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Claire1983

Either nothing or fictional characters.  I think I may be a bit on the Autochorisexual side.  I don't mind seeing or reading about sex, but participating is not appealing.

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Ms. Carolynne

Generally, I think about strangers having sex; sometimes it's no-name people I make up, sometimes I recall porn (which I sometimes watch). I have no personal presence in these fantasies.

 

I will also sometimes think about the act of masturbation itself, and the idea of sexual gratification.

 

I'm a trichophile (hair fetishist) as well. Though it's not a common source of arousal or something I think about in and of itself. It may be a detail in the above fantasies.

 

Once I'm aroused I may or may not think about anything. I may continue to fantasize; I might just sort of meditate, clear my mind, or just let it wander. Whatever doesn't detract from the act is fair game.

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PixleyDust✨

I used to be purely autochorisexual, using indirect characters in my fantasies without any participation on my end at all.

 

But lately my fantasies seem to range from purely sexual encounters with a stranger to something more romantic in nature with a significant other, both of which are heterosexual. 

 

However, I have had fantasies (both sexual and romantic) in which I was a man with a man with some success. Sometimes even just being a man and taking care of business myself is a go to for when I’m feeling “stuck”.

 

I’ve tried sexual fantasies with women both as a man and as a woman, but it didn’t really ever do anything for me.

 

So it seems, for whatever reason, masculinity in general just seems more attractive to me when I’m having those fantasies.

 

But despite my apparently gigantic favor towards fantasies, I am not opposed to using porn from time to time. Especially when my usual fantasies get dull or I just can’t seem to create one (like a weird kind of writer’s block).

 

I swear sibs, my asexuality is the reason I feel like I’m writing novels when I’m fantasizing. Need character backstories, names, basic plot, etc. If there’s a plot hole at any point in the fantasy, I have to literally stop what I’m doing and rewrite the WHOLE GODDAMN

THING. 🤣

 

It’s like I “need” a reason to orgasm, just orgasming is not enough. For me, orgasming as an impulse is comparable to just sneezing out of the blue. I mean, without the buildup of an itchy nose, why do I care if I sneeze? 

 

 Well, that’s my EXTREMELY long piece. 😅

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Strange But Not a Stranger

I usually think about one specific celebrity crush. Either that, or I don't really think about anything at all.
I have no idea why, and nowadays I don't really care anymore to know why because it just is what it is and that's okay, but this man does have the "power" to arouse me.

I sort of think about myself with him, except that myself doesn't exactly look like myself. If that makes any sense. It's me, but at the same time it's not really me. It's a fantasy me. 😄

 

 

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Kayze

Fetish content which is connected to non-sexual body parts, actions done to them and of the mood. Generally is connected to a person but devoid of actual genitals or anal or what have you. Orgasm is less for the pleasure and more for the clarity of mind - to cure an itch so to speak. There's pleasure sure but I don't reflect on that enough to make it about that.

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Khalisi

I... don't?

Like, I don't really think about anything in specific. Because I dunno about everyone else's brain, but I don't exactly 'visualize' things as a clear-cut image, it's basically maybe some outlines/shadows with like, no actual images. Instead I KNOW what it's supposed to look like, and it's vaguely constructed, but even then it's more words than images. It's hard to explain, but I only ever truly see things created in my mind when dreaming. So I don't exactly get much benefit from imagining sex stuff. It's more going through the physical motions, for the physical pleasure of it all. I feel physical sensations, and that's it. If my mind does wander, it might be to fictional characters I have some sort of crush on even if there's no "real" version of them (in TV or movie form). Or stories in general. I used to write a LOT when I was a hormone-driven teenager and when I had time in my early 20s. I'm now technically mid/late 20s and since I was like 23 or so I just haven't really cared enough to write stuff even when I had ideas/inspiration, but anyways the point is if I 'fantasize' anything it's literally between whichever characters my mind is drawn to at that particular time. And even then, it's more a them thing than a me thing, yaknow? It's like porn, I can literally only watch videos if they're voyeuristic in nature, because then it's "real" instead of some set up BS. So instead of waste time thinking about someone else, I just don't think [about things related to what I'm actually doing beyond the motions] lol

I'm weird lol. There's a reason it took me so long to get here.

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PixleyDust✨
22 hours ago, Fifi123 said:

I usually think about one specific celebrity crush. Either that, or I don't really think about anything at all.
I have no idea why, and nowadays I don't really care anymore to know why because it just is what it is and that's okay, but this man does have the "power" to arouse me.

I sort of think about myself with him, except that myself doesn't exactly look like myself. If that makes any sense. It's me, but at the same time it's not really me. It's a fantasy me. 😄

 

 

I get that. When I was purely autochorisexual, I was distant and not so distant at the same time. Yes, admittedly, I was experiencing the sex firsthand and not as a voyeur, but at the same time I wasn’t “me” in the fantasy, I was that character. Sort of like a “fantasy me”, because in my asexual mind, the real me would just be like:

 

”How the fuck did this happen?” 🤣

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xiacray

i'm asexual with a pretty high libido.  I use masturbation mostly to fall asleep, as a pain suppressant and also when I'm just plain bored.  I absolutely don't think about anybody that actually exists, not even TV characters (because then I can picture the actor and it just turns me off).  When I do fantasize I create fictional scenarios, fictional people that have a general human shape of no specific gender.  I also don't specifically picture myself in the scenario either, more in a detached way.  

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The Anchorage
12 hours ago, xiacray said:

i'm asexual with a pretty high libido.  I use masturbation mostly to fall asleep, as a pain suppressant and also when I'm just plain bored.

Me too.

But when I do it, I build up a fantasy involving two guys (never men/woman or woman/woman) from a book I read or TV-Show/movie I watched. I never participate in the act - I'm just watching without someone noticing me. The moment I imagine myself having sex it's over :( 

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AtypicalBandGeek

I feel like this is weird but I never think about any people or anything sexual at all, it's just kinda like "ok I'm gonna go masturbate cause idk I'm bored, yeah cool, oh right I have to do the dishes after this, oh this is a good song that's playing rn, oh ok cool I'm done" like I've tried thinking about I dunno, naked guys or something but it does absolutely nothing

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Sweet Potato
On 6/10/2018 at 9:21 PM, Pixley said:

Especially when my usual fantasies get dull or I just can’t seem to create one (like a weird kind of writer’s block

It is writers block for sure! I have a selection of characters I pick from for my fantasies, then I get bored of them or cant come up with anything so, porn it is.

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snapesonalane
On 6/11/2018 at 3:29 AM, Fifi123 said:

I sort of think about myself with him, except that myself doesn't exactly look like myself. If that makes any sense. It's me, but at the same time it's not really me. It's a fantasy me. 😄

 

Oh my god this is me! I do this! I didn't get what was wrong with me! I was beginning to panic that I wasn't asexual because in my fantasies I was sometimes a participant but in a distant-not distant way like you described. Just like that! Fantasy me, I like how you phrased that. I'll usually fantasize and once I'm finished I'll forget all about the fantasy and not question it. Until recently that is. But knowing someone else does this and that it doesn't take away from being ace I breathed a sigh of relief. 

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Bloc
On 4/29/2018 at 10:28 AM, InariYana said:

I don't think about anything most of the time :D 

I just concentrate on the sensation without any thoughts in my head. I'm like... one with the sensation and that's it. My mind is really quiet then.

Mastur-meditation? Mindful masturbation? :lol:  

The same for me. And when I am having fantasies they are about how being touched feels like, but nothing visual. Sometimes the image of my own body in my mind shifts from a "male" body to a "female" body.

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The Anchorage
On ‎6‎/‎11‎/‎2018 at 6:21 AM, Pixley said:

I swear sibs, my asexuality is the reason I feel like I’m writing novels when I’m fantasizing. Need character backstories, names, basic plot, etc. If there’s a plot hole at any point in the fantasy, I have to literally stop what I’m doing and rewrite the WHOLE GODDAMN

THING.

Oh this is so me :D I can't orgasm out of nothing, too.

That's why I love to build fantasies based on fanfiction. I don't need to do that much work, because someone else already did it for me or I only have to change a few minor things ;) 

 

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pma01

When I masturbate I generally don’t think about anything, I focus on the sensations. I don’t use porn anymore for about 15 years, I do like to read about other people’s masturbation habits.

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Haze (hiatus)

I don’t masturbate, but I can share my asexual-ness. 

Sometimes I can get aroused by reading, like, fanfictions where the characters are having sex. However, the very moment I try to masturbate (I was curious about if I was “actually asexual”), I am immediately turned off, and then two seconds later I get this wave of revulsion and have to go take a hot shower with lots of soap (when all I did was, like, touch myself for one moment). I find it weird that I have this reaction. Like, if I get aroused, shouldn’t I be able to masturbate? But apparently not, every time I tried.... *shrug*

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Hmkitten

I never picture myself in fantasies. I am either looking in as if it is a movie or sort of a feeling things through my character's sensations (like a previous poster said).

 

Having said that, I am a writer, so I have LOTS of characters to choose from and build upon at a moment's notice. I don't use real people in my images of characters. I also steal ideas from written format porn (preferably well written) for bits and pieces to add to my fantasy. Normal topics of thoughts tend towards the pleasure/pain side of BDSM.

 

Then I get done and start working on giving backstories and future plots for those characters. Yeah. I'm weird. Always on the lookout for a story.

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Hermit Advocate

I think I'm a bit  Autochorisexual, seeing as it's never real people I think about. Even then, the fantasy never seems to do all that much for me. It's more of a nuisance than anything. 

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Cup.of.tea.

Actually I always think about a person who I like because of the aesthetic or sensual attraction I feel. I’ve tried to think about the entire act but that causes a big turn off or I start to think on another thing. So usually I think about a face as part of the fantasy but not in sexual organs or something like that...

Also I can exchange the masturbation with reading an erotic novel or do a completely different thing.

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PittAce92
On 6/20/2018 at 9:10 AM, pma01 said:

I don’t use porn anymore for about 15 years, I do like to read about other people’s masturbation habits.

This best describes me as well! :)  Especially when people talk about different techniques (new to my knowledge), this helps me more than porn. The only time I would watch a video is if words are not easily imagined, and a video showing the masturbation technique would be easier (but that is on rare occasion!). 

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ScarWitch31

I never pictured myself in my sexual fantasies, or anyone I know. It's always fictional characters, or OCs (original characters). Sometimes even different genders. (male, female, trans, etc). It's always a third person sort of view? That's how I see it anyway.

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Fluffy Femme Guy

I imagine mostly fictional characters, though there are two real people I used to know involved sometimes (the only two people I ever seriously considered screwing).
I am part of the fantasy.
All the imagined partners are female.
Except for me all the others are clothed to varying extents (no bare nipples or nether regions for any of them).
The girls are sometimes into each other as well.

It's incredibly rare for me to masturbate to any degree while looking at porn. Not into video very much, prefer arty/aesthetic softcore stills.
Not super into porn in general, but it's ...interesting (in an asexy way) to look at sometimes.
Sometimes I find it funny-like finding something hella weird and thinking to myself 'lol, somebody is actually into this?'

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Hunji Qi

Fictional characters, from a third person prospective. Myself is never there. Cannot see myself being in any sort of sex. Only do that when I have trouble falling asleep. I am okay with reading about sex, watched a few porn out of curiosity but found it boring. It is interesting how others might enjoy it, but un-relatable.

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nerdography

My fantasies are usually me and a fictional character doing mundane things. Like going to the boardwalk, mall, amusement park, etc.

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starweb

I haven't for years, but I'm autochorissexual.  When I did I thought about other people in sexual situations. It was never about me.

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