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  2. Ciki

    Infertility and Asexuality

    Oh my,that's so sweet and wholesome.I hope it all goes well and good luck.I'm sure you'll be amazing at your new job😊💖
  3. Homer

    Why not, America?

    No matter who ends up being the president, they'll be "the face of the country". That's nothing Biden-specific. Not sure what makes you say that Biden has got the qualities you mention. He's the only candidate who has the potential to be even worse than Doughnald. Should sit in a retirement home watching Matlock...
  4. Don't push yourself to be with someone that you don't feel is right for you. She has no right to "fix" you.You've told her about your identity and you even went as far as to actually have sex with her. And she's still not happy?What more could she want? If she can't love you and accept you for who you are,then maybe it's best to look for another partner. But before doing that,try talking to her about this.Tell her how it makes you feel.And if she still insists on getting you "fixed",then you'll be sure she's not the right one for you.
  5. Zagadka

    Shower vs Bath: AVEN Championship

    Yea, we currently have a tub with a shower curtain. It isn't quite ideal to take a shower in.
  6. daveb

    Shower vs Bath: AVEN Championship

    I won't vote in the obviously highly biased poll. I'd say both baths and showers have their pros and cons. A good soak in a hot bath can be nice, but like @Catserole said, not so great when you're tall and you have a "standard" bathtub. The usual size you find in most middle class dwellings. I know lots of homes have at least some bathrooms equipped with a shower stall without a tub, and maybe some have tubs with no showerhead. I think the discussion about shower curtains vs glass doors has come up before, so I won't belabor it. I have my own opinion, but what I don't care what other people do in their own houses.
  7. Cimmerian

    Shower vs Bath: AVEN Championship

    Interesting! My house growing up had the bath/shower combo in the smaller bathroom and then in the master bath had a tub and a separate shower (square shaped but not crowded and had glass on two sides and walls on the other two). And I never knew anyone that had a small shower-enclosure only in the small bathrooms (in this country at least); here small bathrooms either had the tub (may or may not have shower component) or were only the powder-room variants with toilet and sink. We eventually updated the shower-only spot so it was a little bigger of a square with built in places for shampoo etc., a nicer glass door and tile/stone (not as large/crazy as a resort I stayed at, but certainly better than any bathtub shower I've seen so you never worried about hitting the walls. I like showers and I like baths, but I don't like showering in a bathtub; it always feels crowded between the wall and the shower curtain, slipping is still a problem, etc.
  8. Sabee

    Infertility and Asexuality

    I have a cat and a dog. Planning to turn my house into a shelter home soon. 😀
  9. Zagadka

    Why not, America?

    I also don't see a path for change. To borrow a bad term, it is too big to fail. We can't even get rid of the electoral college, because the states that benefit override the vote. And we just demonstrated that the government is hopelessly partisan.
  10. Thank you for the kind words.😊 It's still a bit fresh, but the incident described above does hurt, especially since i've had intercourse with her on multiple ocassions before. We've talked about it before and i did explain to her that while i feel no sexual attraction, i'm not repulsed by the idea of it and would gladly do it to fulfill her desires. And now almost a year into the relationship i suddenly find myself wondering if this is the right partner for me after all, and if i can live with someone that will constantly try to "fix" my sexuality... 😔
  11. uhtred

    Why not, America?

    I agree with the need for change in the way the government runs, but I don't see a way to get there. The people and organizations currently in power got there under the present system, and will naturally support that system. The constitution does allow changes, but the requirements are going to be extremely difficult to meet with the present level of division in the country. Of course we would also need broad agreement on what constitutes a better system.
  12. Kimchi Peanut

    Shower vs Bath: AVEN Championship

    I do hate shower curtains. I had one with glazed shower doors - that was great.
  13. CBC

    After 3 years he wants sex and a child..

    @MakeshiftHeart At this point, your job is to take care of yourself and work on letting go of the situation. Whatever the truth is, it still sucks and it still hurts and that's the reality. One-sidedly analysing the past doesn't really accomplish anything. You two are both free to move onto something better.
  14. Catserole

    Shower vs Bath: AVEN Championship

    Yeah, modern shower enclosures tend to give a larger area to stand in than a standard bathtub unless it's a really small one you're squeezing into an ensuite room. Then there's the horror of the shower curtain, or those glass partition screens that never seem to be quite long enough.
  15. ryn2

    anyone past 50 on here?

    Oh, that’s great news!
  16. ryn2

    After 3 years he wants sex and a child..

    I’m assuming the OP is the best judge of which it was, having lived it. Either way, though, kids just aren’t “compromise-able”... and there’s a big difference between someone who isn’t sure they want kids and someone who is adamant they don’t/never will. Do people in the latter category occasionally change their minds? Sure. But it’s not a gamble someone who thinks they may want kids should take and then complain about.
  17. Kimchi Peanut

    Shower vs Bath: AVEN Championship

    Wait... So you didn’t have a shower growing up? How did you wash? 🧐 Why are you using quotes for shower like it’s not a real shower if it’s in a bathtub? Is that considered something separate from a normal shower where you’re from? I don’t actually know anyone with a stand-alone shower - as in every home I can think of where I’ve used their bathroom has a bath/shower. (Both in the US and UK.) It has literally never occurred to me that someone might class a shower bath combo as completely different to a walk-in shower. I basically only see bathless showers in second smaller bathrooms in bigger houses. (Not a big enough room to have a normal sized shower with a bathtub.) Really? I’ve found the opposite. My childhood house had a second, smaller bathroom where there wasn’t enough room for a regular sized shower/tub. So the previous owners put a shower enclosure in. It sucked. We never used it. It was very basic - not the kind of shower you normally find in a regular tub where you can adjust things - and tiny. I have used huge luxurious showers in nice hotels but that’s absurdly out of my price range. 😂 Does your shower not have shower head settings?
  18. CBC

    Advice

    Well, you two seem to be pretty entangled, and if you're going to scale things back, I think it's best to have an honest conversation about what's going on, yeah. I've been in too many situations (in life in general) where straightforward communication didn't happen and assumptions were made, expectations held, etc. Talk and make some decisions and stick to the boundaries you decide upon. It'll just get messier otherwise. Best to minimise the potential for unintentional hurt by being honest with each other instead of dancing around whatever lines currently exist.
  19. Astrobot

    Shower vs Bath: AVEN Championship

    Well, in Greece most old houses have a bathtub instead of a shower but it's not what I meant (Especially since showers are becoming quite common in new houses). What I meant is that most people I know (which is a small sample so I'm not insinuating anything about the general population) tend to take a bath there whereas I don't.
  20. Expedition

    After 3 years he wants sex and a child..

    Well we weren't there, so maybe. I don't think disagreeing with you about noisy kids really counts as pressuring you though, if that's all that was going on.
  21. Very cool! I did a presentation on asexuality for a class, but mine was for counseling students, so the topics may or may not apply. Feel free to take them or leave them. - The difference between sexual attraction and libido. Many aces have an active libido, just don't have a desire to tend to it through sex. It causes a lot of confusion. - Asexuality has really only gained recognition and scientific study in the last 2 decades. Good luck!
  22. MakeshiftHeart

    After 3 years he wants sex and a child..

    As someone who has lived with him for 3 years and seen his ways, I do think he lied the entire time. There have been multiple times I began to wonder if he was trying to pressure me to have kids. There have been incidents where I got annoyed by the energy and noise kids were making, and he would say “They’re just being kids!” He’s gotten mad at me saying I hate them just for “existing” when that my be true but I NEVER react towards kids I just remove myself from the area they’re in. There has been MANY “if I had a kid” stories. Theres also been other problems he would not communicate with me on until he was MAD about it. So yes I think this is something he held onto and just now let out.
  23. Ciki

    Infertility and Asexuality

    I'm glad you were able to move on and live your life in peace. Also,i'm a huge animal lover,so what do you have (cats,dogs...)?You don't have to answer if you don't want to,of course.
  24. Expedition

    Advice

    I think it's all too predictable, actually.
  25. dmvfhr99

    Advice

    Do you think I should vocalise it or is that superfluous (with the potential of being hurtful)?
  26. MetricalSky

    Chain Game – Geography

    In 2010, the Queen Charlotte Islands were officially renamed Haida Gwaii, which means "islands of the Haida people."
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