I'm really confused

[polygons]

I was always asexual, aromantic and a bit introverted. I knew how to deal with people but it wasn't something I would do If I had the choice. I was young and thought It will never be a problem for me, but, hello adulthood. I'm a 19y male and I recently I've found myself reconsiling my ideas.
 

I've never been in a relationship, not that everyone hated me, but I wasn't interested, and I didn't understand other's hints, and they times I did i felt weird and really wanted to skip that frame of my life. I knew this was wrong and relationships are essential to build a personality, but I only kept hoping for a change. Sometimes,  I imagine myself in a relationship and that ideas entertains me for some time but then I find it silly.

I don't really know what I should do about my aromanticism, I am sure it isn't right and will have it's negative effects on me some time later. HELP!

I didn't also know about asexuality, it was a recent term for me and it made me feel happy because I was a part of something. I never thought about its implications but now, look, I will get married some time in my life, because of society, and, most of all,  my mother. And it will be a bit odd to never have sex, see, I've recently quit porn and masturbation and I'm feeling repulsed by even the idea of it. Even though the repulsion might not last, sex remains silly and I'm better off without it. Does this mean I'll be forever alone ? Will my mother be happy about it ? I tried to tell her about my asexuality but she told me, it's natural as this age, and it will change later. HELP!

 

When I found out about asexuality and about aromanticism, I though like, labels, cool, I'm a part of a cult, we will change the world. But being in the community made me actually think about the implications and I'm feeling really confused, and worried.

Should I let it flow naturally and ignore all of these thoughts ? Will I ever be over it ? Should I go see a doctor ?

 

PS: Sorry for any mistake, still struggling with the english/keyboard.

[Laurathenerd]

I will try to answer your questions to the best of my ability.

19 minutes ago, polygons said:

 don't really know what I should do about my aromanticism, I am sure it isn't right and will have it's negative effects on me some time later. HELP!

There is nothing wrong with aromanticism, and it will likely not create negative effects. 

 

21 minutes ago, polygons said:

 Does this mean I'll be forever alone ? Will my mother be happy about it ? I tried to tell her about my asexuality but she told me, it's natural as this age, and it will change later. HELP!

This definitely does not mean you will be forever alone. There are many aromantic people in QPRs, and a platonic relationship is just as good as a romantic one (in my opinion). As for your mom, try telling her again, and showing her AVEN. This may help her understand what you are feeling, and show her that Asexuality is valid. She most likely meant you no harm, and is just uneducated about asexuality.

 

26 minutes ago, polygons said:

 

Should I let it flow naturally and ignore all of these thoughts ? Will I ever be over it ? Should I go see a doctor ?

 

  Sexuality is fluid, but it is unlikely that you will ever be over it, as it is your sexuality, and it is not "just a phase." There is no need to see a medical doctor, as there is nothing they can do. But if you really wanted professional advice, I would recommend seeing a therapist to help you come to terms with your sexuality. 

 

 

 

I hope this was helpful, and I am sorry if it did little to ease your mind.

[roland.o]

28 minutes ago, polygons said:

Should I go see a doctor ?

That's the one thing to which I can give a definitive answer: nothing you write describes a medical condition. No, you don't need to see a doctor about it. And a doctor will not help you in any way to sort out your feelings, your doubts and fears of the future.

 

30 minutes ago, polygons said:

I don't really know what I should do about my aromanticism, I am sure it isn't right

Aromanticism is a romantic orientation. There's nothing you can do about it. And who's to tell what's right or wrong, except yourself?

 

One thing you could ask yourself though is this: are you sure you're aromantic, rather than grayromantic? Because if you're gray, you might encounter the right person yet, and fall in love. If you're aro, and still want a relationship, it would make more sense to look for a queerplatonic partner.

 

Either way, try to spend time with people and make friends. Just plain, platonic friends.

 

36 minutes ago, polygons said:

Will my mother be happy about it ?

Probably not. Does it matter? You've got to live your life, and you should live it in a way that makes you happy, not your mother.

 

37 minutes ago, polygons said:

I tried to tell her about my asexuality but she told me, it's natural as this age, and it will change later.

Let her believe what she wants to believe. There's no point in arguing with her. Maybe she's right, maybe not. You'll see, eventually.

[polygons]

49 minutes ago, Laurathenerd said:

I hope this was helpful, and I am sorry if it did little to ease your mind.

Oh thanks, I truly appreciate your replies and support, It makes me feel more excited to live another day.