i lack sexual attraction AND libido ... is this normal for asexuality , or is something wrong w/ my body ??

[artistic_autistic]

So, I'm aware that asexuality has to do ONLY with lack of sexual ATTRACTION; however, I know that just because you're asexual doesn't mean that you don't have a sexual LIBIDO, meaning that your body still "gets horny", and that it desires sex no matter who it's with. This is the cause of a lot of asexuals still masturbating.

 

But I'm confused and I think something might be wrong with my reproductive system/hormones; as if I didn't develop properly or something during puberty, because I don't experience EITHER of those things. Now keep in mind that I'm only 15 years old, so I may just be a late bloomer, but I think that's not the case because I got my first period when I was ELEVEN, so every other puberty thing has already happened to me. So I'm thinking that soon after my period would come libido, right? I don't think libido comes FOUR WHOLE YEARS after you get every other puberty thing; that's just too much time afterwards.

 

So, is this normal for asexuals to not have libido as well as lacking sexual attraction? Or should I go see a doctor (at least when this corona BS is over)?

Also, I have depression and autism, so could that be a factor that plays in as well??

I dunno. hElp! 😂

 

Thank you for your time !

~ k y l i e ❤️

[NickyTannock]

Some Asexuals don't experience either Sexual Attraction or a Libido, that's called Nonlibidoist Asexuality.

[Lichley]

As far as I’m aware there are asexuals that just don’t experience libido. It’s only considered a medical issue if you had an existing libido and it suddenly disappeared as that sudden difference shows a large change in existing hormonal levels which can be indicative of certain medical issues. 

[GingerRose]

Nothing is wrong with your body, everyone is different, neurologically and corporally.

[SithLord]

At 15 I wouldn't be too concerned. I legitimately didn't have a libido at all until maybe 17/18 when I discovered erotic material? Not really sure. It definitely wasn't a concern of mine for a long time. And even now it's next to nothing.

 

It's common in asexuality to have a reduced/no libido. Don't worry about it. If it does concern you, I suggest seeing a doctor about it (because if you're worried, then you should do something about your concerns rather than asking strangers on the internet). 

[Snao Cone]

It's fine. If your lack of libido isn't causing any distress from missing out on the drive to fulfill an intrinsic need for sexual intimacy, it's doing no harm to you. A lack of interest in sex isn't something to worry about until you can pinpoint it as a reason for general unhappiness. It's possible to be happy without it. Just focus on your own happiness and fulfillment.

[obstaclez]

honestly i don't really either. i am never "in the mood" and don't ever really think about sex for that reason. i'm not against being sexual with someone but i don't really care about it as i don't have a libido. can i get turned on? sure, but i have to intentionally try to do it. 

 

i don't think anything is wrong with you! it's just how some people are made.

[Karst]

People's bodies and minds vary a lot.

 

As far as I know (and I'm not a medical expert, my field of science is geology), not having a libido, or having a low libido isn't usually considered a medical issue unless

a) it's causing you distress

or

b) it's a sudden change that might indicate hormonal or mental-health issues.

[Janus the Fox]

I’m without a libido due to the description of this label involves.  I do have functional arousal even if it’s a rare and infrequent occurrence though.

[50ShadesOfGreyAndPurple]

You MAY just be a non-libidoist. It's completely fine and not bad. 

 

Also I think the idea that your a late bloomer is unlikely, if you read the above it might help 😀

[Brittany_1]

Not having a libido is often a side effect of some other medical issue, so if you're healthy, then you're probably fine.

 

I'm 22 and I don't have a libido either, never have.

[Jannat]

I am 21 years old, Never been aroused, didn't know that girls get turned on, only knew few days ago, even with watching porn stuff i will just said what the hell is that, it's boring as if im watching something else, and my period, body is totally healthy, i thought im the only one who is the freakish of nature 

[laLibby]

I felt the same way when I was 15 (which was when I first learned about asexuality). I'm 20 now and I still don't have a libido at all or experience sexual attraction. You're not alone! And whether you feel the same way later or you develop different feelings, you are still valid NOW.