Is a celibate same-sex relationship possible?

[GingerFloof26]

Hey all,

Gingerfloof here. Some of you may know my friend Isandara. I'm the bisexual friend she may have ranted about on the forums here...Only I've turned full-out lesbian.

Not to say that I'm "doing the ladies," as some like to put it. I'm LDS, or Mormon. And my religion is very specific about homosexual relationships- as in DON'T HAVE THEM. I respect that and want to uphold it, because I believe that this principle is true. However, I have been feeling a bit lonely as of late, and when I look back at the almost romantic friendship Isandara and I had, I crave having something like that again.

So what I'm wondering is if it's possible for an female asexual to be in a committed relationship with a lesbian Mormon girl? No hanky-panky involved or even desired. Moreover, are any of you lovely ladies living in Utah? I feel so alone out here, like there's no LGBTQ community in the Happy Valley...

Warmest regards,

The Floof

[~Rikki~]

Anyone, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, etc, can be in a relationship without sex.

[Someone Else]

Sometimes it's just about the romance. ;)

[Guest]

It can be very hard, because your girlfriend is still sexual person and has her own needs. You have to talk to her about this really seariously.BTW I wish you good luck.

[TeaMistress]

You could totally make a same-sex celibate relationship work. It's no different to having a hetero celibate relationship, and as has been stated, sometimes it's all about the feelings :). Sex is not needed for a healthy relationship.

Also, Gingerfloof... Love it. Reminds me of Mark Gatiss.

[sighless]

i don't know if we classify as a "same sex" relationship considering I'm non-binary and he's binary, but my allosexual boyfriend and i are queer and he's said before that if i needed a nonsexual relationship with him then he'd be down w that. and I've had a previous relationship w a guy who was also allosexual and it never got sexual. i have a queerplatonic partner if that counts and we're not sexual at all -- obviously, hence "platonic."

so yeah, it can work. :)

[Guest]

I'm confused. In what way is a monogamous romantic relationship with another woman endorsed by the LDS? Isn't marriage and children one of your duties, and isn't a romantic relationship with a same sex partner still against the church, regardless of sexual activity?