Iggy Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 Hi, I am 53 and only found out about asexuality this year, and it was a great relief to know I wasn't alone. Around twenty years ago I gave up sex. Despite never being greatly interested in sex, in the previous dozen or so years I had had sex with a bunch of guys and a couple of women. It seemed expected, it was just what people did. I don't recall the sex itself being unpleasant, but I never seemed to get out of it what others did. When I saw how much my partners got out of it I felt different, like there was something wrong with me. It was very isolating. In spite of my partners often seeming quite loving afterwards, the lonliest times I can recall in my life were lying in bed with someone I had just had sex with. That my partners seemed to have had a great time, and were unaware of how I felt, often left me feeling used, even on occassion abused. I couldn't talk about it at the time because it was like sex had opened up such a gulf between us. I haven't really been able to talk about these feelings over the years because I never really understood them myself, and it seemed so outside the norm. I have been perfectly happy over the years living alone and socialising with friends but so much seems to revolve around sex and relationships I have always feel like an outsider. I often think it would be nice to meet a guy like me. We could do all the stuff that couples do aprt from the sex. It would be nice, but as I said I am perfectly happy as I am. Anyway it's been great to discover that there is nothing wrong with me and that I am not alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Lady Girl Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 Hi Iggy and welcome to AVEN! Whenever I read a description like yours...it helps me to understand better how my husband might have been feeling all those years he was compromising with me. I suspect it wasn't like that every single time, but enough of the time to make him feel isolated and out of sinc like you. Thanks for sharing your story and I hope you love being a member of this awesome community! :) Happy almost Halloween! Link to post Share on other sites
Tessc Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 Hi and welcome! There's bound to be people here you can find to talk to; you might like to try the Australian meet up mart :) Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 Hello and welcome. Link to post Share on other sites
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