Writting a letter about transgender to my mother

[Trans_beezz]

Okok so I'll start off with a bit of context. I am 14, my mother knows I am transgender but doesn't ever use my correct name or pronouns. She's not transphobic and she let me change my name in school as well (though she still uses my deadname when talking to school). However, I've tried having conversations about being trans with her before and she said she would use my name and pronouns when it's only me and her and my older brother but she never did. 

 

I struggle a lot with gender dysphoria- so much that it's getting quite unbearable and I'd like to write a letter to my mother about it and also kinda coming out to her again and saying in the letter the things I would like out of transitioning, ect.

 

I would like to ask in the letter about getting therapy and getting hormone blockers that could start me medically transitioning. I've brought up the subject of hormone blockers before but she implied I just get on with it myself but I don't think I can without her help. Therefore in this letter I'd like to basically explain that I am her son, not daughter and asking for therapy as well.

 

I'm not sure how I am goung to word this so has anyone got any tips or advice or maybe even a template of what to write in the letter?

[m8476]

8 minutes ago, Trans_beezz said:

I'm not sure how I am goung to word this so has anyone got any tips or advice or maybe even a template of what to write in the letter?

 

Dear [Mother's Name],

 

I hope this letter finds you well. I wanted to take the time to express my thoughts and feelings regarding an important matter that has been weighing heavily on me. I appreciate your openness and understanding towards my gender identity, and I value the fact that you allowed me to change my name at school. However, there are some aspects of my transition that I feel need to be addressed, as they are causing me significant distress and affecting my overall well-being.

 

First and foremost, I want to reiterate that I am your son. My gender identity is an integral part of who I am, and it is crucial for me to be recognized and respected as such. I understand that adjusting to new pronouns and a different name may take time, but it is disheartening for me when I don't see those efforts being made consistently, especially in private settings with just the three of us.

 

Living with gender dysphoria has been increasingly challenging for me, to the point where it has become unbearable. I experience profound discomfort and distress due to the mismatch between my gender assigned at birth and my true gender identity. I believe it is important for me to explore avenues that can help alleviate this dysphoria and bring me closer to a state of peace and self-acceptance.

 

In light of this, I would like to discuss the possibility of starting therapy with a qualified gender specialist or therapist who has experience working with transgender individuals. Therapy can provide me with a safe space to explore my feelings, gain valuable insights, and develop coping mechanisms to navigate the challenges that accompany gender dysphoria. I believe that having your support in seeking therapy would be immensely beneficial to my mental and emotional well-being.

 

 

Additionally, I would like to discuss the option of pursuing medical intervention in the form of hormone blockers. Hormone blockers are a reversible and medically safe way to temporarily pause the onset of puberty. They would provide me with an opportunity to further evaluate my gender identity and its alignment with my assigned sex at birth. Starting hormone blockers would be a significant step towards a more comfortable and authentic expression of my true self. I understand your previous suggestion of taking this matter into my own hands, but I genuinely feel that I need your guidance, support, and assistance in navigating this process responsibly and safely.

 

I want you to know that I am sharing this information with you out of love, trust, and a genuine desire to establish a more open and supportive relationship. It takes immense courage for me to express my feelings and needs in this way, and I hope you can appreciate the vulnerability I am showing.

 

I am open to having a conversation with you to further discuss these matters. I understand that this may be new territory for both of us, and I am willing to provide you with resources, information, and support to help you better understand my journey and the steps we can take together. My ultimate goal is to foster a stronger bond with you, based on mutual respect, acceptance, and understanding.

 

Thank you for taking the time to read this letter and for considering my thoughts and feelings. I hope we can work together to create an environment where I can fully embrace my authentic self. I love you, and I look forward to your support and guidance as I embark on this journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance.

 

With all my love and gratitude,

 

[Your Preferred Name]

[Sarah-Sylvia]

My quick thoughts, speak from the heart and in a way that you think makes sense including to your mom.