"Signs" of Asexuality?
Posted 17 July 2011 - 04:31 AM
Posted 17 July 2011 - 04:46 AM
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Posted 17 July 2011 - 04:51 AM
Maybe to some people, they can just know. Like some people have that "gaydar" thing, I guess. Or maybe knowing someone who ace helps them recognize another.
Posted 17 July 2011 - 05:08 AM
That being said, anyone who hangs around enough with me will get the vibe that I'm asexual, even if they don't necessarily know what to call it.
Posted 17 July 2011 - 05:16 AM
"I am what I am, I can't help myself
And if you don't like it, get with somebody else
I'll never change my ways, it's not a phase,
This is how it is and this is how it's gonna stay"
- The Jonas Brothers, "I Am What I Am"
Posted 17 July 2011 - 07:05 AM
But if we hang around with a perceptive sexual long enough, they can tell. They just might not know it's asexuality they are noticing. My city is pretty accepting of queers on a broad scale, so the question "are you queer/gay?" is much more often asked in a polite way here than most places. I always used to get confused why people thought I was gay, it it's all to do with the way I interact with all women as friends, and no one has ever ever ever seen me make a sexual pass at them.
Posted 17 July 2011 - 10:18 AM
I think it depends on how well you know the person too. At times, much can be said just with everyday gestures and the way one writes, but it's up to other people to notice it. Not all of them are receptive enough to details.
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Posted 17 July 2011 - 05:45 PM
I have learned that to be with those I like is enough.
Posted 17 July 2011 - 06:55 PM
Yeah, it's person-dependent. Nobody who's met me believes I'm ace - and that's largely because a) I flirt, b) I check people out and c) I'm right in the middle of any and every dirty joke or sexual conversation going. I don't 'act asexual' in the slightest, so nobody's ever guessed, and nobody believes me when I come out of the ace closet
yeah nobody's told me anything that I act weird or anything. i don't flirt but I like to look at people and talk with dirty jokes or always in a sexual conversation.
I guess people are going think I am sexual just waiting for "the one" I don't think any of my friends know what asexual is besides the science relation.
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Posted 18 July 2011 - 07:45 PM
Weird story. I was a debate tournament once with a friend and we ran into a girl he knew there. She turns to me and goes "Oh my God... can you believe all the hot guys that showed up here???"
I gave a quick look around and do a little stammering "I... uh, uhm. Hm... I, uh, I didn't notice."
She looked at me like I was crazy and my friend laughed it off knowing that's just how I am.
A very similar thing happened with another friend of mine and her (baby-crazy) friend that I'd just met. She was asking me why I didn't have a boyfriend already. I tried to explain but couldn't word myself well. My friend jumped in to say that dating wasn't my scene.
And once more back in high school, a girl (acquaintance level) told me she could never see me getting married. Not in the crazy cat lady way or because of rejection or whatever. She never saw me pursuing it.
I think all my friends without me having to explain.
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