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endplusone

When I have, I thought about all of the things I need to get done. It's definitely stress-induced.

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Shinnok
Usually I throw some porn clips with regular, tranny or lesbian intercourse and watch while doing myself. Meanwhile I tend to think of gay intercourse with myself on the receiving end, though I'm straight.

....hmm..It's strange..I was just getting ready to post here and say that what I honestly think about while masterbating is actually gay sex..with me on the receiving end but I still don't think I would ever act out on it in real life..it's bad enough for myself that I even think about it.

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meatball
....hmm..It's strange..I was just getting ready to post here and say that what I honestly think about while masterbating is actually gay sex..with me on the receiving end but I still don't think I would ever act out on it in real life..it's bad enough for myself that I even think about it.

No, I'm not feeling bad or something about that. It's just a fantasy. Maybe I would even try it in the real life, but not really sure about it though.

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Guest Fosco
...I tend to think of gay intercourse with myself on the receiving end, though I'm straight....

....hmm..It's strange..I was just getting ready to post here and say that what I honestly think about while masterbating is actually gay sex..with me on the receiving end but I still don't think I would ever act out on it in real life..it's bad enough for myself that I even think about it.

Ditto

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Cirdan

I generally don't think of anything - I just close my eyes and go on physical sensation. Though thoughts will cross my mind sometimes, they usually aren't anything sexual (probably landscapes most often). When I try to think of anything involving sex (I have to consciously try) I find I'm only able to imagine it happening from 3rd person perspective, and I can't actually put any details on the bodies, just that there are two people together and enjoying themselves. Oh, and whatever does cross my mind, whether sex related or not, generally doesn't seem to have any effect on arousal (well, maybe if I happened to think of a friend then it might turn me off).

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evanescence

Question for those who identify as asexual and masturbate: what do you think about when you masturbate to assist in arousal, if anything?

I appreciate this may be very personal, hence many will understandably choose not to answer.

I generally think about scenarios involving my smoking fetish, though fantasy is not necessary for me to climax. I find it interesting that so many posters fantasize about fictional characters. I'm the diametric opposite: the only thing that can arouse me even SLIGHTLY is a fantasy in which I convince myself that I will be enacting the scenario in real life. After orgasm, the urge to do whatever (e.g., share a cigarette with a hot guy in a bar) generally dissipates.

Evanescence

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Angelica Soprano
I generally think about scenarios involving my smoking fetish.

Evanescence

Eh? Is there a smoking fetish? Hell, that's a new one? I won't try to imagine what you do with your cigs. :D

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evanescence
I generally think about scenarios involving my smoking fetish.

Evanescence

Eh? Is there a smoking fetish? Hell, that's a new one? I won't try to imagine what you do with your cigs. :D

The smoking fetish is actually quite common in men (Google smoking fetish and you'll see what I mean), but (like all fetishes) far less common in women. When you have the fetish, it's the act of smoking itself that is a turn-on, not necessarily the idea of incorporating smoking into sexual activities. The more dependent and unself-conscious the smoker, the more appealing it is for me to watch him (as long as he's also attractive in other ways).

Evanescence

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Charlotte_uk

It's completely physical for me. I don't 'think' about anything really. It gets rid of bad period cramps. I can make myself orgasm in under a minute on a good day, so it doesn't take very long either.

>>Actually, I lied... I distinctly remember thinking about blueberry muffins last time. I think I was hungry or something.<<

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ltovarro
Good question.

The short answer is... nothing.

The longer answer is a concentration on the physical feeling of sexual functioning, and sometimes on emotional and *spiritual feelings of the experience.

*-this is sort of difficult to explain what I mean exactly...

I guess because I only have to think of things like that my mind is able to think of other things but those other things wouldn't be in order to proceed with sexual functioning or cause arousal.

Same with me! I don't do it very often but the few times I have nothing in particular has come to mind. I focused more on what I was doing and how it felt.

One time I did think about two guys together though.. I dunno why.. maybe I was a gay man in a past life. :redface:

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Sean of Cydonia

Hello, everyone. I suppose this is officially my first post.

When I first started getting the urge when I was about 15 to 16ish, I was very confused (my immediate thought was "Well, doesn't this make me sexual?" , since I had never been physically attracted to anyone, and to this day never have.

I've become more comfortable with it over time, though I still don't enjoy it. I find it like scratching an itch or doing a chore I don't enjoy, I'm not disgusted by it, I just get it out of the way. I used to try to will myself out of doing it (like someone trying to quit smoking or drinking), but after about a week I would wake up with sticky sheets. Blegh.

Anyway, I just listen to a good, dynamic song (almost anything by MUSE will work), and I suppose I'm somehow able to connect the tension rising and falling to the chore at hand. I've never had any kind of sexual "fantasy" regarding humans, and I'm repulsed by the thought of sexual activity period, but if humans are involved, the apex of concentration is on a high-tensile activity, and then a release of said tension occuring at "the big moment."

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Isanda

Back when I first tried it, I assumed you were supposed to imagine your favorite sexual scene. So I imagined my favorite erotic story and... it just didn't work at all, besides producing the typical warm fuzzy feeling I get when I read those stories. So I wound up having to grit my teeth and endure these long, drawn out horniness sessions, unable to get rid of them and being horribly distracted for days.

After too long of this, I said 'you know what, I am going to sit down and get this right if it takes me all night!' I found that if I just focus on the sensations, it actually works. I also realized that I need to spend a long time masturbating before my body actually starts responding to it. It's so nice to just sit down for a while, work it out, and then not have to worry about being randomly horny for days afterwards.

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ZichLa JanBo
Question for those who identify as asexual and masturbate: what do you think about when you masturbate to assist in arousal, if anything?

I appreciate this may be very personal, hence many will understandably choose not to answer.

Why I ask: this is one of the most basic questions posed by psychosexual therapists to get an insight into the sexual interest(s) of a person or to understand the nature of a sexual dysfunction. It's a question sometimes answered untruthfully or hesitantly (particularly at initial consultations) and is highly useful.

Related thread which provoked this question: Question for A's who masturbate

Well, I used to think about others having sex, and enjoying them selfs, butt not to think much cause then I had to start it from the beginning.

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arisa
I think about fictional chracters.

But it's them on their own...not invloving me.

I don't actually masturbate, but I thought this was an interesting thread, so I decided to post anyway. But this applies to my radar thing.

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I've seen this quiz before, but have forgotten where it is. Can someone post the link?

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rahuls
Usually I throw some porn clips with regular, tranny or lesbian intercourse and watch while doing myself. Meanwhile I tend to think of gay intercourse with myself on the receiving end, though I'm straight.

....hmm..It's strange..I was just getting ready to post here and say that what I honestly think about while masterbating is actually gay sex..with me on the receiving end but I still don't think I would ever act out on it in real life..it's bad enough for myself that I even think about it.

Ditto here. Except that I usually dont have to get into sexual activity but only think of receiving kisses and smooches from someone (outercourse foreplay rather than intercourse) . And I think I am always at the receiving end for a very basic reason- as an asexual I dont think about myself doing any romance but enjoy seeing someone doing something to me. That's pretty gay foreplay but I cant help because it seems kinda weird to imagine a girl dong it. I once thought I was partly T due to this as I have read many MTF transsexuals have very much a similar kind of fantasy with their penis tucked away unnoticed and it's also a fact that I enjoy imagining myself getting feminized (mild autogynephilia).

I visualize a scene similar to one I saw somewhere in TV but usually never get into porns as it's about bare sex which I dont much have fancy for-it neither turns me on.

It takes me only a minute or so to imagine a setting like this and masterbate. Whereas, I wouldnt be aroused enough to be able to ejaculate in a lifetime if I were ever given the chance to do it in reality with a guy. Asexuality is strange. It helps a person become so sober outwards so as not to ever desire sex in reality although he may be a frivolous nasty slut in fantasies. I think even many sexuals dont have the level of fantasies which I sometimes have.

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The Wolf

...People think about things while they masturbate now?

Well, I'm neither asexual nor do I masturbate, but last time I tried my mind was blank.

It is, however, very reassuring to see so many confessing their fantasies about fictional characters and stuff, which I'm guilty of, for me it was the cast of the Justice League at one stage, and a lot of fantasies about myself as a werewolf. My fantasies used to be me as a guy, or a guy I could relate to, but after I found I was more comfortable with 'my character' as a female, albeit a more masculine one.

When I was sexual, fantasies were very complicated business (Ive had crop rotation in one of these things); needing huge back stories which I tended to think about to get myself in the setting and relaxed (mainly as I was in bed before going to sleep)...sometimes I used to just think about back story and not go any further..just curl up in fantasy and go to sleep in real life too.

Man, this is so much like me it's not even funny. I thought I was the only one bothering to give my fantasies elaborate back stories. And the whole thinking about them to get in the mood and then playing them out while in bed trying to go to sleep. Most of the time my fantasies aren't even sexual, or I fall asleep before I reach anything 'sexy'. Then they'll just consist of action sequences and 'deep' conversations between characters.

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kakuloo

Reading these replies made me feel more normal... I am also one of those who thinks of gay man-love. =P

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Drake

Most people think about sex when they masturbate? News to me...

I think about...boobs. Huge ones. No sex. I don't think I've ever thought about sex while masturbating. Sexual scenes NEVER get me going.

This has always been one of the biggest pieces of evidence I use in my personal debate of whether I'm hetero- or ace. (obviously it's evidence for the hetero side). But seeing how many people post about sex has got me thinking that I may be more ace than I realize.

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tinkerboi

I have resorted to using a vibrator (I'm a guy).

I think of nothing and sometimes get bored or tired and stop.

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Jockey

Was trying to edit this post and posted below. Sorry.

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Jockey

I'm surprised by how many asexuals are turned on by people. Anyhow.

Mostly I'm thinking about how to move my hand and how close I am or am not to orgasming. I can get off on reading about certain types of encounters between people and animals, but I'm not imagining me doing anything with them. And there's not much pattern to it, and generally the same thing won't turn me on twice. But really, most of what I'm thinking about is my own body.

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Sabriel

Might as well add my two cents.

Sometimes if I'm just trying to be quick and 'scratch the itch', so to speak, I don't think of anything except what I'm actually doing and how it feels.

Other times, if I have time to spare and am alone in the house, I'll read erotic fiction/fancfiction. With erotic fiction it's always about either a woman masturbating or lesbian acts, but with fanfiction it's sometimes gay men. I don't often read fanfiction to get off to though, but it does arouse me sometimes when I read it (I agree that Sirius/Remus can be hot!). Sometimes I'll watch porn, but rarely, as I've found that most of it is either cheesy, or just doesn't arouse me at all. I only ever watch porn of a woman by herself or more than one woman together - I've never watched straight porn as just the thought of it turns me off.

If I'm not using text/video to arouse myself, I'll use my imagination. I sometimes imagine a woman's voice telling me to do things. I sometimes imagine a woman doing things to me, or me watching lesbians doing things. Imagining me doing things to another girl doesn't really do anything for me. Very, very occasionally I'll imagine kissing a guy, cuddling, but nothing more really.

The fact that I rarely think about guys at all when masturbating and never think about straight sex (and when I try to it's a massive turn off) is one of the main reasons I started wondering if I was asexual - because I am almost always romantically attracted to men rather than women, and it seemed very odd to me that when fantasizing I would think of women instead. I'm still not 100% sure I'm not just a lesbian who hasn't found the right woman yet, but I think that's very unlikely and I'm probably asexual, because I fancy guys and can't imagine myself in a relationship with a girl at ALL.

Oh, and the women I think of are always imaginary, or sometimes porn actresses or very occasionally celebrities. I never think of anyone I know, as I sort of feel like I'm violating them if I do so, and I also think I'd be embarrassed the next time I saw them.

I feel like I've told far too much, lol, it's kinda embarrassing but at the same time, none of you know me!

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Belleville1987

For me it's bondage as well, especially myself being trapped of mummified in clothing like coats and catsuits. I also have a long hair and beard fetish that arouses me when I see people with either one or both. (The hair here, not necessary the person wearing the hair) Also fantasies and imaging, and looking at people on Youtube being really obese and fat turns me on as well. The mummification and bondage is the big on though.

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Aeo

Generally, I only think of fictional characters, and it often takes a strong visual stimulus to even get me started. Problem is, if even the hint or mild thought of myself, or another real person comes into play, it's an instant and irreversible turn-off.

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Porygon

The act itself, more often than not. Maybe something like flying, other times, because the feeling reminds me of the exhilaration you get from riding a roller coaster or having a dream about flying unaided.

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Jemima

I think about getting it over and done with, I need to do it to get the energy out of my system if that makes sense.

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orangepenmen31

For me, it's pretty much the only time in my life where I'm not actively thinking about anything. It's just a focus on the act and any stimulus (I can't get aroused using just my imagination). When it's over, it's a sedative. Ah, so that's why sexual men just fall right asleep after getting it on...

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invisible_ink

TMI sex stuff follows

I usually daydream. It can be about anything from giving a speech to riding in an air balloon or watching a sunset. I'll occasionally think about my crushes, but it's usually not in a sexual way. I also don't do it to orgasm'; I can't stand orgasms. They make me feel exhausted and drained. and not in that fulfilled, satisfied way everyone talks about. I like the feeling of just being a little flustered and distracted without having reached the peak.

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Nyakuni

More often than not I think about fictional people in a sexual situation. It isn't the actual sex that turns me on, though. I guess you could describe it as getting turned on by the situation "behind the scenes". The feelings of the people involved. The reason they're always in a sexual scenario is because I'm trying to make a connection between the feelings that are turning me on and what I'm doing.

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Ocelot

Usually nothing.

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