Ace_as_hell_n_feelin_swell Posted August 13, 2018 Share Posted August 13, 2018 Lol when I came out to my bi friend, she told me asexuality wasn’t real/that I couldn’t come out since I never experienced sex/that I was probably gay/that I should masturbate.... she was super pissed off lol still my fav response from another LGBTQ kiddo 💃🏾 Link to post Share on other sites
erratic Posted August 16, 2018 Share Posted August 16, 2018 When I talked to my grandma about it (my mum accidentally brought it up in front of her!) I got ‘you just haven’t met the right person yet’, ‘but you’ve dated before’, and ‘don’t close yourself off to possibilities’...oh and ‘but don’t you want children’...even though I’m almost 30. This is the same woman who, when discussing my vegetarianism several years previously, said that it was selfish of me not to buy and prepare meat for my entirely hypothetical future husband and children!...I then reiterated that I don’t want children and if my ‘husband’ wanted meat he could cook it his damn self and got told that was selfish too! (She has very conservative beliefs about relationships for someone who has been divorced twice and raised 2 strong-willed and independent daughters who are also both divorcees!) Link to post Share on other sites
squaggly Posted August 16, 2018 Share Posted August 16, 2018 GAAAAAAYYY!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
œddy Posted August 16, 2018 Share Posted August 16, 2018 4 hours ago, squaggly said: GAAAAAAYYY!!!!!!! As much as that made me laugh, I hope they had a reason for being so incredibly insensitive! Link to post Share on other sites
HowAboutNo Posted August 16, 2018 Share Posted August 16, 2018 I've had some good ones, but I think the most impactful thing was when I told my dad, who is part of the LGBTQ+ community by the way: "Bullshit. Everyone is attracted to somebody, you're just broken." Quote Link to post Share on other sites
squaggly Posted August 16, 2018 Share Posted August 16, 2018 8 hours ago, œddy said: As much as that made me laugh, I hope they had a reason for being so incredibly insensitive! It's from a really edgy kid, who at the time was acting like a wannabe KKK member. Really not much more to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Noko42 Posted August 16, 2018 Share Posted August 16, 2018 5 hours ago, HowAboutNo said: I've had some good ones, but I think the most impactful thing was when I told my dad, who is part of the LGBTQ+ community by the way: "Bullshit. Everyone is attracted to somebody, you're just broken." That is down right brutal coming from some random di*khead. It’s made 1000 times worse coming from so close to you and who is apart of a community who allegedly has accepted us into their “safe space”. Man that pisses me off, if I was in your shoes that is the one person I would have let my guard down and believed would accept me 😡 not cool Link to post Share on other sites
qprainbow20 Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 “So you just don’t like people.” ”God doesn’t believe in asexuality.” ”so you don’t like touching?” ”You probably had sex from those Asian guys with the small dicks. You need a Mexican to do you right.” That last one is completely true. It happened during algebra. Link to post Share on other sites
rachelpenguin Posted August 22, 2018 Share Posted August 22, 2018 One of my closest friends: I don’t know why you’re worried about coming out. “Coming out” is for people who are lesbian or gay. Being asexual isn’t even a thing. So what - you don’t like sex. This was after I corrected him on what asexuality is. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucy in the sky Posted August 22, 2018 Share Posted August 22, 2018 Even though my mom knows, she still often "forgets" when I say/do something unconventional and scolds me by bringing up my future hypothetical family; Me, not a fan of hugging or touching in general Mom, hugs me to the point where she almost suffocates me "Moooooom, stooooop" "Oh, but honey, what's wrong with you? How can you not like physical affection? How are you going to touch your future husband?" " -.- I told you I'm not having a husband." "Oh, righ, right... *still in denial*" Don't know how this conversation started, but... mom: *sweeping the floor casually* you know... you might want to think about losing your virginity... me: *eyes almost fall out, jaw drops* ehm... what? mom: you should do it while you're young, I heard it hurts the older you get... me: *wtf* ummm, yeah, we've had this conversation, remember... me no like people in that way mom: *concerned* are you sure? Maybe girls- me: no... *sigh* Link to post Share on other sites
Kuraara Posted August 22, 2018 Share Posted August 22, 2018 I only really came out to my close friends and family and they have mostly been either neutral or supportive. But I have had a few duds: Two of my female friends told me I basically had to try dating before I could say I don't want to date. This was in response to me telling them I was gonna turn down a guy who asked me out. Apparently because I'm not aromantic they expect me to want to date. Like just not wanting to date is not a good enough reason. My Dad found it easier to rationalise asexuality as me having a mental problem rather than accepting it as an orientation. He asked me if it have trouble socialising/ empathising with people and then suggested I go talk to a therapist about it. Before, when I was leaning towards demisexuality instead of asexuality, I explained demisexuality to my Mum and her response was "That's me" even though earlier in the week she was telling me about a coworker she had the hots for. She also said like the day before that guys with "bossy mothers" are more likely to become gay later in life, so I don't think she actually understands how sexual orientations work. Link to post Share on other sites
knittinghistorian Posted August 22, 2018 Share Posted August 22, 2018 On 7/13/2018 at 8:49 PM, Nancy Esther said: Also: "you're sure you're not gay? If you're into both, maybe you're bi." Like, no... Though to be honest, I can KIND OF see that one, and at one point I vaguely wondered if I was bi, because I want to have sex with either gender to the same degree. The degree is just "not at all". Link to post Share on other sites
knittinghistorian Posted August 22, 2018 Share Posted August 22, 2018 Several people have talked about insensitive comments from grandmas ("you'll feel different once you're married" and whatnot). But I had a very interestingly opposite experience. My grandma and I were talking about my being aro/ace, and she said, just casually, that she never cared much about sex in her marriage to my grandpa (who passed away two years ago, and they were married over 60 years). It was always much more about the friendship and companionship for her, and also she had always wanted children. So it seems my grandma may actually be on the ace spectrum too. Who knew? Interesting. And that, kids, is why people who say asexuality is just a fad for edgy teenagers need to shut up. Link to post Share on other sites
Kuraara Posted August 22, 2018 Share Posted August 22, 2018 On 7/29/2018 at 7:57 AM, Noko42 said: I just got “dude you a bloody guy that sh*t doesn’t happen to us” and “OMG your a f*cking virgin that’s funny” and that’s why I have only told two people. Oh man that sucks. I'm sorry you don't have more supportive friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Colonel Aureliano Buendía Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 This thread serves to remind me that I am the luckiest person alive. I haven't gotten any negative responses to telling people I am ace, (due to a combination of factors: I have not identified myself as such for very long, and my very left wing family sent me to the most left-leaning high school in one of the more left-leaning cities of a very socially progressive country,) although I did get one response very worth noting. It happened during science class with someone I sit near, and it was also the first time I outright told someone I was ace. It went something like this: him- So what, like, sexuality are you then? me- I dunno, I think I'm asexual. him (very excited)- Really? That's so interesting! I never thought I would meet an asexual person! me- *laughs* him (to another person)- [other person's name] She's asexual. other person- Yeah, I know. me- How did you know? (I didn't even know, as I'd stated.) A few minutes later, the first person and I were joking about how together, we could just about make an average person. (he's bi, I'm ace. I like science and he's not interested, etc) Sorry for the opposing tone, but I thought that was a pretty funny story and my friends seemed pretty meh about it. Link to post Share on other sites
ForbiddenSnack Posted September 19, 2018 Share Posted September 19, 2018 "But I can't wait forever to have sex!" "But you make sexual jokes all the time!" "You just don't know yourself well enough!" "We kissed!" - distraught ex upon me discovering my orientation and sharing the news. On a more light-hearted note: "Okay, is anyone in this house heterosexual?!" - close friend at our small group's New Year's party. LGBT+ magnetism is real, guys. Link to post Share on other sites
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