LolaVanVader Posted September 17, 2016 Share Posted September 17, 2016 So I'm a 21 year old girl who, up until this point considered myself very straight. However, I have never been attracted to male genitals, they gross me out, additionally I'm not attracted to female genitals. Vaginas gross me out, I won't even touch myself. But I'm attracted to men and there's elements about a woman that turn me on, such as her beauty, breasts, or lush lips. But I ideally am most attracted to the idea of the tall dark and handsome manly man. But I am repulsed by genitals. I do like having sex just as long as I don't have to see the genitals or touch them with my hands or mouth and I haven't had sex with a female yet, only men. But I am confused about my sexuality. I've looked online and I am having a hard time finding a category that I fit into. Anybody have any ideas? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kalki Posted September 17, 2016 Share Posted September 17, 2016 Hi Lola, I don't know if I can help you out since I am new here as well. I relate to what you are saying though. For me it is not so much that I get grossed out by genitals but that I just don't feel any attraction or desire for doing anything with them. I do feel strong attraction to men, women and non-binary people. I find women's bodies to be beautiful, I also find men's bodies to be arousing. But I never actually want to have sex. I guess all I can say is that I am trying figure it out too and it was nice to read your post and know that someone else is struggling with this as well. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mikeman7918 Posted September 17, 2016 Share Posted September 17, 2016 It might be a good idea to check out the AVEN FAQ to see if it has anything helpful to you, it certainly has helped me on a few occasions. If you want my two cents, it is possible for someone to be sex-repulsed without being asexual so both of you may still be sexual. Only you can make that call for yourself though, so take my opinion with a pinch of salt. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 17, 2016 Share Posted September 17, 2016 Bi-curious, perhaps? Heteroflexible? Repulsion can exist regardless of orientation. It's also helpful to note that you can have aesthetic or sensual attraction (or even romantic attraction) and have it not be connected to sexual attraction. But what you're describing does sound like sexual attraction, if it "turns you on". Quote Link to post Share on other sites
timidcat Posted September 17, 2016 Share Posted September 17, 2016 If you have a desire for sex with the person you are probably not asexual. There are many people who love the feeling of sex but don't like looking at or even touching the genitals. Then there are people who form an attraction to them if it's someone they really love. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 17, 2016 Share Posted September 17, 2016 People of any orientation can experience repulsion, and many people find genitals ugly or gross (ever heard of the phrase "bumping uglies" to refer to sex?). Coincidentally, a highly sexually active friend of mine was just yesterday ranting about how utterly gross male genitals are, and how she can't look at them with being completely turned off, and how awkward this can make her sexual encounters with men. She's considering looking into finding some sort of therapy to help her get over it. I would suggest taking your feelings of repulsion toward genitals out of the equation when considering your orientation. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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