spiritis Posted January 25, 2013 Share Posted January 25, 2013 Okay so here it goes. it's my first post and i Still feel a little Awkward. maybe its a coming out maybe its just clearing The air. i'm married, happily married with a child i love and cherrish. I think im a gray because i rarely feel a Sexual attraction. Mainly my pull is towards physical contact like cuddling, kissing, touching but not really sex. i can be aroused by porn and masturbate which seems okay to me. the area of sex seems A little awkward To me. before my wife became pregnant she confessed To me that before she met me She never Felt any physical attraction to anyone and thought something was wrong With Her. I was her first everything from date to kissing to birds And bees. i felt bad because i was 19 and already experienced most of that but looking back I never initiated sex with anyone that I been with; i would kiss, Touch, cuddle and was completely fine with that, it was always someone else's idea for sex. with my wife we took our time, content with kissing, touching, cuddling for months. We did feel that sexual desire eventually and Acted on it. her drive after a while was overwhelming and i found myself retreating a lot emotionally, usually giving in because i still Liked the touching and sensuality that would come with it. she then became pregnant in 2009 with our son. that seemed to change her drive. at first I was fine with it as it returned our relationship to the familiar sensual, kissing and cuddling That was fine For both of us. after she gave birth she seemed to withdraw, anything more than cuddling was repulsive to her. after a couple of years it got a little awkward Again, she is Either only interested in cuddling or sex but not the kissing or touching. it got me thinking about my sexuality and i kinda just stumbled upon this site. my roommate who lives with us is definitely an asexual which is fine but im trying To figure out what i am. I mainly like kissing, cuddling, touching but uncomfortable with sex but feel occasional drives with only my wife. Does that make me a gray? Just trying To figure things out Link to post Share on other sites
Silmaril Posted January 25, 2013 Share Posted January 25, 2013 Definitely grey IMHO, since you feel sexual attraction only to your wife and only occasionally. But if you want to get really technical with labels and whatnot, you may want to read up on demisexuality.... Link to post Share on other sites
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