What's the worst thing a sexual person has ever said to you regarding asexuality?

[Guest]

On 10/29/2019 at 7:01 PM, Asexual_Fujoshi said:

Him: Ohhh so you haven't met the right guy, I can fix you.

 

Me: um no thanks, born like this, nuu fixing needed

 

Him: Don't be so ungrateful, lucky that a guy like me would ever want a dead fish like you. I'll just do it with you anyways, you will be in love with this d**k after.

 

Me: kay, well I dont feel like being raped so I am block you now, have a good day ^^

*****

Why are some ppl so gross?🤦🏾‍♀️

Bleh🙅🏾‍♀️😷🤢🤮

I hope you high fived him in the face with a brick.

[MCLoves]

Just general denial when I was trying to come out to my mom (which was SUPER HARD TO DO btw). The typical “you’ll grow out of it” and “there’s probably something wrong with the chemicals in their brains” kinda shit. It just sucked cuz I don’t think she understood how much trust I was putting in her there and she just shut me and my feelings down so fast. It was really annoying.

Maybe when I go off to college or start on a career path I’ll encounter some worse shit though. We’ll see. For now, that’s what I’ve got.

[Tayumari]

My friend told me "You maybe just haven’t met the right person"

and I responded to her by announcing that I had been dating the world’s best girlfriend for a month. Hmmm. Yeah. Sure. 

 

But I usually dont come out to people unless I know they’ll be ok with it. 

[IrishArcher]

I think my worst interaction was probably when a guy asked me out and I told him I was ace and he said he was fine with that, and when I showed up to the date he proceeded to tell me that asexuality was impossible for humans (he said he researched it) and then implied that I was just scared of intimacy so we could "take it slow" if I wanted.

[Green and Purple Dragon]

Not to my face, but overheard some people talking about different sexualities.

Person 1: “Oh yea isn’t there some thing where they don’t like anyone at all?  Isn’t that like asexuality?”

Person 2: “Oh yea that thing.  It ain’t even real, some people just want a label.”

Worst part was, I was about to jump in a say that I’m asexual until I heard Person 2’s response 

 

Another time I said I was aro ace and my friend responded with “Don’t worry, I’ll help you find a boyfriend!”

[Artistbikerfarmer]

The Good:

"That's why you're so nice"

"That explains it"

The Bad:

"Just buy Viagra"

"You're definitely gay"

The Ugly:

"You must be one of those incels"

"Some day I'm going to tie you up and f**k you till you like it"

 

 

[Crazycrazycultist]

24 minutes ago, Artistbikerfarmer said:

The Good:

"That's why you're so nice"

"That explains it"

The Bad:

"Just buy Viagra"

"You're definitely gay"

The Ugly:

"You must be one of those incels"

"Some day I'm going to tie you up and f**k you till you like it"

 

 

Fucking hell! What the fuck do people have in their system to say that?!

[wyrdwyrm]

"If you gave me twenty minutes I could change your mind."

 

baaaaaaaarf

[rainbowocollie]

Posted in a facebook group about being asexual. (I knowww my description says demisexual, but I didn't think the group would understand that so I said asexual. And I might be fully ace, anyways, I'm not sure.) Someone said they weren't convinced it was a real thing and when I tried to explain why it is real they accused me of just wanting to be special. So, y'know, that kinda rustled my jimmies.

If I had gone in saying "hey I'm demisexual", I can understand someone taking that and going "that isn't real, you just want to be special". But being without interest in sex period? How can people not think that's real?

[frostboot]

16 hours ago, questdrivencollie said:

Posted in a facebook group about being asexual. (I knowww my description says demisexual, but I didn't think the group would understand that so I said asexual. And I might be fully ace, anyways, I'm not sure.) Someone said they weren't convinced it was a real thing and when I tried to explain why it is real they accused me of just wanting to be special. So, y'know, that kinda rustled my jimmies.

If I had gone in saying "hey I'm demisexual", I can understand someone taking that and going "that isn't real, you just want to be special". But being without interest in sex period? How can people not think that's real?

I think stuff like this is the worst to deal with! Just straight up denial about who you are. 

Also, I just want to say that people should respect you and believe you regardless of whether you say that you're asexual or demisexual! Demisexual doesn't sound "less real", and dismissing it is not more understandable than dismissing asexuality. 

[Zagadka]

I haven't had someone make a comment directly to me because I'm not out anywhere, but the one that bothers me most is that asexuality doesn't exist, because it was such a relief to know that I'm not completely broken. Feeling justified and normal with other people is important.

[gray-a girl]

On 9/16/2018 at 11:00 AM, Guest Jetsun Milarepa said:

IRL? Haven't had any problems! On AVEN ....where do I start?

Me too. I was told many times I'm sexual on here.

 

Not that there is anything wrong with being sexual. I just don’t feel like it’s accurate and this is the one place I had expected to be accepted.

[Liana]

I mainly talk about being asexual both here and on discord. I’ve mentioned agreeing to a date without realizing it and ever since one girl (that’s a lesbian) has continuously brought up the idea that I could be demisexual.. I get that she is trying to be helpful and is meaning it in a good way, but hearing that makes me more worried.

 

I’ve had people assume that I’m the exact opposite of what I claim and they see me as a sexual deviant worse than everyone else (don’t know how since I get weirded out by hearing of that stuff so easily).

 

Worse thing was when some people who were friends of my friends decided to make a “joke” where they claimed that someone forced me to watch porn and masturbate and continued to try selling that joke to everyone that they could, to the point where I’ve heard people think that that actually happened nearly a year after it started.. I don’t care what people do so long as they keep that stuff away from me.

[thylacine]

On 11/8/2019 at 9:46 PM, i.r3beka said:

Someone kept blowing up my Snapchat asking why I “won’t f*** with me.”  Asked a lot of gross questions about whether or not I ever slept with anyone and maybe I’m not really asexual because you can’t know you’re asexual if you’ve never slept with anyone.

 

Ugh, Ill pass.

Well, that takes the prize for worst pick up line ever.

 

[SithLord]

On ‎12‎/‎1‎/‎2019 at 10:54 AM, IrishArcher said:

I think my worst interaction was probably when a guy asked me out and I told him I was ace and he said he was fine with that, and when I showed up to the date he proceeded to tell me that asexuality was impossible for humans (he said he researched it) and then implied that I was just scared of intimacy so we could "take it slow" if I wanted.

At least you learned early so you could've dropped him there and never talked to him again. 

[Irony-flower]

Worst that I can remember was:

Seriously could you just stop being so uptight and just accept your sexuality

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Friend of mine after I asked if  the people in one WhatsApp group could maybe send less hentai pictures. Because I found it very annoying. Seriously most of the pictures they were not even aesthetically pleasing. 

Also not entirely sure what sexuality he thinks I have to accept. I was to baffled to asked. And since everybody else was really nice about it I don't know how to bring it up again. 

[ArtemisTheAce]

No one has really said anything too mean to me yet, but there was this one thing my friend said that made me a bit upset and it was that she didn`t understand how I could know I was ace at 13 since I haven`t had sex yet

[ColeHW34]

"It's just abnormal hormones". 

Followed by me throwing a slipper at them.

[everywhere and nowhere]

On 11/9/2019 at 6:05 AM, Void_Screamer_907 said:

I'm always confused that people can't understand that it's not a choice to be ace but that it's a part of who I am. Like what's so hard to get about it???

And even if it was a choice, how could there be aything wrong about it? Don't I get to choose to never have sex?

[Carmine88]

I got a message on reddit where soneone said "you're not asexual, you're just not attractive enough to find a man." Which is interesting as they've never met me so it's strange to assume but okay...

 

My sister's boyfriend said it didn't sound real too despite the fact we've been around for quite a while just unnoticed because we are so few and don't really have much media presence. Not that media coverage is always a good thing...

[the great acescape]

I'm not out to that many people yet, and those I've been out to have been nothing but supportive. However, I did have a particularly awkward and uncomfortable experience with a doctor before realizing I was ace.

 

A few years back, I had my hormones tested of my own volition to see if there was a biological explanation for why I was so "broken". There wasn't even anything seriously wrong with my hormone levels, but when I told the doctor I hadn't ever really been interested in sex, he said to me "when need to get you fixed, because you don't know what you're missing".

 

It's always stuck in my craw in the worst way.

[pcctheant]

I was once told by my bisexual friend that bisexuality is much less represented and seen than asexuality when I complained about how asexuality is not seen very often. I don't mean to say that I think bisexuality is represented too much and I do wish there was more of it in modern media, but I do think that asexuality is much less well-known than bisexuality. Especially in the context of that moment, it seemed as if my friend was trying to invalidate my complaint. They're extremely smart, so I've started to wonder if bisexuality is shown less than asexuality. Is it true?

[Merlyn_Cosplayer]

"I can fix that for you" - Guy i had been talking to

"You just haven't had the right man in you yet why not give me a try?" - Random guy I turned down a one night stand 

"You don't know until you try so jut get laid already then you'll know how good it is" - A friend

 

The absolute worst was my own father though, who I've made clear to I'm not interested in any sort of relationship and he told me "I think I broke you" he doesn't have any interest in relationships anymore and seems to think because I have no need or want for anyone else in my life romantically that I'm broken

[Sally]

When I told someone I didn't want or like sex with anyone, she said "Well, have you tried women?"