Kelly Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 http://www.montereyherald.com/lifestyle/ci_24103842/dear-abby-condolences-better-late-than-never Abigail Van Buren Dear Abby POSTED: 09/16/2013 12:08:24 AM PDT Dear Abby: I am an asexual college student with a question about dating. When should I tell someone that I'm asexual? I'm not really "out" — mostly because I don't feel the need to talk about it — but I'm not ashamed of it, either. What do you think? — New England "ACE" Dear Ace: I see no reason to announce it at a first meeting because it's nobody's business. The time to tell someone you are asexual is after you have gotten to know the person well enough to be comfortable sharing information. In case you don't realize it, you are not the only asexual person out there. Because there's so much emphasis on sex and sexual orientation in our society, it might help you to know that an organization exists which enables asexuals to connect with each other. It's the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), and you can find it on the Internet at asexuality.org. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Tanwen Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 Progress :D Thanks Kelly Link to post Share on other sites
Cakey Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 Beautiful Kelly, just like you my dear.... :) Link to post Share on other sites
Slizzy26 Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 http://www.montereyherald.com/lifestyle/ci_24103842/dear-abby-condolences-better-late-than-never Abigail Van Buren Dear Abby POSTED: 09/16/2013 12:08:24 AM PDT Dear Abby: I am an asexual college student with a question about dating. When should I tell someone that I'm asexual? I'm not really "out" — mostly because I don't feel the need to talk about it — but I'm not ashamed of it, either. What do you think? — New England "ACE" Dear Ace: I see no reason to announce it at a first meeting because it's nobody's business. The time to tell someone you are asexual is after you have gotten to know the person well enough to be comfortable sharing information. In case you don't realize it, you are not the only asexual person out there. Because there's so much emphasis on sex and sexual orientation in our society, it might help you to know that an organization exists which enables asexuals to connect with each other. It's the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), and you can find it on the Internet at asexuality.org. Thanks for pointing this out! I really liked the advice she gave in the column - not judgmental, accepting and sensitive. I thought it was great that she mentioned that sexual orientation is "nobody's business" and then referred the person to AVEN so that they could get even more answers and information. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Captain Darkhorse Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 I've always liked Dear Abby...:) Link to post Share on other sites
Vara Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 Wow that's awesome. Neutral, helpful, and I agree with others who felt it was respectful. Link to post Share on other sites
Robin L Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 Not the first time, hopefully not the last time. :) Link to post Share on other sites
sound_the_bugle Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 Not the first time, hopefully not the last time. :) yeah, I was going to point out that Dear Abby has mentioned asexuality before. I posted a link here somewhere about other times she's done so. It's very rare that she gives judgmental advice. About the only negative viewpoint she seems to have that she's willing to express is on polyamory - she's not a fan. But other than that, she's very, very good at all of this. Link to post Share on other sites
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