What does orgasm feel like? (TMI Warning)

[superscyther]

Hey, everyone! I'm not quite sure where to put this topic, but I was wondering: what does an orgasm feel like? I mean, I've heard it supposedly feels good, but that doesn't mean much to me. I'm a 21-year-old who used to identify as an asexual, but after years of knowing a wonderful fellow (to whom I am now engaged! :D ) I've discovered that I am closer to being demisexual.

Regardless, the point is that my fiancee and I are not currently sexually active, but plan on becoming so and are sort of "working up" to it as we become more comfortable with each other in a variety of ways. He already makes me feel good, emotionally and physically, but he says someday he would like to help me orgasm. I don't masturbate (I just don't care) and I don't think I've ever had an orgasm (would I know if I had?!). And I just wonder what its like. Supposedly people enjoy the feeling, but I also heard a girl tell me once that orgasm was uncomfortable for her, because it was just too intense and like her nerves were overloaded or on fire. So... I don't know. Any thoughts? I'd just like to hear what you think. :)

[G4RRYs]

A real orgasm does feel very good, even though I've only experienced one a handful of times. And yes, you will definitely know about it if you have a proper one. I thought I'd had one loads of times before actually having a proper one. I was wrong though. Sometimes they are stronger than at other times, and most of the time pretty crap, so generally I think they aren't that great at all really and not worth the bother. But a really intense one is great, although I think that a full blown orgasm is an uncomfortable or strange feeling if you haven't had a proper one before.

If you feel it just in your genitals then it's so-so. A proper one you should feel all over your body. The actual feeling is totally indescribable though. It felt like my head was gonna explode, but in a good way. I think a real orgasm is very hard to achieve most of the time though.

This is how I think of it anyway.

[Alan Degas]

I'll also put my vote in for " if you have one, you know".

It is quite difficult to explain what it feels like and yes there can be several "degrees". I think what any orgasm has in common though is a feeling of "complete". It's possible to get that feeling of "complete" several times (multiple orgasms) but if it doesn't happen at least once it's pretty frustrating (for me personally, I mean).

I would actually recommend that you experiment by yourself before attempting to reach orgasm with your partner. Having sex with a straight cut plan to reach orgasm could prove to be frustrating for both of you. If you get yourself a vibrator and experiment with what feels nice and without the explicit point of reaching an orgasm, and without having to feel like you have to perform for anyone, it is way more likely going to be enjoyable. Once you know your body and its reactions better, it will be a lot easier to share with your partner and you can activly guide him towards what feels best for you instead of both of you fumbling around in the dark.

[noysoffer]

A real orgasm is amazing, especially if you're giving it to someone. The feeling is pretty difficult to describe, but it's mostly feeling uncontrollable bliss.

[Paper Roses]

Yes, they are very nice. If you have one you'll know it. Tough to describe. Tough to get there but well worth it and they vary in intensity too. It's like leaving your body, for me anyway. Really relaxes you. I wish I could let someone feel me have one. I shake alot and it is hard not to scream. Do you ever try porn? Sometimes you can see stuff that will help you along.

[Azure.Providence]

Just a bunch of muscle contractions for me--its rather "meh". I much prefer slow touches and kissing

[zoidberger]

I'm just wondering how you think it'd be possible to have an orgasm without masturbating or having sex? I guess there could be a very very rare occasion that someone hits a bump in the right way, but that wouldn't produce an orgasm in 99.9999% of society.

If you're interested in becoming sexually active and aren't opposed to masturbation, maybe you should give it a try... It would probably make sex go a lot better to have an idea of what your body is like.

[Notte stellata]

I've never felt a very intense or mind-blowing orgasm, but it's still clearly felt when it comes. For me it's an accumulation of good feelings. When it reaches the peak, it's usually uncomfortable to keep stimulating.

Orgasm isn't very important to me. It usually takes me a long time to reach orgasms, so sometimes I just don't bother going on, and not reaching orgasms doesn't bother me at all.

[superscyther]

Thank you for your replies and thoughts, everyone.

Hmm, porn arouses me but I don't get anything from it, and that can be frustrating.

Also, I'm really no good at masturbating! I mean to say that I can get aroused but I've also found I get bored very quickly, unless I have my partner with me. He's let me help him masturbate, which I find exciting, and we're slowly working on helping me masturbate, too. As I sort of alluded to, we do not yet have sex, but we are getting to know each other's bodies better, bit by bit, with the intention of having sex someday (and with no specific date in mind; very low-pressure! :) ). Also, when I say that my partner would like to help me orgasm someday, he's very chill about it. I'm really the one who get more worked up about it, in part because I get kind of frustrated when I maybe think I'm getting close. But it's maybe like I hit a wall, or something, and then my body just gets restless and I end up feeling a bit mystified or confused, because I can't seem to understand my body better. :(

[Sarcastic_Morteo]

I'm just wondering how you think it'd be possible to have an orgasm without masturbating or having sex? I guess there could be a very very rare occasion that someone hits a bump in the right way, but that wouldn't produce an orgasm in 99.9999% of society.

If you're interested in becoming sexually active and aren't opposed to masturbation, maybe you should give it a try... It would probably make sex go a lot better to have an idea of what your body is like.

I've had two times in my life where I'd felt a non-sexual bliss like that. Once was when I worked in a Japanese fast-food place. I made myself a bowl of teriyaki when it was slow and spotted a jar of sesame seeds on a shelf in the back. They were a little oily, I've only ever saw toasted so it was odd, but poured some in my bowl anyways. It gave me such a strange sense of euphoria and I ended up dumping most of them in my bowl, eating most of them. My guess was that they were fermented. I'd get a similar but smaller effect from sesame oil for a few years afterwards, but it doesn't work for me anymore.

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[AceSpace]

I'm just wondering how you think it'd be possible to have an orgasm without masturbating or having sex?

This is how: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persistent_genital_arousal_disorder

[zoidberger]

I'm just wondering how you think it'd be possible to have an orgasm without masturbating or having sex?

This is how: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persistent_genital_arousal_disorder

Yeah, I've heard of this, but it's really not that common as far as I know... and usually quite uncomfortable from what I remember hearing (I think this was a Loveline/Dr. Drew radio show topic at one point).

[Naosuu]

OP: Check out THE GENERAL TMI THREAD. There's a lot of discussion of masturbating and orgasms. There's some tangents, but at some point it returns to what kind of orgasms there are. I think this might interest you.

[Guest]

Thank you for your replies and thoughts, everyone.

Hmm, porn arouses me but I don't get anything from it, and that can be frustrating.

Also, I'm really no good at masturbating! I mean to say that I can get aroused but I've also found I get bored very quickly, unless I have my partner with me. He's let me help him masturbate, which I find exciting, and we're slowly working on helping me masturbate, too. As I sort of alluded to, we do not yet have sex, but we are getting to know each other's bodies better, bit by bit, with the intention of having sex someday (and with no specific date in mind; very low-pressure! :) ). Also, when I say that my partner would like to help me orgasm someday, he's very chill about it. I'm really the one who get more worked up about it, in part because I get kind of frustrated when I maybe think I'm getting close. But it's maybe like I hit a wall, or something, and then my body just gets restless and I end up feeling a bit mystified or confused, because I can't seem to understand my body better. :(

From everything i have read / heard you may be blocking yourself. You have to relax enough to orgasm so worrying about it when you get close can actually stop it happening. Try massages and such to relax beforehand and just enjoy without feeling the need to orgasm and focus on what feels good.

Again, from what i have read. I researched it a lot at one point but i personally can't enjoy sex enough to orgasm.. and i don't even care anymore. But relax was the number one advice given when i did research. :)