pinkroses Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 if I have the correct term demisexual have only an interest in sex with someone whom they share a bond with. does this mean they have no interest in porn and/ or have trouble getting off (masturbating) to porn because they have no emotional connection with them or other connection? for demi sexuals what kind of connection is it that they need? Link to post Share on other sites
My alias Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 Usually demisexuals only participate in sexual activities with people whom with they have a romantic interest in (usually a strong bond). But I think anybody can enjoy porn and wanking because it is erotic or sensual. It may not be about the attraction to the people in the pornography rather the erotica of what they are doing. Link to post Share on other sites
pinkroses Posted October 20, 2014 Author Share Posted October 20, 2014 oh okay. so if someone has a lack or enjoyment or short enjoyment period to porn that it is probably due to something else and not because they are demisexual? @myalias Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 It depends I think. I'm personally porn repulsed and can't watch it more than few seconds. Maybe they are some demi aces who watch them. Idk Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 I'm asexual and I enjoy watching kinky amateur porn. I often mastrbate to more extreme stuff because it helps me orgasm faster (for me, masturbation is a chore,but I need to do it to get rid of arousal, so the faster I can orgasm the better). Anyway, I don't need any form of connection to the people (nor would demisexuals who watch porn) because having arousal and masturbating, and desiring partnered sex, are very different things . Demisexuality means that, when an emotional bond has formed, the person begins to develop a desire for *partnered* sexual activity. (ie they want to have sex with the person they have an emotional bond with. They have no desire for partnered sex otherwise, though they may still masturbate etc) Asexual means that, regardless of whether or not there is a bond, the innate desire for partnered sexual activity just never happens. Sure some asexuals have sex, some love it.. but they don't have an *innate* desire for it.. they'd just as happily read a book or cook a meal, instead of have sex. Many asexuals, and demisexuals (and sexuals.for that matter!) have no interest in porn for various reasons! some people find porn repulsive, some think it's degrading to women, some people don't like seeing genitals, some people prefer to be having actual sex and just don't get off from watching it..etc etc. There are lots of reasons why someone might not enjoy porn and those reasons generally have nothing to do with their sexuality :) Link to post Share on other sites
Chebu Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 Porn tends to repulse me a lot as well, but if the actor looks like or reminds me even just a little bit of the one I'm romantically inclined towards, then I get the fuzzies. Link to post Share on other sites
MC Dusters Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 I used to learn everything about the actress first. I know almost all about Sasha Grey and Misty Mundae. The high school they went to, their favourite books, their taste in food etc. Only after i know the little things i can watch someone get naked. Still i wouldn't be aroused much, but at least i won't feel "wrong" about it. Link to post Share on other sites
WhenSummersGone Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 I'm Demisexual and I don't watch porn these days. When I did I only enjoyed watching specific sex acts, any fetishes and anything passionate/sensual. I wasn't turned on by anyone though. Link to post Share on other sites
njosnavelin Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 I don’t think porn has anything to do with your sexual orientation. You use it as a tool to masturbate and kill your urge or you don’t. You either like to simulate yourself or you don’t and it grosses you out. I used to learn everything about the actress first. I know almost all about Sasha Grey and Misty Mundae. The high school they went to, their favourite books, their taste in food etc. Only after i know the little things i can watch someone get naked. Still i wouldn't be aroused much, but at least i won't feel "wrong" about it. I have actually never thought of this and I think it is kinda cool. Link to post Share on other sites
Rising Sun Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 It's perfectly possible to watch porn or erotica and to enjoy it without feeling sexually attracted to any actor (it's exactly the same if you're asexual, after all). Acts can matter much more than characters, and it's very true when it comes to sex. Link to post Share on other sites
WünderBâhr Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 Moved to The Grey Area, Sex, and Related Discussions forum. Byanyothername Asexual Q&A Mod Link to post Share on other sites
purple_unicorn Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 I don't know why but I think porn is hilarious. Probably because the majority of it is staged and the participants make the most random and unreal noises when someone touches their arm. My boyfriend thinks it's funny to put porn on then turn the television off so when I turn it on porn in blasting through the apartment. It doesn't turn me on at all I just sit there and laugh then begin to point out the things I think are fake and why. Link to post Share on other sites
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