I saw pornography at a young age, and I think it messed me up. Trying to find out if I’m asexual.

[Racoon#1]

  When I was 9 years old, I discovered pornography. I didn’t understand it, and I was grossed out. The thing is, those feelings haven’t changed and now I’m almost 15 years old. I know what sex is, and I still find it strange and I can’t figure out why other boys want it so bad. I know I don’t want it and I don’t even want to be in a relationship with anyone. I think I’m asexual, but I’m trying to figure out if it was caused by that event.  Before I saw it, I knew I was straight and attracted to women, (obviously not sexually yet). I just think it’s strange how after the discovery I was no longer attracted to women. My attitudes towards sex have barely changed at all, and I don’t want to be with a man or women ever. Based on my feelings and the events mentioned above, do you think I’m asexual, and if so could it have been caused by the shock of discovering porn at such a young age?

[Sally]

I think it's highly unlikely, because many straight boys/girls have been exposed to pornography at an early age and they haven't all decided that they are asexual.  Since you were very young then, you may not have had a real idea of what being attracted to/liking men or women meant.  In fact, you're still young enough that it's possible that in the next few years, your feelings about sex may change.  

 

However, we don't really know you, so we can't categorize you.  That's for you to determine, and you perhaps should give yourself a little more time before you do so.  

[Racoon#1]

@Sally Thank you. I think I will take some time and really try to figure myself out.

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Welcome to the club ... For me it played a huge role on who I am now. But I also had other events as an adult that kind pushed me into not wanting sex. Or the sex that I found appealing. 

For me it changed how I saw men. I tend to want to be femine rather then masculine... I was never masculine so it was easy. Now in my late 30s still marching forward. 

 

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[Georgia Musumeci]

I've a very similar story. 9 years old, exposed to pornography, grossed out by the whole ordeal. I however still feel romantic attraction, but I've hit fifteen and have not a care in the world for sex. For me personally, I checked with my therapist if this caused my asexuality and she did not believe my sexuality and childhood shock were related. I hope you're able to figure stuff out!

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2 hours ago, CallieHope said:

I'm the same way, I hate pornography with a passion! I want to be in a romantic relationship someday but I don't want the guy to be addicted to porn or try to manipulate me into having sex with him before marriage but it seems like all the guys today watch porn or want sex so I'm afraid I'll always be alone. I would rather be in a courtship with a man being friends with him than have sex! The only time I would have sex is after marriage to my husband, I don't like guys who are obsessed with sex it's just disgusting to me. 

 

I'm so glad to talk with people who feel the same way as I do! 

I am a guy and I am scared of the same. In today's worlds it's hard to find people who have something they believe in more then what society tells them. It's amazing to see that people still wait for marriage. I have a support group of married people in my life whome I seek advice from. 

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29 minutes ago, CallieHope said:

Cali_guy:

 

Yeah that's so true! I have a few Christian friends from my bible study who are waiting until marriage. I have made mistakes in the past with my ex boyfriends but now I am choosing to wait until marriage. So glad you feel the same as me  

@CallieHope:

Everything has a reason. I've never really dated IRL. Most of my relationship have been online only. Since I am scared of people IRL. Well not scared just picky . I must connect with someone otherwise I have nothing to say. 

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@CallieHope: same here. For me I rather type then anything else. Lately I've become hard of hearing which makes it hard to communicate.  Maybe we can go to another thread and just go back and forth if you'd like ... 

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