kaysir Posted July 13, 2017 Share Posted July 13, 2017 On 7/3/2017 at 9:51 AM, Alexandmb said: What do you guys think about fetishes? I mean having a particular "devotion" for an specific part of the body (example: Hands, feet, booty, etc) Do you have one? I don't have a fetish, but I've always been partial to the abdomen. A bump beneath someone's stomach is so charming to me. That area is also nice to nestle into, haha. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
kaysir Posted July 13, 2017 Share Posted July 13, 2017 On 7/10/2017 at 5:08 PM, ChillaKilla said: @swirl_of_blue Hide contents I never realized how much I liked marking until I was putting concealer on my sub's neck I might be a little more exhibitionist than previously aware of... I'm a HUGE fan of showing my risky conversations to anybody who wants to know (given I trust them) Ayy hook a homie up on insta 😂 I love hearing people's stories, everyone always apologizes for spilling their business to me or venting/gossiping or whatever when we talk, but 1. I LIVE for knowing about everyone's lives and 2. If you're worried about me telling, don't because I will forget it soon anyway and you can tell me all over again, lol. I'm not an exhibitionist myself but I love the idea of giving subs tasks to do in public, or having them serve me in little ways when there are people around. I've yet to do anything outright sexual like that, but it's fun to think about. Good stuff! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Silk Bones Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 I honestly have no interest in BDSM, but a huge respect to the community! However, I decided to still try to learn more about it, as the whole concept behind it is quite interesting to me, and figured there may even be some side to me I never knew about. So I decided to give the test a shot, and apparently these are my results. == Results from bdsmtest.org == 99% Vanilla 59% Switch 54% Rigger 51% Owner 48% Experimentalist 42% Daddy/Mommy 30% Master/Mistress 30% Dominant 11% Ageplayer 6% Primal (Hunter) 1% Exhibitionist 1% Voyeur 0% Degrader 0% Sadist 0% Non-monogamist 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelykat Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 ...Sorry! I don't know how to "spoiler" so I just deleted it. I'm sorry if I made anyone uncomfortable! That was not my goal at all! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 ^ this should probably be spoilered. :x Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 2 hours ago, Lovelykat said: ...Sorry! I don't know how to "spoiler" so I just deleted it. I'm sorry if I made anyone uncomfortable! That was not my goal at all! For spoilers, you type: the word spoiler inside [ ] brackets (no spaces between bracket and the word) Content and /spoiler inside [ ] brackets (no space between the /spoiler and brackets) There is also a button to insert spoilers above the text box, it looks like an eye. You can also contact a moderator to do it for you, if you can't figure it out Quote Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 15 hours ago, Lovelykat said: ...Sorry! I don't know how to "spoiler" so I just deleted it. I'm sorry if I made anyone uncomfortable! That was not my goal at all! don't be sorry, it's okay :3 you can now post it back, just spoilered. :3 I'm pretty sure a moderator could edit your posts for you if you had a problem with doing it :3 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Puck Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 Yes! As @alpha decay said, us mods are happy to help if you ask us to Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ChillaKilla Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 We match now (I covered his face because I didn't ask him if I could post it- my wrist on the right obviously ) 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
kaysir Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 21 minutes ago, ChillaKilla said: We match now Hide contents (I covered his face because I didn't ask him if I could post it- my wrist on the right obviously ) Cute! Can I ask where you got each piece? 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ChillaKilla Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 6 minutes ago, kanihachi said: Cute! Can I ask where you got each piece? The're both from hot topic :') so edgy... 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tiger-Lily Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 I'm questioning myself... I used to think I was gay but I've never been into sex. But pain and stuff feels really nice?? I don't know if I'm Asexual but this thread has been an interesting read, and given me a lot to think about. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WaffleGrace Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 I have a relationship related question for anyone who follows this thread. I haven't had that many relationships, and none since I realized there were parts of kink/ bdsm that I really liked, at least theoretically. I'm in the beginning stages of a new romantic relationship, and I'm wondering when to approach the topic of sex and kink. I know it's really dependent on the relationship, but how soon should you let a potential partner know that you're Demi/ asexual and kinky? I've been talking to a guy that I think I could have a relationship with, and I'm probably going to tell him pretty soon that I'm some kind of ace. I'm not really "out" but it's not exactly a secret either. Should I rip the bandaid off all at once, and start the kink talk at the same time, so that if anything I say is a hard stop for him, neither of us are heartbroken about it? Or should I see how he reacts to the ace-card first? Are there relationship/ trust milestones I should look for first? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sherlocks Posted August 12, 2017 Share Posted August 12, 2017 People who dress like Fictional characters and pull it off well are my fetish. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mychemicalqpr Posted August 13, 2017 Share Posted August 13, 2017 On 8/7/2017 at 1:49 PM, WaffleGrace said: I have a relationship related question for anyone who follows this thread. I haven't had that many relationships, and none since I realized there were parts of kink/ bdsm that I really liked, at least theoretically. I'm in the beginning stages of a new romantic relationship, and I'm wondering when to approach the topic of sex and kink. I know it's really dependent on the relationship, but how soon should you let a potential partner know that you're Demi/ asexual and kinky? I've been talking to a guy that I think I could have a relationship with, and I'm probably going to tell him pretty soon that I'm some kind of ace. I'm not really "out" but it's not exactly a secret either. Should I rip the bandaid off all at once, and start the kink talk at the same time, so that if anything I say is a hard stop for him, neither of us are heartbroken about it? Or should I see how he reacts to the ace-card first? Are there relationship/ trust milestones I should look for first? While some disagree, I recommend informing a potential partner that you're ace spec upfront and explaining what that means you are or are not willing to do. I believe it's ethical that you should at least do so before agreeing to be committed or serious. If they say no to you because of your orientation, at least it happened sooner rather than later, and you can look for someone else. As for the kink, it depends on how important it is to you. If it's something that's going to make or break the deal for you, you don't want to spend time and feelings on something that might not work out. Really, anything that could make or break a relationship is best brought up at the start in my opinion. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WaffleGrace Posted August 15, 2017 Share Posted August 15, 2017 Thank you @SorcerousJigglypuff! It turned out to be a non-issue. I stumbled across him on another site where we're both out for different things. He is shockingly cool with my version of being ace, and apparently our dynamics match up pretty well too (which was the part I was worried about. My public persona is more take charge than my private, so I wanted to make sure that the difference wouldn't be a problem on down the line). I'm kind of suspicious of how well it's going, actually. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
KyleTheFox Posted August 18, 2017 Share Posted August 18, 2017 i have a fetish, ive been roleplaying it for about 4 years online with friends who share the same fetish, its hard to tell people about it, because its so embarrassing!! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jackninja5 Posted August 20, 2017 Share Posted August 20, 2017 Personally I never understood the appeal to BDSM if I'm honest. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LeDeer Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 Haven't thought or fantasized about this stuff for a while, but I have a thing for puppy play. Not in a "extreme" way, like wearing a dog suit publicly or acting like a pet 24/7 at someone's house, but I kinda enjoy playing around, following orders and receiving treats when behaving good. And I love collars! If I had (a discreet and not-too-showy) one, I wouldn't mind wearing it publicly when hanging out with friends just for fun. Aside that, I think my BDSM Test Results taken 2 months ago reassume everything enough well eh == Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Switch 99% Brat 77% Masochist 75% Primal (Prey) 75% Pet 73% Rope bunny 71% Degradee 63% Submissive 59% Degrader 58% Sadist 57% Primal (Hunter) 56% Dominant 55% Experimentalist 48% Rigger 48% Slave 42% Daddy/Mommy 33% Owner 23% Vanilla 17% Non-monogamist 1% Master/Mistress 1% Exhibitionist 1% Voyeur 1% Ageplayer 0% Boy/Girl Quote Link to post Share on other sites
viennaguy94 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 I have a question for anyone who is kinky and ace. Would you say that you belong more to the ace community than to the kink community, or vice versa? Would you say you belong fully to both of them, or not really to neither? I am asking this because I feel like none of those groups would fully understand me. If I would date an ace, my kink probably wouldn't be accepted and a kinky person wouldn't accept the absence of sex. So wherever I go, full compatibility is very unlikely. Should I try dating an allosexual right away and hope for the best? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 54 minutes ago, viennaguy94 said: I have a question for anyone who is kinky and ace. Would you say that you belong more to the ace community than to the kink community, or vice versa? Would you say you belong fully to both of them, or not really to neither? I am asking this because I feel like none of those groups would fully understand me. If I would date an ace, my kink probably wouldn't be accepted and a kinky person wouldn't accept the absence of sex. So wherever I go, full compatibility is very unlikely. Should I try dating an allosexual right away and hope for the best? Look for someone compatible, on both levels, forget the orientation, imo. I am with someone from AVEN and they have certain things they like and we both accept each other. And neither of us really chose a label to ID with. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 1 hour ago, viennaguy94 said: I have a question for anyone who is kinky and ace. Would you say that you belong more to the ace community than to the kink community, or vice versa? Would you say you belong fully to both of them, or not really to neither? I am asking this because I feel like none of those groups would fully understand me. If I would date an ace, my kink probably wouldn't be accepted and a kinky person wouldn't accept the absence of sex. So wherever I go, full compatibility is very unlikely. Should I try dating an allosexual right away and hope for the best? A friend of mine is fully asexual (no interest in any kind of sex) but he's extremely kinky. I've met quite a few aces like him here. You're better off making friends among kinky aces and hey something more may develop as has happened for quite a few asexuals in the past (on AVEN and in other places where asexuals congregate) ..I think that's better than just defaulting to dating sexuals if you know you're ace, in my opinion anyway. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
KyleTheFox Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 On 2017年8月22日 at 6:59 PM, viennaguy94 said: I have a question for anyone who is kinky and ace. Would you say that you belong more to the ace community than to the kink community, or vice versa? Would you say you belong fully to both of them, or not really to neither? I am asking this because I feel like none of those groups would fully understand me. If I would date an ace, my kink probably wouldn't be accepted and a kinky person wouldn't accept the absence of sex. So wherever I go, full compatibility is very unlikely. Should I try dating an allosexual right away and hope for the best? im fully asexual, but im very kinky, and i definitely know how you feel, people always want sex after that stuff and i hate it! so many people are like that, but im sure you'll find that one who isn't, your best bet to find those people would probably be to go to a site focused on that special kink, thats how i met most of my rp partners, hope that helped >w< Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SolitarySocialite Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 I am Asexual. I like KINKY stuff. I joined a website for kinky people. I want to meet people who enjoy "everything but". So what does that mean? That means, I may want to hug you. Give you a kiss. Put your hand on my breast. Grab your ass. Tie you up. While laying on top of you. Dressed in a lace catsuit. Does anyone else have these fantasies? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SolitarySocialite Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 On 8/22/2017 at 8:59 PM, FictoVore. said: A friend of mine is fully asexual (no interest in any kind of sex) but he's extremely kinky. I've met quite a few aces like him here. You're better off making friends among kinky aces and hey something more may develop as has happened for quite a few asexuals in the past (on AVEN and in other places where asexuals congregate) ..I think that's better than just defaulting to dating sexuals if you know you're ace, in my opinion anyway. I know how your friend feels. Every situation and person is different. Wherever you meet a potential partner, the best practice is to be honest. Hi! I am an asexual kinkster. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Naali Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 I'm going to direct you to this lovely board: http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/105805-kink-bdsm-and-cake/ . Anyway, yes, yes I do; I've always been fascinated by S&M, sensation play, and bondage, but only recently have I looked into it. I'm too much of an anti-person right now to actually go meet people/munches (that and my city puts too much emphasis on sex in the first place so that puts me off), but I would love to one day and actually learn more hands on. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
viennaguy94 Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 45 minutes ago, Naali said: Anyway, yes, yes I do; I've always been fascinated by S&M, sensation play, and bondage, but only recently have I looked into it. I'm too much of an anti-person right now to actually go meet people/munches (that and my city puts too much emphasis on sex in the first place so that puts me off), but I would love to one day and actually learn more hands on. Same here! And I have thought about joining a BDSM meeting or something like that a few times but I am also put off by the fact that it is probably very "sexual". Same with Fetlife... it is nice that there is a site where people share my interests, but in a way it's too much for me. People there want to "play" but I'd prefer a good relationship as a basis for this stuff. Anyone feels the same? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AsexualAnomaly Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 Heyy, my new home thread.~ Love the Kinky Ace community. I think I still have my Test somewhere on here. Been to a few Munches, it's fun for sure, everyone I'v met in my local community is really supportive, understanding and is seemingly always willing to learn more about Aces. It's a pretty cool feeling. I even found a rigging mentor though that was about 2 years ago haha. Yup posted below. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kelpie Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 God I have to get this out here - I sometimes write or read stuff with sex in it and it's just so boring and when I write it I need to think about it really hard because I only write it to explore their relationship and don't particularly care about where goes what... but now I resorted to writing about my kink and ohmyfuckinggod this is such a religious experience and now I think I get it why people do this.. does anyone else feels like this or engages with their kink that way? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
viennaguy94 Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 4 hours ago, Kelpie said: God I have to get this out here - I sometimes write or read stuff with sex in it and it's just so boring and when I write it I need to think about it really hard because I only write it to explore their relationship and don't particularly care about where goes what... but now I resorted to writing about my kink and ohmyfuckinggod this is such a religious experience and now I think I get it why people do this.. does anyone else feels like this or engages with their kink that way? Well for me it's not a "religious" experience, but it's veeery arousing to read kinky stories whereas reading about sex ... = meh Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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