Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 Hopefully this is in the right place. Either way, here goes. Hypersexuality is something usually brought about through a disorder (i.e. Bipolar Disorder, ADHD) or trough trauma. I am wondering if there are any aces here who are Hypersexual. Also, how did it effect your ability to identify as Asexual and how do you cope. More on Hypersexuality http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19937105 Link to post Share on other sites
Exosk Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 Hyper- or hypo-? Also, the link requires registration or by 3rd party access. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted February 26, 2015 Author Share Posted February 26, 2015 Hyper- or hypo-? Also, the link requires registration or by 3rd party access. Im talking about Hyper. Really? That did not happen for me. Here is another link http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypersexuality Its Wiki though. Link to post Share on other sites
Frac Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 You mean aces with a high libido? Interesting point, as usually conversations about sex drive here focus on the opposite - the lack of it. It would be a positive thing to discuss this, because solely discussing nonlibidoism can have the unfortunate effect of making it seem like asexuality is connected to hormonal abnormalities, which contributes to the view that it's a "problem" to be "fixed". Link to post Share on other sites
jimerman Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 i know now that i was allays asexual but before, i knew that i dated around to see what i was missing (turned out nothing). she was completely controlling and i was very abusive so after that ended and i discovered my asexuality i was not able to return to a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted February 26, 2015 Author Share Posted February 26, 2015 i know now that i was allays asexual but before, i knew that i dated around to see what i was missing (turned out nothing). she was completely controlling and i was very abusive so after that ended and i discovered my asexuality i was not able to return to a relationship. Are you happy/satisfied with your present state of living? Link to post Share on other sites
QueenWS Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 Link on the OP isn't working After doing my re-search on hypersexuality which I just searched up I concluded that my ex is a hypersexual person, he wasn't asexual but really a pansexual person pretending to be bisexual. Well I certainly did not like him and my asexuality and his hypersexuality did not combine well together. Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted February 27, 2015 Share Posted February 27, 2015 Somebody who's hypersexual, as it's commonly defined, isn't an asexual. Link to post Share on other sites
Lady Girl Posted February 27, 2015 Share Posted February 27, 2015 Moved from Census to Asexual Musings and Rantings. Lady Girl, Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
jimerman Posted February 27, 2015 Share Posted February 27, 2015 i know now that i was allays asexual but before, i knew that i dated around to see what i was missing (turned out nothing). she was completely controlling and i was very abusive so after that ended and i discovered my asexuality i was not able to return to a relationship. Are you happy/satisfied with your present state of living? yes and no. i have no desire to have sex or anything, so a traditional relationship is mostly out of the question and i am happy with that. that being said i still have an emotional side that i want to share with someone but i have an extremely hard time trusting someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Eva Posted February 27, 2015 Share Posted February 27, 2015 Here's a key excerpt from the abstract to the article that would have been at the bad link in the original post: "Hypersexual Disorder is conceptualized as primarily a nonparaphilic sexual desire disorder with an impulsivity component. Specific polythetic diagnostic criteria, as well as behavioral specifiers, are proposed, intended to integrate empirically based contributions from various putative pathophysiological perspectives, including dysregulation of sexual arousal and desire, sexual impulsivity, sexual addiction, and sexual compulsivity." There are some categories of asexuality that include sexual behavior without attraction to any individual sexual partner, so I guess it's possible that this issue could be relevant to some asexuals, if they take that behavior to levels that interfere with other aspects of their life. Not to me, though. That definition doesn't fit me no matter how imaginatively I try to stretch it. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted February 27, 2015 Author Share Posted February 27, 2015 Somebody who's hypersexual, as it's commonly defined, isn't an asexual. Hypersexuality is about libido and a disorder( usually attatched to BP, ADHD or truama), not attraction, so yes, an asexual can in fact be hypersexual aswell. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted February 27, 2015 Author Share Posted February 27, 2015 Here's a key excerpt from the abstract to the article that would have been at the bad link in the original post: "Hypersexual Disorder is conceptualized as primarily a nonparaphilic sexual desire disorder with an impulsivity component. Specific polythetic diagnostic criteria, as well as behavioral specifiers, are proposed, intended to integrate empirically based contributions from various putative pathophysiological perspectives, including dysregulation of sexual arousal and desire, sexual impulsivity, sexual addiction, and sexual compulsivity." There are some categories of asexuality that include sexual behavior without attraction to any individual sexual partner, so I guess it's possible that this issue could be relevant to some asexuals, if they take that behavior to levels that interfere with other aspects of their life. Not to me, though. That definition doesn't fit me no matter how imaginatively I try to stretch it. What is your experience with the topic? curious... Link to post Share on other sites
Neon Rainbow Posted February 27, 2015 Share Posted February 27, 2015 I experience hypersexuality when I have a manic episode. It really confused me for the longest time, I always thought that was my baseline sexuality. It wasn't until I was stable on meds that I realized hypersexuality wasn't really me, but was a symptom of illness. I become attracted to and obsessed with having sex with both genders when I'm having hypersexuality. I identify as just asexual and not gray-A because I NEVER have sexual feelings outside of being a symptom of my bipolar disorder, so I don't feel it's really "me" if that makes sense. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted February 27, 2015 Author Share Posted February 27, 2015 My fixation is sex itself , not anyone in particular. I go through long waves of sexual fixation(porn, fantasy, self-touching) and then very brief waves of aversion(avoiding all of that). It caused confusion for a while because I though all aces where either repulsed or indifferent to sex and with low or no libido. Basically I know now that I hypersexual along with asexual, Im all revved up with nowhere to go lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Eva Posted February 27, 2015 Share Posted February 27, 2015 Here's a key excerpt from the abstract to the article that would have been at the bad link in the original post: "Hypersexual Disorder is conceptualized as primarily a nonparaphilic sexual desire disorder with an impulsivity component. Specific polythetic diagnostic criteria, as well as behavioral specifiers, are proposed, intended to integrate empirically based contributions from various putative pathophysiological perspectives, including dysregulation of sexual arousal and desire, sexual impulsivity, sexual addiction, and sexual compulsivity." There are some categories of asexuality that include sexual behavior without attraction to any individual sexual partner, so I guess it's possible that this issue could be relevant to some asexuals, if they take that behavior to levels that interfere with other aspects of their life. Not to me, though. That definition doesn't fit me no matter how imaginatively I try to stretch it. What is your experience with the topic? curious... I don't have any sexual experience that involves other people, whether compulsive or not. I never feel any desire for it either. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted February 27, 2015 Author Share Posted February 27, 2015 Here's a key excerpt from the abstract to the article that would have been at the bad link in the original post: "Hypersexual Disorder is conceptualized as primarily a nonparaphilic sexual desire disorder with an impulsivity component. Specific polythetic diagnostic criteria, as well as behavioral specifiers, are proposed, intended to integrate empirically based contributions from various putative pathophysiological perspectives, including dysregulation of sexual arousal and desire, sexual impulsivity, sexual addiction, and sexual compulsivity." There are some categories of asexuality that include sexual behavior without attraction to any individual sexual partner, so I guess it's possible that this issue could be relevant to some asexuals, if they take that behavior to levels that interfere with other aspects of their life. Not to me, though. That definition doesn't fit me no matter how imaginatively I try to stretch it. What is your experience with the topic? curious... I don't have any sexual experience that involves other people, whether compulsive or not. I never feel any desire for it either. Hypersexuality can involve compulsory masturbation and porn viewing , partnered sex is not a must to "qualify", just an intense fixation of sex/sexual sensation. Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted February 27, 2015 Share Posted February 27, 2015 Hypersexuality can involve compulsory masturbation and porn viewing , partnered sex is not a must to "qualify", just an intense fixation of sex/sexual sensation. If you used the term "hypersexual" for an asexual person, it would be confusing to everyone, as that implies someone who wants (partnered) sex a lot. Hyperlibidinous would be a more accurate term. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted February 27, 2015 Author Share Posted February 27, 2015 Hypersexuality can involve compulsory masturbation and porn viewing , partnered sex is not a must to "qualify", just an intense fixation of sex/sexual sensation. If you used the term "hypersexual" for an asexual person, it would be confusing to everyone, as that implies someone who wants (partnered) sex a lot. Hyperlibidinous would be a more accurate term. Buuut it is not. If you learned about Hypersexuality you would see that sexual attraction and/or sexual desire/favorabability need not apply. Also, asexuals can desire partnered sex (i.e. Cupiosexual). Link to post Share on other sites
5_♦♣ Posted February 28, 2015 Share Posted February 28, 2015 From the wiki page: "The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines hypersexual as "exhibiting unusual or excessive concern with or indulgence in sexual activity." [1] Sexologists have been using the term hypersexuality since the late 1800s, when Krafft-Ebing described several cases of extreme sexual behaviors in his seminal 1886 book, Psychopathia Sexualis.[2][3] The author used the term "hypersexuality" to describe conditions that would now be termed premature ejaculation". Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted February 28, 2015 Author Share Posted February 28, 2015 From the wiki page: "The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines hypersexual as "exhibiting unusual or excessive concern with or indulgence in sexual activity." [1] Sexologists have been using the term hypersexuality since the late 1800s, when Krafft-Ebing described several cases of extreme sexual behaviors in his seminal 1886 book, Psychopathia Sexualis.[2][3] The author used the term "hypersexuality" to describe conditions that would now be termed premature ejaculation". Where are you getting at??? Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted March 1, 2015 Author Share Posted March 1, 2015 Im still curious to see if there are more Hypersexual Aces out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Zaphikiel Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 My fixation is sex itself , not anyone in particular. I go through long waves of sexual fixation(porn, fantasy, self-touching) and then very brief waves of aversion(avoiding all of that). It caused confusion for a while because I though all aces where either repulsed or indifferent to sex and with low or no libido. Basically I know now that I hypersexual along with asexual, Im all revved up with nowhere to go lol. I agree with you. I am not attracted to people on a physical level, yet I oftentimes get 'horny' without having a person to affix the sexual desire on. So it's self stimulation all the way. I thought that it might be contradictory to be an asexual that experiences sexual arousal, but I see now that it doesn't have to be. Basically most of the time I feel like an androgynous inhabitant of the planet Winter in Ursula Leguin's book "left hand of darkness" Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre/Ex/Machina Posted March 5, 2015 Author Share Posted March 5, 2015 I am also very much for DIY. Link to post Share on other sites
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