Life as asexual teen

[Alexya]

Okay first off my classmates gross me out. I have nothing against people who like sex stuff but like damn these other teenagers are like some sex addicted, brainwashed monkeys. Literally all they talk about is sex, private parts, how big dicks do the boys in my class have etc. Oh and the boys dont even get me started... They watched porn during swedish, they probably check out the teachers butts too, and you should see their wallpapers... This is why I have no friends, we have nothing to talk about because I aint about that sex life. Once this girl didnt believe that asexuality is a real thing and tried telling me to suck a dick or something and I was like girl please I dont care about that if I wanna suck something imma go grab a popsicle or a lollipop not some weird flesh stick boys pee out of. Sorry about this rant im tired of no one understanding that a 15 year old teenage girl infact can be asexual.

 

 

 

[Maya the Composer]

I completely understand how you feel. I've pretty much always felt that way about my peers, and yes, it makes it very hard to relate to them when sex and the like is all they talk about. Glad someone else feels the same way.

[letusdeleteouraccounts]

Just go to a magnet school. Solved all of my problems

[Smol Fox]

Damn thats disgusting. Like if they're into sex and want to discuss it, then that's fine, but forcing it onto someone is just wrong. Invalidating someone's orientation is even worse 😡 Anyone who treats you like that isn't worth a second glance. Sexual attraction is regarded as the primary characteristic of being a typical "horny teenager", so non-sexual people are often seen as broken, immature, or elitist. There's a divide between me and my sexual peers since sexual (and romantic) attraction seem to be intrinsic to their lives, while it doesn't fit into my life at all. Often wish I knew some aces and aros in real life.

[everywhere and nowhere]

1 hour ago, Star Lion said:

Just go to a magnet school. Solved all of my problems

What's a magnet school?

[letusdeleteouraccounts]

5 minutes ago, Nowhere Girl said:

What's a magnet school?

It’s basically a public school, but non traditional. Some put more focus on arts, some focus on getting a special degree/diploma like an IB deploma, some are meant to be more STEM focused, but they all function differently from traditional schools. My magnet school is literally on a community college campus and allows me to work towards graduating high school with a generalized associates degree

[everywhere and nowhere]

Well, all depends on what kind of schools are accessible in the first place in a particular area. But, to be honest, I doubt if that kind of more "academic" high school is immune to that stupid teenage "storyteller erotomania".

I just love this phrase - "erotoman gawędziarz", or literally "storyteller erotomaniac". And if it's any consolation - I think that for a lot of sex-crazed teenagers this is indeed a kind of a "ritual". I, as an asexual and a lover of non-conformism, just never felt any desire to "blend with the rest".

[Smol Fox]

12 minutes ago, Nowhere Girl said:

I, as an asexual and a lover of non-conformism, just never felt any desire to "blend with the rest".

Hell yeah, that's the only way to live 😤 

1 hour ago, Star Lion said:

go to a magnet school. Solved all of my problems

Just the fact that I've never heard of that makes me think it's difficult to get into or hella scarce lol

[Tunes]

It's hormones. They'll grow out of it. Just try to be patient until they get a little more mature. I promise that will wear off for most of them. I know it's extremely frustrating in the meantime, but they WILL grow out of it if you can be patient. And some of them might even make really good friends once they do get a bit more mature. So try to look at that behavior as just hormones blocking up their heads and try to look for what traits they have behind all that sex stuff. Those are the traits that are likely to still be there later. The hormones will wear off and when they do, so will the hype.  

[Tunes]

5 hours ago, smolfox1132 said:

Like if they're into sex and want to discuss it, then that's fine, but forcing it onto someone is just wrong. Invalidating someone's orientation is even worse 😡 Anyone who treats you like that isn't worth a second glance.

They probably don't realize they are doing it. We are all born in our own minds, so it takes time and maturity to understand something drastically different in someone else's mind. And yes, some people never become open enough to accept others, much less understand them. But most people eventually do. The younger you are, the less time you have had to figure out how to do that. Writing someone off too early is like refusing to give them the chance to learn any better. Now, that doesn't mean you need to put up with that kind of treatment! Stand your ground; let them know how much it bothers you. Draw lines and defend them when others try to cross them. From their perspective, they don't realize they are crossing a line - they think they are honestly helping you and giving good advice, so you have to point out the line and clarify that you don't appreciate their advice. If they still ignore it, then you might have to temporarily drop them for your own comfort. But don't give up on them permanently as a person - they might grow out of it, and if you give up on everyone before they get the chance to grow, you are going to become very very lonely. Just like others need to come to accept you as being different from them, you need to try to keep an open mind toward them, too. They aren't trying to be mean - they are just in a very different mental world than you are. Try to give them the same understanding that you want them to give you. 

[AceOfClubs]

ProbaHey I go to a private school and even though we should focus on a clean life style, people have given blow jobs and even had sex. There will always be idiots out there, especially idiot boys, but to me it sounds like your school is filled with idiots. 

 

Of course switching schools is probably a good idea but I think you should find friends that will empathize with you. I don't know how your school functions but if it is in the norm for your school become some what friends with a teacher. I don't know if I worded it properly but if you have any questions just ask.

 

Probably not that much of a help but I tried. You came to the right place because everyone here are so kind and helpful and you should be proud you are a part of this amazing community 

 

awkward fist bump

     me

[everywhere and nowhere]

29 minutes ago, AceOfClubs said:

Of course switching schools is probably a good idea

To be honest, I don't think so. Switching schools is always disrupting because no two schools follow the exact same curriculum and suddenly you discover that they have already completed a topic that was still to be covered at the old school... and so on, similar situations. Switching just because you feel uncomfortable about your classmates' behaviour is not a good enough reason. And then, people could ask at the new school about why have you moved to their school... this could lead to a repetition of the exact same situation. Do you think that in other schools there are no erotomaniacs? Even when I don't really believe that it's because of hormones, I believe that it's a kind of a "ritual" and most people behave like that because they are expected to.

[AceOfClubs]

2 hours ago, Nowhere Girl said:

To be honest, I don't think so. Switching schools is always disrupting because no two schools follow the exact same curriculum and suddenly you discover that they have already completed a topic that was still to be covered at the old school... and so on, similar situations. Switching just because you feel uncomfortable about your classmates' behaviour is not a good enough reason. And then, people could ask at the new school about why have you moved to their school... this could lead to a repetition of the exact same situation. Do you think that in other schools there are no erotomaniacs? Even when I don't really believe that it's because of hormones, I believe that it's a kind of a "ritual" and most people behave like that because they are expected to.

Hence what follows after I said probably because I don't have any idea since I am younger than the op. I would just establish a group of friends.