I am so annoyed by sexual society today

[The Slimeinator]

I now love this topic.

I abhor hypersexuals. Whenever I see some underdressed "fashion-model" girl, I walk up to her and say "Put some decent clothes on and get a few morals while you're at it!"

Sexual commercials are bad and poison the minds of children, making them BECOME hypersexuals. I'm just lucky I'm a celibate and asexual, eh? Most people I know look down on asexuality. :( It's sad, really. They need a more open mind. And for the girls, a longer skirt.

[Guest sophie b.]

I just read a book called "The Lolita Effect: Media Sexualization of Young Girls and What We Can Do About It" written by Meenakshi Gigi Durham. 2008.

The pressure to be successful sexual objects on young girls and increasingly on young boys is insane. I get mad too when every damn thing has to be so sexual to some folks, but also--- I feel like some young girls and boys don't have a snowball's chance in hell of being able to determine their own prisms of life when it comes to sexuality. And sometimes when I'm talking to young adults--- I don't know if they came up with the overemphasis on sex themselves or if they were one of those kids. But I hate pity so much, I feel absolutely dreadful when I start to move into it myself--- So whatever. I stay home a lot.

[Shadow girl]

Yeah stupid TV ads

[swamped]

Don't even get me started on this.

Well, too late.

It's SO annoying that everywhere I go there has to be sex. Everywhere.

School's a good example.

At lunch I sit with 5 other girls, and 2 of them are like sex maniacs. Dammit, they won't stop talking about it. One of them got pregnant over the summer from doing it too much and the other describes every sexual experience she's had with her ugly boyfriend (who I hate) in detail. EVERY SINGLE DAY they talk about SEX. It got to the point where I couldn't take it anymore that I've started not to go to lunch anymore. They even made fun of me for being a virgin.

Also, there's this guy I used to be friends with, and I mean we still talk but that doesn't mean I still like him as a friend. I hate him. All he can talk about is porn. And he watches the very messed up kind. Everytime I see him, he's all "Guess what I saw yesterday? This one girl had this giant dildo........" and I don't want to remember the next. He's so desperate it annoys the hell outta me.

[Shadow girl]

Don't even get me started on this.

Well, too late.

It's SO annoying that everywhere I go there has to be sex. Everywhere.

School's a good example.

At lunch I sit with 5 other girls, and 2 of them are like sex maniacs. Dammit, they won't stop talking about it. One of them got pregnant over the summer from doing it too much and the other describes every sexual experience she's had with her ugly boyfriend (who I hate) in detail. EVERY SINGLE DAY they talk about SEX. It got to the point where I couldn't take it anymore that I've started not to go to lunch anymore. They even made fun of me for being a virgin.

Also, there's this guy I used to be friends with, and I mean we still talk but that doesn't mean I still like him as a friend. I hate him. All he can talk about is porn. And he watches the very messed up kind. Everytime I see him, he's all "Guess what I saw yesterday? This one girl had this giant dildo........" and I don't want to remember the next. He's so desperate it annoys the hell outta me.

I wouldn't want to be around them either so I don't blame you. Heck next time ask them why they aren't just doing and here talkin about it.

Sound like real life Glen Quagmires

[Maxx1128]

Now I'm just grateful that my friends aren't porn obsessed. Well, there are some people in my school that are, but thankfully I don't hang with them. There was a time in my gym, where these two guys were talking about how hot this chick fight was, since they kept grabbing each others asses or something when they were fighting. I didn't know about asexuality back then, but it still annoyed me.

I just have to deal with tons of stupid girls who use sex to mess with guys, and that, in turn, makes them sex obsessed. And when girls see that they crave more sex, they want to mess with them more. It's the vicious cycle of the sexual world, ugh.

[sasche]

Sexual society doesn't bother me until it gets to the point where it makes you feel like "you're not human if you're not into this".

Actually, ROMANCE in movies often bothers me more than SEX. I don't know why, it just does.

It's funny because even though I personally don't enjoy sex it doesn't usually bother me to listen to other people talk about sex. I have a couple of friends that strangely use me as sort of a "relationship and sex counselor". They couldn't possibly be talking to the wrong person. The strange thing is, they think I give GOOD advice. Ha.

Some of my friends have such INSANE sexual experiences that when they tell me about them (in detail) I usually get totally blown away - hair messed up, disoriented, and in need of a cigarette like I just came out of a wind tunnel. I feel like good for them AND holy shit.

But, I've never really been disgusted by sex when it comes to other people having it. Just when it comes to ME having it.

[mad_scientist]

It's funny because even though I personally don't enjoy sex it doesn't usually bother me to listen to other people talk about sex. I have a couple of friends that strangely use me as sort of a "relationship and sex counselor". They couldn't possibly be talking to the wrong person. The strange thing is, they think I give GOOD advice. Ha.

you're probably less emotionally involved and able to look at the situation from a more rational perspective.

[sasche]

It's funny because even though I personally don't enjoy sex it doesn't usually bother me to listen to other people talk about sex. I have a couple of friends that strangely use me as sort of a "relationship and sex counselor". They couldn't possibly be talking to the wrong person. The strange thing is, they think I give GOOD advice. Ha.

you're probably less emotionally involved and able to look at the situation from a more rational perspective.

That probably is part of it. My friend once told me that they tell me everything because no matter what I am never judgmental no matter how weird of things they are going through and that no matter what they have been through in their relationships I have always been through worse so it makes them feel less weird. I was actually flattered by that - strangely, even though it's also a little disturbing.

The quote that you use as your signature just made my whole day.

[mad_scientist]

It's funny because even though I personally don't enjoy sex it doesn't usually bother me to listen to other people talk about sex. I have a couple of friends that strangely use me as sort of a "relationship and sex counselor". They couldn't possibly be talking to the wrong person. The strange thing is, they think I give GOOD advice. Ha.

you're probably less emotionally involved and able to look at the situation from a more rational perspective.

That probably is part of it. My friend once told me that they tell me everything because no matter what I am never judgmental no matter how weird of things they are going through and that no matter what they have been through in their relationships I have always been through worse so it makes them feel less weird. I was actually flattered by that - strangely, even though it's also a little disturbing.

The quote that you use as your signature just made my whole day.

:P

I'm also told I'm non-judgemental -- probably because all sex seems silly to me and I don't see how anal sex, BDSM, threesomes, etc. are any more 'kinky' or weird than "vanilla" sex. It's all a bit strange, silly and unhygienic and there's really no point distinguishing some types as kinkier than others.

[SomeoneElse]

Sickening.

[metalgirl2045]

I'm also told I'm non-judgemental -- probably because all sex seems silly to me and I don't see how anal sex, BDSM, threesomes, etc. are any more 'kinky' or weird than "vanilla" sex. It's all a bit strange, silly and unhygienic and there's really no point distinguishing some types as kinkier than others.

I kind of agree with that. The nature of act has no bearing on how gross I think it is (unless it involves children, animals, non-con or poo), just who else it involves if I picture myself taking part.

[SlightlyMetaphysical]

It's funny because even though I personally don't enjoy sex it doesn't usually bother me to listen to other people talk about sex. I have a couple of friends that strangely use me as sort of a "relationship and sex counselor". They couldn't possibly be talking to the wrong person. The strange thing is, they think I give GOOD advice. Ha.

you're probably less emotionally involved and able to look at the situation from a more rational perspective.

That probably is part of it. My friend once told me that they tell me everything because no matter what I am never judgmental no matter how weird of things they are going through and that no matter what they have been through in their relationships I have always been through worse so it makes them feel less weird. I was actually flattered by that - strangely, even though it's also a little disturbing.

The quote that you use as your signature just made my whole day.

:P

I'm also told I'm non-judgemental -- probably because all sex seems silly to me and I don't see how anal sex, BDSM, threesomes, etc. are any more 'kinky' or weird than "vanilla" sex. It's all a bit strange, silly and unhygienic and there's really no point distinguishing some types as kinkier than others.

Yeah, I think I fit into that idea too. I'm certainly a lot less judgmental than my sexual friends. For example, as far as I'm concerned, if two people want to have casual sex and they're not hurting themselves or anyone by doing so, I don't see why they shouldn't.

[5452]

I just have to deal with tons of stupid girls who use sex to mess with guys, and that, in turn, makes them sex obsessed. And when girls see that they crave more sex, they want to mess with them more. It's the vicious cycle of the sexual world, ugh.

Same here, I hate females who use sex for manipulation and as a means of control. <_<

Fortunately, there are girls and women who don't behave like whores. (E.g. asexual females. Though there are also many sexual women who don't behave like sluts. Of course, guys can misuse sex too... Argh, sex sux! Sex causes so much trouble!)

[Wings of a Dream]

Totally have to add my two pence about this XD

There's nothing worse than being stuck in a room with hypersexuals, all going on about just how many people they've slept with, how they have regular checks for STDs, and how often they masturbate (believe it or not, I've been in such a situation -.-).

On the subject of the media and the apparent need to use sex to advertise everything, it's pathetic. Can they really not think of a better way to advertise a product than to sexualise it? I mean, it's an unfortunate truth that sex sells, I know it does, but the consistent use of it just implies to me that advertisers can't be bothered/aren't able to think of anything better than to slap a half naked lady on the screen and talk about orgasms (Herbal Essences is a perfect example).

And the sexualisation of children, especially little girls? I have two words: Bratz dolls -.-

[Næt.]

I saw an advert today (in some pull-out section of the Guardian) for 'vision direct' I think. Anyway, for no discernable reason the advert features a naked woman.

Bemusedly amusing.

[ThePieMaker]

I get annoyed with it too, but I learn to deal with it. Live I've said in the past, this is their world, not mine. I was just an oddity placed in it. Who am I to walk in and tell them to stop. People as a species are no more sexual now than they were in the past, it's just more accepted (which isn't always a bad thing) and people don't hide it like they used to. However, I will agree that the sexualization of children simply drives me mad! Why can't they keep their innocence until nature determines otherwise? It's sad to see these girls fall under pressures to feel "hot." I was disgusted during Halloween when I went to the costume shops and almost all the costumes for even younger girls were tramped up. Ugh, it's a sad thing.

[The Slimeinator]

I saw the new James Bond film, Quantum of Solace, on Sunday. There were about 55 or more naked women in silhouette in the opening credits. I sighed, averted my eyes, and managed to survive through it with my eyes intact. The next day, I spoke to someone on AIM that I used to know and said that I disapproved of the opening credits. They just loled and said "You know you liked it". <_< I then said I didn't like that sex scene in the movie either, and they said the same thing. Again. And again. -_-

[Næt.]

Nudity in Bond.

Never saw that one coming.

[Peach]

Does anyone else have any experiences or stories of how sexual society has bothered them? Because the world through the eyes of an asexy can be so freaking annoying when you glance on how sexually obsessed so many people are.

Ugh, yes. Lots. I posted one experience earlier; it's the topic 'Ignorance or ridicule?' in this forum. I was simply sickened.

[WakingDreamer]

I've been very fortunate when it comes to my friends- either they're all secretly ace as well and aren't telling me, or they're just that awesome. Though really, my friends tend to almost never talk about relationships- and therefore NEVER bring up sex. The most I may have to put up with in a given day would be if a friend of mine wanted to fangirl/boy over a character in a movie or a video game- and that's usually more amusing than annoying.

In a weird way, I think my friends have been "protecting" me from topics of sex. I just remember one time when I'd just come home from an anime convention, and was flipping through a friend's doujinshi (fan-made comic book, essentially). It happened to have some fairly graphic, sexual things going on in there, and... well, naturally, as I was flipping to the "best" part, another friend walked into the room and saw me reading it. She looked like she was heartbroken. "You're reading slash?! But.. but... my innocent [WakingDreamer] is reading that?!" XD

Of course, this doesn't mean that I'm completely "protected" from mentions of sex in the world. Naturally I have to put up with a lot of nonsense, like in advertisements and so on. Thankfully however, I've developed the ability to be thoroughly oblivious to anything sexual. That too comes in handy. :P

[Jazmin]

And today, this girl that's been using some of my friends as her personal boy toys for over a year decided to upload a new bumper sticker on facebook. It said "I can get away with all kinds of thing because I have great tits."

It's funny too because girls like her then go around wondering why on earth all the guys they attract are sleazy and treat them like a sexual object without a brain. Gee, I wonder why.

[Cazz333]

I should put one bumpber sticker saying, "Sex is over rated. Love is under rated."

Some bot so sexual tv programs are "I, Claudius" (it's more about power and politics than sex), and "Alien Planet" (futuristic space travel to a planet called Darwin IV, and it looks at what life might be like there).

[Maxx1128]

Here are my annoying hypersexual enemy's new bumper stickers:

The first one is a bunch of hooker's shadows on a pole, and next to them it says: Good for one free lap dance.

The second one is a really blurry one that says: Lack of sex can cause blurry vision.

Seriously speaking, stuff like this just makes me physically nauseous. I'm serious, I've just seen them and I feel like puking a little. I wish that I could just press a button and hypersexual society could vanish until I decided to push it again, and maybe they could reappear. Maybe they could reappear...I wouldn't care either way.

[that_american_kid]

Got stuck listening to an hour and a half long sex discussion.

Shoot me now.

Fortunately, my best friend was there and I could do things like mouth 'Really?!?' and he'd just laugh with me.

[Maxx1128]

Fortunately, my best friend was there and I could do things like mouth 'Really?!?' and he'd just laugh with me.

God, I wish I had a couple more friends like that. I do have one, but if I had a bunch of asexy friends in my school, that would rock.

[Illuminated]

I think this girl's problem is more to do with her intellectual emptiness and apparent emotional void than anything to do with oversexualization. Sure, without her sexuality she'd choose another medium through which to channel her failings, but I don't think her sexualization is the cause of her emptiness.

[LilliPete]

Yeah, it seems like you can't have a teen-centered movie without it involving sex. Or any movie, for that matter. It really makes me mad. Here I am, watching the Spartans prepare to go to war in 300, and all of a sudden it's like, "Sex scene!" Watching Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist: Sex scene! Charlie Bartlett: Sex scene! Casino Royale: implied sex scenes! Just about any movie these days: Sex scenes galore!

It's just annoying really. Can't watch anything without it involving sex or implied sex. :/

Actually, I think in the case of Nick and Norah, it was originally part of the story. I've never seen the movie, but I have the book and towards the end the two main characters (almost) have sex in a hotel. They get pretty far, but an old couple catches them. And in the comic of 300, I think sex was implied but never actually shown. The rest of the examples are shameful and unnecessary.

[TheMadcapLaughs]

Personally I find the sexualised adverts and such infuriating and I despise people who use sex to control people.

That said I don't mind talk of sex as long as it doesn't happen to often (and in my circles it doesn't) and I have been known to make the odd sexual innuendo/joke on occassion (mainly with this girl who finds it very amusing and who knows I'm asexy so knows I'm only saying it to make her laugh and that there is no real seriousness behind it).

As far as sex in films/tv goes I find the addition of romantic interests in to non-romance films often unneccessary and even more often completely detracting from the main plot (Spider-man seemed to spend more time focusing on the romance than on the goblin-fighting). Most of the time sex scenes annoy me when they feel entirely gratuitous, completely uncalled for, or just plain "Hollywoodised" (in fact most "Hollywood-style" "perfect" relationships annoy me no end - heck, a lot of the relationships in the movies are just pure lust and nothing else). That said sometimes sex scenes are neccessary such as in Oldboy, American Beauty and The Terminator all three of which gained from the effective usage of those scenes.

Oh, and it is completely and uterly disgusting that children are forced in to having to feel "hot" and whatnot.

[square peg]

To me most sex has nothing to do with morals or decency. I just as a matter of personal taste find the thought of it a bit creepy, baffling and/or nauseating at times. Much like some people's taste in music. I don't want to stop them enjoying it.