FBiUkie Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 Personally, I am not girly (never really into the frill of feminine things) and yet I'm not really masculine, either. I don't feel like I can say that my gender is female or male. I can tolerate people using feminine pronouns, but would prefer they/them. I dress androgynously except for the occasional dress or skirt and don't experience body dysphoria. Would I be correct to identify as agender? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Heart Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 You are correct in identifying as agender if you feel agender :) What you have described with respect to clothing has more to do with presentation than gender; gender is in your mind, not your actions or appearance. If you feel neither like a man nor a woman, then you probably are some form of non-binary identity, of which agender is one. Agender is defined as feeling like you have no gender. So if that's you, and that label feels comfortable, then yes, go ahead and use it :) 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
FBiUkie Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 Thanks! This website has been the only place with such supportive answers. 😊 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Heart Posted January 8, 2015 Share Posted January 8, 2015 Oh good. You're welcome here any time then FBiUKie :D Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jordan... Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 I decided to buy a skirt for the first time... WHY THE FUCK ARE WOMEN'S CLOTHES SO EXPENSIVE!?!?!?! Well clothes in general, why are they expensive. Why can't they be free... Either that or legalize nudity.How can they say "it is illegal to be naked in public" and then let clothes stores charge £30 for a skirt, or £45 for jeans. I get £55 a week, and £35 of which I have to pay for the pleasure of living with my family (please note the sarcasm). Then there is the awkward sizes. I am a 30" waist, but 6ft tall... Finding trousers that fit, is a bitch... hence the skirt (size 12 seems to be easier to find)... So let's see how "comfortable" I feel with it when it arrives in a few days (thank god for Amazon) 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Aworld Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I have a question actually: what's the difference between saying someone is agender or genderless? I've been going by as genderless but I guess agender fits too, and I don't really know which suits me more. (I basically don't feel male or female or even neutral ... I just act more feminine because that's how I've been brought up. And I do sometimes wish I didn't have a female body, though not enough to have surgery or anything.) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wayfarer Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I don't think it's something you can say of someone, the only one who can decide is yourself. I went by agender for a while, and have also tried out neutrois and demigirl, and then sort of gave up, so now I go by non-binary, which I know isn't even a thing, but it's a place-holder until I find something that I know fits. I've been leaning more towards agender lately, but I would find it difficult to explain why. For me, I would say that agender feels like being some kind of gender, just not one that's defined, and genderless as actually being without gender. However, I'm not sure if this is the actual distinction, or that there is somewhere a better one. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jordan... Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 Why not just go by your own gender?Say that you are Aworld gender. And when people ask "Dafuq?!" Just say it is too complex, but awesome, for them to understand :) 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Aworld Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 Thank you :) I think I'll go for agender for now, if only because it fits nicely with asexual and aromantic, what with them all beginning with A. Aworld-gender though! To be honest that's probably the only thing that can completely accurately describe me 100%! :P 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
butterflydreams Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 Thank you :) I think I'll go for agender for now, if only because it fits nicely with asexual and aromantic, what with them all beginning with A. Aworld-gender though! To be honest that's probably the only thing that can completely accurately describe me 100%! :P YAY! ^_^ Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jordan... Posted January 22, 2015 Share Posted January 22, 2015 *whistles* It's been quiet here for too long... How is everyone? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Aworld Posted January 22, 2015 Share Posted January 22, 2015 Good thanks, how are you? Also, it just occurred to me that I never "officially" entered this thread ... *offers cake to everyone as a present-sacrifice-thing* Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jordan... Posted January 23, 2015 Share Posted January 23, 2015 *noms cake quickly* I'm doing alright... A little sleepy, but alright 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Heart Posted January 23, 2015 Share Posted January 23, 2015 *takes another piece of cake* My favourite thing about AVEN cake is the very special property of never running out. Always enough for seconds :D 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jordan... Posted January 23, 2015 Share Posted January 23, 2015 *takes another piece of cake* My favourite thing about AVEN cake is the very special property of never running out. Always enough for seconds :D You CAN have your cake and eat it too :D Put a link there for those who don't understand English proverbs :P 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Heart Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 *takes another piece of cake* My favourite thing about AVEN cake is the very special property of never running out. Always enough for seconds :D You CAN have your cake and eat it too :D Put a link there for those who don't understand English proverbs :P LOVING IT! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wayfarer Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 *Takes cake* I really like the list of translations to other languages on the wiki-page. All so similar, but still different. :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
kiaroskuro Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 *Takes cake* I really like the list of translations to other languages on the wiki-page. All so similar, but still different. :) I was just thinking the same thing :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tacroy Posted January 24, 2015 Share Posted January 24, 2015 Hi! I'm new (well, I've been lurking for a while^^) Nice to meet some people (in general! But especially who are going through similar things) 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Aworld Posted January 25, 2015 Share Posted January 25, 2015 Hi Tacroy! :D Welcome! :cake: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
butterflydreams Posted January 25, 2015 Share Posted January 25, 2015 Sometimes when I think of AVEN cake, I'm reminded of this scene, only replace "beer" with "cake" ;) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Heart Posted January 25, 2015 Share Posted January 25, 2015 Why hello there Tacroy! You're well timed; there's plenty of cake around, so make yourself at home ;) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Blaze Posted January 26, 2015 Share Posted January 26, 2015 Hello ^_^ It's nice seeing an agender thread. The comments here have been the most helpful I've seen on what it means to be agender. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wayfarer Posted January 26, 2015 Share Posted January 26, 2015 Welcome Blaze :) Glad that they're helpful. Here, have some welcome :cake: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jordan... Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 GUYS! I was looking at where I have an interview tomorrow... and well.. You see what I see? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wayfarer Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 The 'cake fusion' restaurant-type-thingy? That sounds awesome :) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Aworld Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 Cake Fusion sounds so cool! I don't know what it is, but since it has "cake" in the title it must be awesome :) Good luck for your interview Jordan! (I guess you've probably already had it by now...) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rubi Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Went out yesterday dressed femme. Got a few compliments and no bad comments! At a very liberal college, but still! 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Heart Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 That's awesome Rubi! You're looking gorgeous in the picture :D Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rubi Posted January 31, 2015 Share Posted January 31, 2015 That's awesome Rubi! You're looking gorgeous in the picture :D Thanks! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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