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Coming Out of the Closet

My discovery of asexuality begins with irony. I had a really huge crush on a friend of mine- all of my friends knew I liked him, and were totally perplexed when I spent an entire year not doing anything about it. Finally, just before he moved away, I got the courage to tell him- but then he asked a question I’ll never forget: “If I liked you, what would you do?”

My response was an honest one- “Nothing… Either way, it doesn’t matter.” It frustrated me, and probably confused him a bit too. I realized that my crush on him, and the rare crushes I had in the past, were platonic at best. I never had the desire to kiss or doing anything physical. I never liked dating because I was afraid guys would try to put the moves on me. Two had, and I had shot both down. It occurred to me that I was different, but I didn’t have a name for it quite yet.

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Asexual Perspectives

Opening the door to self-discovery

By ~Acer~

As humans, we are in general a social species, programmed to support each other in family units and communities and it seems often mob rule dictates what is normal, expected or acceptable behaviour. Especially in a modern society where the media projects these ideas into every facet of our lives, we are now educated very early on as to how life apparently is. No matter what our true feelings inside, we may now attempt to adhere to the ‘rules’ that we have collectively set ourselves.

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Digest for 4th - 11th January 2021

Site News:

Voting is now taking place in the Moderator and Project Team elections.

The Winter 2021 issue of AVENues has been published, celebrating 20 years of AVEN. Submissions are now being taken for the next issue on the subject of wellness.

Research Requests:

A PhD student at University College Cork has created a questionnaire to study the internalisation of an asexual orientation.

World Watch:

YouTuber Hannah Witton's video on relationship myths covers many aspects relevant to asexuals, though does not discuss asexuality explicitly.

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