Masturbating A's: what do you think about when masturbating?

[gilnokoibito]

Oh...wow...I didn't think so many other people who were asexual also thought of anime characters 0.0 Yay! I'm not alone!

However, as uber embarrassing as it is, here's how it usually is for me:

It varies, but usually what gets me started most is sound. I'll admit *egh :cough cough:* to having some gay porn and yaoi...I sometimes watch it to get things going (I've even taken all the "good" and noisy scenes out of several different ones and edited them together into single lump files.) But after a bit, it's the sounds that really matter. (Which is why the cut and edited videos are on my mp3 player, including straight sound rips from yaoi anime.) I listen to those sounds and that can normally do it for me. However, sometimes I like to imagine an anime version of myself doing ummm "things" with characters I have made up in my head (It's sort of an ongoing story of characters I've had for years really.) But normally this just gets me in the uhh "mood." To really, truly do things for me I have to think of things that I...uhhhm...don't really like admitting too. It disturbs me greatly. I...uhh...think of me (albeit a slightly different, slightly prettier version of me) with umm...male members of my family. Now, don't get me wrong! I HAVE NEVER been in an incestual relationship, don't really ever want to be in one either! (After all, I am asexual.) BUT, for some reason it allows me to think of a terribly...uhm...slutty? version of myself that has no problems doing REALLY icky things...and that's kind of what does it for me. But afterwards I always feel downright sickened with myself. Like "What the F*** is wrong with me? How sick can I be???" But like I said, I never want these things, just the images help a lot....

eeeeeggggggghhhhhhh.....AHHHH! I can't believe I just said all that!!!!!!!! But I suppose I do feel a bit better now...lighter really....

[antiwar94]

I usually think about celebrities I have crushes on (though I never would do anything with any of them in reality, even if possible), and sometimes I just make people in my head.

Though, I find myself aroused more by porn, or by reading something sort of sexual. It helps me better than thinking of something.

Maybe I'm just not a very imaginative person. xD

[eee]

i am a demi.........the only person that my brain allows is my bf, i fantasize about him to the max and I am not ashamed of it. :redface:

[BØØM]

I'm a male and I have a tongue fetish, so I think of tongues. Female tongues to be exact. Which is why I don't consider myself to be 100% asexual.

[Kelly3LP]

i don't think, I just watch porn,anything normal with M/F, F/F, or M/M

[TG-G]

I only think about random good looking guys kissing & making out, if I think about anything at all. & most of the time, like 80% of the time, my only focus is on achieving the orgasm. I do think about my celebrity crushes & regular life crushes in homo-romantic situations though, but not when I'm masturbating.

[Zora]

Hm. I don't think about sex at all. Discovered masturbation (well, what I know now to be masturbation) very young, as many do, and what I think about hasn't changed. Fetish stuff. But nothing to do with sex. That would be unpleasant for me.

[Trolley In The Dark]

Nothing in particular, really. It's just that my internal drive is so incredibly strong to the point of making me irritable, I am just desperate to release the energy caused by my nuclear-bomb strength hormones. It's aggravating, and I have nothing on my mind except to release the energy I wish I didn't have.

[OperaGoose]

*cough*Remus/Sirius*cough* And I imagine myself as Remus. *runs away*

(Yeah, I'm a gay man in a woman's body.)

I'm a gay man in a woman's body too. I'm a heterophobe.

I've never been into Remus/Serius - I'm a Draco/Harry from the HP fandom. But I flick between several fandoms.

I think of male-homosexual relations when masturbating.

I've never achieved orgasm, though. I have to stop before, it gets too much and I'm not sure why.

[Sean of Cydonia]

Wrestling, with very specific exceptions.

-Most of what you see on TV will not do it for me. It's just something in the way it's played out that isn't useful to me.

-Absolutely no "hardcore" crap. If I wanted that, I'd just play Mortal Kombat, which I also hate.

-I usually don't like something that's overly competitive, but I don't like it to be overly passive either. A balance is necessary.

-No one-sidedness or "domination." My mind probably likens it to rape, on some level.

-Teamwork (i.e., tag teams) is fun.

-Males or females, it doesn't matter. Usually I'm repulsed by male vs. female, though not always. Something about the psychology of it messes with me.

-I'm referring to both the televised kind ("pro") and the high school/college kind.

I haven't checked the entire thread, but do I get the award for weirdest, most eyebrow-raising answer? I feel like I should.

[SquirrelCat]

Well, I don't really think about anything because when I try I find my thoughts straying.

But from time to time I do try to think of my two favourite manga/anime characters getting it on (with bondage)... and yet again end up finding my thoughts straying from the task a hand :P

[Vitaphobia]

I think about sex. Sometimes (but not always) I identify with one of the participants. I imagine all sorts of situations (m/m, f/f, m/f, man/aircraft, bondage, etc.). It's kinda weird for me, knowing that I wouldn't enjoy any of these situations, but still getting off on them. And lol sometimes I get distracted, too.

[asexualsubguy]

I have a new plan in regards to jerking off. Until looking at porn gets me fully erect I won't masturbate. This will be quite the challenge, because even on my best masturbation days I barely get it up enough to get off. It has been like 9 years since I had a respectable erection, which humors me to no end. According to yoga philosophy it takes 12 years of not having an orgasm to reap the full benefits of the practice. I am a long ways from 12 years.

[katbird]

*cough*Remus/Sirius*cough* And I imagine myself as Remus. *runs away*(Yeah, I'm a gay man in a woman's body.)

I'm a gay man in a woman's body too. I'm a heterophobe.I've never been into Remus/Serius - I'm a Draco/Harry from the HP fandom. But I flick between several fandoms.I think of male-homosexual relations when masturbating.I've never achieved orgasm, though. I have to stop before, it gets too much and I'm not sure why.

Oh God, I can't believe you just said that! I have always viewed myself as a gay man in a woman's body, too! I believe that's how my gay best friend views me, too, haha. I am so glad I'm not alone!

But yeah, on the rare occasions I watch porn :redface: , I'll watch *some* hetero, but I tend to gravitate towards male/male porn. I can't say, though, I've read many (or any) Remus/Sirius fics. But I will one day. :P

[jasonkramer]

Nothing in particular, really. It's just that my internal drive is so incredibly strong to the point of making me irritable, I am just desperate to release the energy. It's aggravating, and I have nothing on my mind except to release the energy I wish I didn't have.

couldn't have put it better my self. thank you.

[pips]

If I focus on one thing I get turned off pretty fast, so I generally try not to think of anything at all.

I'm the same way. I told someone this once & they didn't see how I could do it & not think of anything.

[karugi]

I've never successfully masturbated while thinking of myself and/or another known person. The only way I reach orgasm is to totally seperate myself from the fantasy I am imagining, which is usually a fictional couple (eg from a book or tv series) whom I imagine are having sex and/or strong emotional bonds.

I'm another "fictional characters, not my self!" person! XD I have a lot of favorite pairings!(I'm a die-hard shipper!) I'll imagine myself as one of the characters, but sometimes I'll switch characters throughout one scene. Even if the character is the opposite sex, I'll still imagine myself as them. I usually imagine them masturbating eachother rather than having sex. However, I usually focus more on their expressions (and moans XD).

I've been doing this since I was eleven. XD

This is totally the same thing for me.

Edited April 14, 2011 by GirlDreamer
Double post merged.

[passionatefriend61]

Usually, I use porn or erotic fiction to get turned on and then at some point, I can just quit paying attention to it and not think of anything as I finish the job.

I CAN turn myself on with thoughts alone but it takes way longer and doesn't work nearly as well as that external stimulus. I remember when I was a child and started masturbating and didn't have porn/erotica at my disposal, I didn't think of anything at all. It was purely physical. Now, when I've got nothing but my own brain, I usually try to remember porn I've watched in the past or erotic stories I've read or think up a scenario of two people having sex. My point being, it almost never involves ME. And on the rare occasion I think of myself, it's usually.... I dunno, random/weird sexual scenarios with people I know or someone I don't know.

[sevenseas]

First post on such a very awkard topic :)

I cannot think of anything or it turns me off. Even thinking about celebs that I find aesthetically cute turns me off.

It's almost like how on a long run one gets into a state where one doesn't think, but just feels physical sensations without mentally elaborating on them. I don't know if I explained that comprehensibly, but that's what I do if I masturbate. You only concentrate on the physical aspect/pleasure. Bringing any thought or people into it is... ick. Imagining genitals or people- people I know or celebs- doing it is a turn off.

[Aibhne]

I don't really think about anything but the physical aspect of it...I do recall thinking about how I responded on an essay question on a history exam one time, but not for the purpose of helping myself along, but because I was worried I hadn't done too well :( I only masturbate because it makes me stop thinking and/or makes me fall asleep afterward :lol:

[Sangfroid]

At the risk of sounding like a 12-year-old girl, I almost invariably think of fictional characters. My thoughts have never involved people I know, and they have never involved myself.

That's pretty much me as well. I think of sexual scenarios, but they always involve fictional or generic characters; fantasizing about someone I actually know wouldn't appeal to me, and would feel rude or embarrassing. And it's scenes in 3rd person; I may have a generic male character which is kind of me, but it's still separate from me, mentally watched rather than participated in.

+1. Only aroused when I'm removed from situation, thinking in 3rd person. Wonder what might happen if we stopped watching other people have sex?

[Azkaden]

Oh...wow...I didn't think so many other people who were asexual also thought of anime characters 0.0 Yay! I'm not alone!

However, as uber embarrassing as it is, here's how it usually is for me:

It varies, but usually what gets me started most is sound. I'll admit *egh :cough cough:* to having some gay porn and yaoi...I sometimes watch it to get things going (I've even taken all the "good" and noisy scenes out of several different ones and edited them together into single lump files.) But after a bit, it's the sounds that really matter. (Which is why the cut and edited videos are on my mp3 player, including straight sound rips from yaoi anime.) I listen to those sounds and that can normally do it for me.

You are not alone.

I have a complete and totally lack of interest in "real" people. In fact to be honest when I do masturbate I can't stand the actual though of being involved with a person but mentally picturing two really pretty anime characters doing it makes me pleased in all ways.

[DesJ]

I'm so pleased to read this thread and find out that my fantasies aren't weird, even among asexuals! Male/male scenarios with fictional characters do it for me every time. Sometimes if my imagination is feeling a little lazy I'll watch porn, but I'll create backstories for the actors :lol: It's all just to get me going though, once I get into it I don't really think about anything.

[Gatto]

http://www.theonion.com/articles/ethicists-update-list-of-acceptable-things-to-mast,20076/?utm_source=recentnews

[Mozambike]

[BadKarma]

The secure knowledge that, by getting it over with, I can avoid nocturnal emission and the resulting irritation that arises from waking up at 6 in the morning and going "DAMMIT". If I could find a better way to prevent that from happening, I wouldn't really have any need to do it at all.

[Redbeard]

The secure knowledge that, by getting it over with, I can avoid nocturnal emission and the resulting irritation that arises from waking up at 6 in the morning and going "DAMMIT". If I could find a better way to prevent that from happening, I wouldn't really have any need to do it at all.

Ever considered wearing a condom or something like that to bed? Wouldn't necessarily prevent it from happening, but it might contain the problem.

To the original topic: Most often, I'll just lose myself in the pleasure and focus on how my body is responding. It's very relaxing to just shut off the world for a while. I've tried fantasizing in the past, and it doesn't work that well. Usually, it ends up too distracting, because I end up spending so much effort trying to keep the fantasies going. It doesn't help that I don't find the subjects I tried fantasizing about all that interesting, either. Sometimes I'll have limited success imagining that I'm masturbating for another person who was curious about the process, and explaining how it all works as I go.

[BadKarma]

The secure knowledge that, by getting it over with, I can avoid nocturnal emission and the resulting irritation that arises from waking up at 6 in the morning and going "DAMMIT". If I could find a better way to prevent that from happening, I wouldn't really have any need to do it at all.

Ever considered wearing a condom or something like that to bed? Wouldn't necessarily prevent it from happening, but it might contain the problem.

To the original topic: Most often, I'll just lose myself in the pleasure and focus on how my body is responding. It's very relaxing to just shut off the world for a while. I've tried fantasizing in the past, and it doesn't work that well. Usually, it ends up too distracting, because I end up spending so much effort trying to keep the fantasies going. It doesn't help that I don't find the subjects I tried fantasizing about all that interesting, either. Sometimes I'll have limited success imagining that I'm masturbating for another person who was curious about the process, and explaining how it all works as I go.

Every night I go to sleep, I slip on a condom, knowing that by simple hydraulic mechanics alone, it's likely to fall off through the night?

Occasionally "relieving myself" does the trick perfectly fine, honestly. The only time that the stuff ever happens is if I forget about it and go a few months without it. It's far better than buying a large quantity of condoms with the expressed intention of using them in the most absurd way possible.

And yes, I have thought about it before. The alternative solution saves time/money (I don't honestly even know how much typical condoms cost, but I figure it's much more than I'd be willing to pay) and still allows me to sleep soundly.

[Gatto]

[asexyfire]

I have fantasies about scenarios and people doing various things. What I like, both in scenarios and girls changes. It's like I'm watching a storyline and enjoying it. Usually it's "dirty"/"kinky" things that turn me on. It's usually visual and focused on the girl. I never fantasize about a girl I actually know in real life or from a fictional series, but rather some fictional girl I make up on the spot for that scenario. And I don't focus on the guy who's doing it either.

I don't know how unusual this is, but I never really get aroused thinking about myself doing it.