teslacoils Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 If anyone can help me clear this up, I'll be very grateful. :) So, I'm going to start this one off by saying that I do masturbate, which means that I have a basic sex drive, I suppose. I can also see myself having sex. However, I'm pretty sure that it's the close-ness aspect that appeals to me, that you can be so exposed emotionally to the other person, not the actual sex. Also, when I first think of relationships, I think more of the cuddly, romantic aspects instead of sex. Sort of like, the idea of sex doesn't disgust me at all, I'd just prefer to hug or watch television or do something else. This sounding like anything? Thanks, whoever can help! Link to post Share on other sites
feministnerd Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 If anyone can help me clear this up, I'll be very grateful. :) So, I'm going to start this one off by saying that I do masturbate, which means that I have a basic sex drive, I suppose. I can also see myself having sex. However, I'm pretty sure that it's the close-ness aspect that appeals to me, that you can be so exposed emotionally to the other person, not the actual sex. Also, when I first think of relationships, I think more of the cuddly, romantic aspects instead of sex. Sort of like, the idea of sex doesn't disgust me at all, I'd just prefer to hug or watch television or do something else. This sounding like anything? Thanks, whoever can help! That's pretty much me but my sex drive is lower. I do want someone to be close with, I love hugs. Link to post Share on other sites
teslacoils Posted April 12, 2012 Author Share Posted April 12, 2012 So you identify as grey-a? Yeah, closeness is a big thing for me. :) Link to post Share on other sites
Kitty Spoon Train Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 Yep, I can totally relate to this...I'm more on the (hetero)demisexual side than gray-A though... But yes, I have this notion of pure affectionate closeness which is much more important to me than anything overtly sexual. Though sometimes this line can blur into something sensual and erotic, depending on the person and how comfortable I am with her. What you said about watching television is really relatable to me for example. These days all I feel like I want is a cuddle buddy to snuggle up on the couch with. I can take or leave sex, and actually kinda prefer to leave it these days. Link to post Share on other sites
teslacoils Posted April 13, 2012 Author Share Posted April 13, 2012 Okay, thanks! :) Link to post Share on other sites
feministnerd Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 So you identify as grey-a? Yeah, closeness is a big thing for me. :) Yeah, seems to fit for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Sketch Doge Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 But yes, I have this notion of pure affectionate closeness which is much more important to me than anything overtly sexual. I identify as demi as well and I'm right there with Guzica in the sense that the closeness is so much more important than anything else. I also have a basic sex drive but do not feel it towards any individual and can only remember doing so once. I often think about cuddling with those I'm interested in, just not anything more than that honestly. Link to post Share on other sites
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