressive) "Hot in the Shade" album titled "Somewhere Between Heaven and Hell" where Gene seems to be dealing with an asexual partner. I have to look at this song and realize it's how many felt about me, I'M SURE: I'd have to be a mindreader, baby Just to know what's goin' on You don't need no crystal ball, sugar Can't you see my love is strong? Don't you know my temperature is startin' to rise up? And it's draggin' me under your spell I'm somewhere between heaven and hell Sometimes I think you want to, but I can never tell Somewhere between pleasure and pain I'm about to go insane, I'm so hungry, ooh, I'm so hungry You don't have to see no fortune teller To see I just can't take no more, no You been such a heartbreaker, baby You keep a lock on heaven's door Oh, ain't you gettin' tired of goin' through the motions And standin' in the shadow of love Somewhere between heaven and hell Sometimes I think you want to, but I can never tell Somewhere between the truth and a lie Sometimes I wonder why I can't hurt you, oh I can't hurt you Don't need your lovin', don't want nothin' Don't need your sympathy, don't need a friend I just want somethin' I can believe in, I can believe in Ain't you tired of goin' through the motions And hidin' in the shadow of love? I'm, I'm, I'm somewhere between heaven and hell Sometimes I think you want me, but I can never tell Somewhere between pleasure and pain I'm about to go insane, I'm so hungry I'm somewhere between love and hate Don't know just what I'm feelin', babe I think it's gettin' late Somewhere between the truth and a lie Sometimes I wonder why, I can't hurt you Oh (somewhere betwen) I can't hurt you (somewhere between) Somewhere between the truth and a lie Sometimes I wonder why, I can't hurt you Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Malcolm Posted June 13, 2023 Share Posted June 13, 2023 I came upon this song by chance, I was in a play and the sound team scored a fight scene with it. The headstrong exasperation, and the speakers' confidence in themselves, resonate with me. "The powers that be" derogate the speakers for upholding the very passion absent in their own "dried up and confiscated lives." This dialectic is very familiar, does it remind you of certain marginalized communities whose ideas are appropriated by the mainstream for profit? The uninhibited venting was cathartic, the video will steel your resolve for any endeavor. Please opine, I am a needy netizen. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Techie Posted June 13, 2023 Share Posted June 13, 2023 Boy that brings back memories of the early 1980's. Especially the cultural references in the video to the movie "Animal House". Dee Snider (Twisted Sister) is a native here on Long Island. Hard to believe he is 68 years old now. Then again, hard to believe I am about to turn 61 😵 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Malcolm Posted June 13, 2023 Share Posted June 13, 2023 10 minutes ago, Techie said: Boy that brings back memories of the early 1980's. Especially the cultural references in the video to the movie "Animal House". Dee Snider (Twisted Sister) is a native here on Long Island. Hard to believe he is 68 years old now. Then again, hard to believe I am about to turn 61 😵 Wow, that song is older than I thought, it's so cool that you live near Dee. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fuzzipueo Posted June 13, 2023 Share Posted June 13, 2023 2 hours ago, Malcolm said: I came upon this song by chance, I was in a play and the sound team scored a fight scene with it. The headstrong exasperation, and the speakers' confidence in themselves, resonate with me. "The powers that be" derogate the speakers for upholding the very passion absent in their own "dried up and confiscated lives." This dialectic is very familiar, does it remind you of certain marginalized communities whose ideas are appropriated by the mainstream for profit? The uninhibited venting was cathartic, the video will steel your resolve for any endeavor. Please opine, I am a needy netizen. This song a Gen-X staple. It's all about fighting the establishment and the ideas of the older generations with which we didn't really agree. "I carried a gun (in Vietnam, presumably) and you carry that-that guitar!" We're still fighting those old ideals. sigh. The great thing about good music is that A] Good music is good no matter how old* and B] It's open for interpretation for everyone. While I've never considered it to be Ace, per se, it's always been on my permanent playlist since it doesn't refer to romance or sex, but is all about being a rebel against the "establishment". *We're Not Gonna Take It came out in 1984 - when I was in high school LOL Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Abigail Rose Posted June 13, 2023 Share Posted June 13, 2023 Dee has some different feelings about trans-youths than I do but, he has always seemed to be an ally to LGBTQIA people. It's got to be difficult to have any opinion when you have a platform or celebrity status. He probably shouldn't have been booted from the pride event he was going to Marshall. The community would have been better off walking him through the facts that really face trans-youths. Then he may have been better equipped to deliver an informed opinion. I mean, he is a musician after all. Not a certified physician. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Techie Posted June 13, 2023 Share Posted June 13, 2023 3 hours ago, Malcolm said: Wow, that song is older than I thought, it's so cool that you live near Dee. Actually I live closer to Billy Joel. He is often seen around the nearby community of Oyster Bay. Has a home on Centre Island that juts into the bay. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
a little annihilation Posted June 13, 2023 Share Posted June 13, 2023 this song has been stuck in my head ever since this thread was made Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Janus the Fox Posted June 14, 2023 Share Posted June 14, 2023 It has a more punky antiestablishment, anti-capitalist, anti-authority vibe to me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Malcolm Posted June 14, 2023 Share Posted June 14, 2023 22 hours ago, fuzzipueo said: This song a Gen-X staple. It's all about fighting the establishment and the ideas of the older generations with which we didn't really agree. "I carried a gun (in Vietnam, presumably) and you carry that-that guitar!" We're still fighting those old ideals. sigh. The great thing about good music is that A] Good music is good no matter how old* and B] It's open for interpretation for everyone. While I've never considered it to be Ace, per se, it's always been on my permanent playlist since it doesn't refer to romance or sex, but is all about being a rebel against the "establishment". *We're Not Gonna Take It came out in 1984 - when I was in high school LOL The class of '84 was truly lucky, such ideal timing for a rebel anthem to drop. You, and the entire cohort, were at peak social dissent, being teenagers, and the song, being both new and anti-establishment, was optimally positioned for maximum teenager appeal. I want to time-travel to the eighties, not only for the song but for the fashion, I love loud colors and cat eyes. Do you have any really cool clothes from that time? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fuzzipueo Posted June 14, 2023 Share Posted June 14, 2023 2 hours ago, Malcolm said: The class of '84 was truly lucky, such ideal timing for a rebel anthem to drop. You, and the entire cohort, were at peak social dissent, being teenagers, and the song, being both new and anti-establishment, was optimally positioned for maximum teenager appeal. I want to time-travel to the eighties, not only for the song but for the fashion, I love loud colors and cat eyes. Do you have any really cool clothes from that time? I never wore makeup (part of my personal rebellion that I've never gotten over LOL). And it would have been glam makeup. Cat eyes, not so much, unless you were retro-cool with the cat-eye glasses - straight out of the 1950s. And no "cool" clothes. Just finding clothes that fit my overweight self, and that I actually liked, was a pain in the backside every year. Shoes in wide sizes, even in men's sizes, were hard to find. At most, I might use my sister's curling iron to curl my hair back from my face. I've never been what anyone would consider "fashionable". LOL Netflix's Stranger Things is probably the most realistic take on '80s clothing I've watched since I lived in the '80s. Tee shirts and jeans, skirts and dresses, down to Earth color schemes, longish hair on guys, curls and feather hair styles for anyone who wanted to wear it that way: This is more the way I dressed. The stuff you see in John Hughes' movies or Heathers, etc., are more the extreme of the fashions you see online. Also, go watch shows like Matlock, Magnum, PI, Simon & Simon, early Roseanne, CHiPs, and other shows of the time period and you'll see that fashion hasn't really changed that much, unless you have a lot of money and time to find the newest trends. I just started high school in '84. I graduated in '88 and wasn't much of a boat rocker. I was, however, very glad to get out of high school. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
C_37 Posted June 16, 2023 Share Posted June 16, 2023 Ok first things first, you have no idea how much this thing loves Twisted Sister. before I say more words: I fkn love this band. the first 3 albums and the rerecording of Stay Hungry all rock my mind and body SO much. Love love LOOOVE Bent Brother! The song "I am. I'm Me" is giving me chills just typing the song title! seriously. my skin is itchy and ALIVE right now. Twisted Sister is the kinda thing that makes being asexual hella easy. listening to them is sex for me LOL! Heard the bonus tracks on "You Can't Stop Rock n Roll"? they make a killer album even stronger! I want to say MORE but I will respect everyone's time. Now, with all of that out of the way: There is a subforum on here about asexuality in songs, I recommend this be moved there? *shrug* WE'RE GONNA MAKE IT! WE'RE GONNA REACH THE TOP! WE'RE GONNA MAKE IT! AND THEN! WE AINT EVER GONNA STOP! (my whole body is once again covered in goosebumps, this band, THIS BAND!!) 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Euna Posted June 20, 2023 Share Posted June 20, 2023 Quote I feel like I'm at standstill waiting for you to tell me I'm ok If time heals, tell me why do I kill myself Tryna show you I'm not a mistake I've got qualities that I'm not proud of I've made promises that I walked out on I've had days I feel I don't deserve love So think what you think, just don't call me a Just don't call me a Just don't call me a Mistake 'cause I'm not one Misplaced but I found a Lot of resentment Causes a mess when you let it get to the place of No confidence Struggle with it, that's obvious But not enough to make me second guess If I'd die for the ones I love So don't you get confused Thinking if you Bring me down I'ma just choose To let myself get used I don't live like that I feel trapped I might lash out I gotta watch my back Cross my path, especially with ill intent You'll regret you ever took that task If and when this thing could all go bad Don't you act like no one warned you yet 'cause I feel like I'm at standstill waiting for you to tell me I'm ok If time heals, tell me why do I kill myself Tryna show you I'm not a mistake I've got qualities that I'm not proud of I've made promises that I walked out on I've had days I feel I don't deserve love So think what you think, just don't call me a Mistake 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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