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Strange But Not a Stranger

I usually think about one specific celebrity crush. Either that, or I don't really think about anything at all.
I have no idea why, and nowadays I don't really care anymore to know why because it just is what it is and that's okay, but this man does have the "power" to arouse me.

I sort of think about myself with him, except that myself doesn't exactly look like myself. If that makes any sense. It's me, but at the same time it's not really me. It's a fantasy me. 😄

 

 

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Fetish content which is connected to non-sexual body parts, actions done to them and of the mood. Generally is connected to a person but devoid of actual genitals or anal or what have you. Orgasm is less for the pleasure and more for the clarity of mind - to cure an itch so to speak. There's pleasure sure but I don't reflect on that enough to make it about that.

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I... don't?

Like, I don't really think about anything in specific. Because I dunno about everyone else's brain, but I don't exactly 'visualize' things as a clear-cut image, it's basically maybe some outlines/shadows with like, no actual images. Instead I KNOW what it's supposed to look like, and it's vaguely constructed, but even then it's more words than images. It's hard to explain, but I only ever truly see things created in my mind when dreaming. So I don't exactly get much benefit from imagining sex stuff. It's more going through the physical motions, for the physical pleasure of it all. I feel physical sensations, and that's it. If my mind does wander, it might be to fictional characters I have some sort of crush on even if there's no "real" version of them (in TV or movie form). Or stories in general. I used to write a LOT when I was a hormone-driven teenager and when I had time in my early 20s. I'm now technically mid/late 20s and since I was like 23 or so I just haven't really cared enough to write stuff even when I had ideas/inspiration, but anyways the point is if I 'fantasize' anything it's literally between whichever characters my mind is drawn to at that particular time. And even then, it's more a them thing than a me thing, yaknow? It's like porn, I can literally only watch videos if they're voyeuristic in nature, because then it's "real" instead of some set up BS. So instead of waste time thinking about someone else, I just don't think [about things related to what I'm actually doing beyond the motions] lol

I'm weird lol. There's a reason it took me so long to get here.

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PixleyDust✨
22 hours ago, Fifi123 said:

I usually think about one specific celebrity crush. Either that, or I don't really think about anything at all.
I have no idea why, and nowadays I don't really care anymore to know why because it just is what it is and that's okay, but this man does have the "power" to arouse me.

I sort of think about myself with him, except that myself doesn't exactly look like myself. If that makes any sense. It's me, but at the same time it's not really me. It's a fantasy me. 😄

 

 

I get that. When I was purely autochorisexual, I was distant and not so distant at the same time. Yes, admittedly, I was experiencing the sex firsthand and not as a voyeur, but at the same time I wasn’t “me” in the fantasy, I was that character. Sort of like a “fantasy me”, because in my asexual mind, the real me would just be like:

 

”How the fuck did this happen?” 🤣

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i'm asexual with a pretty high libido.  I use masturbation mostly to fall asleep, as a pain suppressant and also when I'm just plain bored.  I absolutely don't think about anybody that actually exists, not even TV characters (because then I can picture the actor and it just turns me off).  When I do fantasize I create fictional scenarios, fictional people that have a general human shape of no specific gender.  I also don't specifically picture myself in the scenario either, more in a detached way.  

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The Anchorage
12 hours ago, xiacray said:

i'm asexual with a pretty high libido.  I use masturbation mostly to fall asleep, as a pain suppressant and also when I'm just plain bored.

Me too.

But when I do it, I build up a fantasy involving two guys (never men/woman or woman/woman) from a book I read or TV-Show/movie I watched. I never participate in the act - I'm just watching without someone noticing me. The moment I imagine myself having sex it's over :( 

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AtypicalBandGeek

I feel like this is weird but I never think about any people or anything sexual at all, it's just kinda like "ok I'm gonna go masturbate cause idk I'm bored, yeah cool, oh right I have to do the dishes after this, oh this is a good song that's playing rn, oh ok cool I'm done" like I've tried thinking about I dunno, naked guys or something but it does absolutely nothing

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Sweet Potato
On 6/10/2018 at 9:21 PM, Pixley said:

Especially when my usual fantasies get dull or I just can’t seem to create one (like a weird kind of writer’s block

It is writers block for sure! I have a selection of characters I pick from for my fantasies, then I get bored of them or cant come up with anything so, porn it is.

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snapesonalane
On 6/11/2018 at 3:29 AM, Fifi123 said:

I sort of think about myself with him, except that myself doesn't exactly look like myself. If that makes any sense. It's me, but at the same time it's not really me. It's a fantasy me. 😄

 

Oh my god this is me! I do this! I didn't get what was wrong with me! I was beginning to panic that I wasn't asexual because in my fantasies I was sometimes a participant but in a distant-not distant way like you described. Just like that! Fantasy me, I like how you phrased that. I'll usually fantasize and once I'm finished I'll forget all about the fantasy and not question it. Until recently that is. But knowing someone else does this and that it doesn't take away from being ace I breathed a sigh of relief. 

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On 4/29/2018 at 10:28 AM, InariYana said:

I don't think about anything most of the time :D 

I just concentrate on the sensation without any thoughts in my head. I'm like... one with the sensation and that's it. My mind is really quiet then.

Mastur-meditation? Mindful masturbation? :lol:  

The same for me. And when I am having fantasies they are about how being touched feels like, but nothing visual. Sometimes the image of my own body in my mind shifts from a "male" body to a "female" body.

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The Anchorage
On ‎6‎/‎11‎/‎2018 at 6:21 AM, Pixley said:

I swear sibs, my asexuality is the reason I feel like I’m writing novels when I’m fantasizing. Need character backstories, names, basic plot, etc. If there’s a plot hole at any point in the fantasy, I have to literally stop what I’m doing and rewrite the WHOLE GODDAMN

THING.

Oh this is so me :D I can't orgasm out of nothing, too.

That's why I love to build fantasies based on fanfiction. I don't need to do that much work, because someone else already did it for me or I only have to change a few minor things ;) 

 

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When I masturbate I generally don’t think about anything, I focus on the sensations. I don’t use porn anymore for about 15 years, I do like to read about other people’s masturbation habits.

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I don’t masturbate, but I can share my asexual-ness. 

Sometimes I can get aroused by reading, like, fanfictions where the characters are having sex. However, the very moment I try to masturbate (I was curious about if I was “actually asexual”), I am immediately turned off, and then two seconds later I get this wave of revulsion and have to go take a hot shower with lots of soap (when all I did was, like, touch myself for one moment). I find it weird that I have this reaction. Like, if I get aroused, shouldn’t I be able to masturbate? But apparently not, every time I tried.... *shrug*

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I never picture myself in fantasies. I am either looking in as if it is a movie or sort of a feeling things through my character's sensations (like a previous poster said).

 

Having said that, I am a writer, so I have LOTS of characters to choose from and build upon at a moment's notice. I don't use real people in my images of characters. I also steal ideas from written format porn (preferably well written) for bits and pieces to add to my fantasy. Normal topics of thoughts tend towards the pleasure/pain side of BDSM.

 

Then I get done and start working on giving backstories and future plots for those characters. Yeah. I'm weird. Always on the lookout for a story.

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Hermit Advocate

I think I'm a bit  Autochorisexual, seeing as it's never real people I think about. Even then, the fantasy never seems to do all that much for me. It's more of a nuisance than anything. 

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Cup.of.tea.

Actually I always think about a person who I like because of the aesthetic or sensual attraction I feel. I’ve tried to think about the entire act but that causes a big turn off or I start to think on another thing. So usually I think about a face as part of the fantasy but not in sexual organs or something like that...

Also I can exchange the masturbation with reading an erotic novel or do a completely different thing.

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On 6/20/2018 at 9:10 AM, pma01 said:

I don’t use porn anymore for about 15 years, I do like to read about other people’s masturbation habits.

This best describes me as well! :)  Especially when people talk about different techniques (new to my knowledge), this helps me more than porn. The only time I would watch a video is if words are not easily imagined, and a video showing the masturbation technique would be easier (but that is on rare occasion!). 

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I never pictured myself in my sexual fantasies, or anyone I know. It's always fictional characters, or OCs (original characters). Sometimes even different genders. (male, female, trans, etc). It's always a third person sort of view? That's how I see it anyway.

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Fluffy Femme Guy

I imagine mostly fictional characters, though there are two real people I used to know involved sometimes (the only two people I ever seriously considered screwing).
I am part of the fantasy.
All the imagined partners are female.
Except for me all the others are clothed to varying extents (no bare nipples or nether regions for any of them).
The girls are sometimes into each other as well.

It's incredibly rare for me to masturbate to any degree while looking at porn. Not into video very much, prefer arty/aesthetic softcore stills.
Not super into porn in general, but it's ...interesting (in an asexy way) to look at sometimes.
Sometimes I find it funny-like finding something hella weird and thinking to myself 'lol, somebody is actually into this?'

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Fictional characters, from a third person prospective. Myself is never there. Cannot see myself being in any sort of sex. Only do that when I have trouble falling asleep. I am okay with reading about sex, watched a few porn out of curiosity but found it boring. It is interesting how others might enjoy it, but un-relatable.

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nerdography

My fantasies are usually me and a fictional character doing mundane things. Like going to the boardwalk, mall, amusement park, etc.

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I haven't for years, but I'm autochorissexual.  When I did I thought about other people in sexual situations. It was never about me.

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It's wild to think about this post has been here even before i was born, how old this forum is anyway and why did it take so long for me to find it?

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I came back from google searching what masturbating is and I just realized i didn't even know what masturbating is this whole time-🗿

I was mistaking it with thinking of having sex/having sex fantasies and getting aroused, i don't know what to say-

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On 4/28/2023 at 12:28 PM, TITI said:

It's wild to think about this post has been here even before i was born, how old this forum is anyway and why did it take so long for me to find it?

I don't know when it started but it was in a slight;ly different form when I found out about asexuality back in 2005 (check the link in my signature). I didn't actually join until 2017.

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ei-hvaĂ°
On 4/30/2023 at 6:26 PM, TITI said:

I came back from google searching what masturbating is and I just realized i didn't even know what masturbating is this whole time-🗿

I was mistaking it with thinking of having sex/having sex fantasies and getting aroused, i don't know what to say-

If it makes you feel better, I legit didn't know I hadn't ejaculated till the first time it happened at 18. I was with a group of teenagers (I was almost 18) and they were talking about when they first ejaculated. I think the other guys answered 11 or 12. I said 13 or something because I thought "leakage" was the same thing as full on ejaculation. Little did I know that I would be getting my real answer in about a month...

 

 

On to the question! I am lightly sex repulsed, so sex is an immediate turnoff, and I'm not into naked bodies. Real people never feature and fictional characters hardly ever do (with some exceptions, mostly when I was younger). I am into bondage, but completely separated from sado-masochism, and I want it to be justified in a story sense that doesn't feature kink. The backstory and setup is very important to my fantasies, to the extent that I won't ejaculate except certain conditions are met.

 

For whatever reason, the character has to be a villain, criminal or evildoer, and they need to somehow be getting their comeuppance or just dessert. Even though I cognitively know that some of the situations I come up with are highly immoral (isolation and humiliation) they work for my fantasies. If I don't think the character doesn't deserve what's happening to them to some extent, It becomes a turnoff. Of course, because bondage rarely comes up as a realistic solution in our world, I like imagining them as wizards/witches, immortals or possessing some other great power that needs to be neutralized, with heavy bondage being the most practical solution. Bondage isn't as much of a requirement as the setup however, and I can also enjoy a bully who mistreats their employees ending up serving their victim, or a scammer ending up in prison. The emotions and motivations of the characters matter a lot more to me than the physical acts. I'm heterosexual, but as a kid, most of my libido awakening was around male characters because there are more male villains in stories. No joke, the first "scene" I really got into is in Naruto Shippuden, when the immortal Hidan has his body blown to tatters, and his head buried in a pit under a pile of rocks by the heroes.

 

I never watch porn as even thinking about sex is a turnoff for me, so when masturbating, I generally watch clips from shows or movies on Youtube (which are not made as fetish material) or look at pictures or read stories on DeviantArt (a bit more kinky, but way more material than Youtube and easy to make a list).

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I think about masturbation and how it feels. Scenarios where sounds/vibrations turn me on physically. I was well into adulthood before I realised that most people think about other people while doing it! 

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I don't think much when I masturbate, I just do it and enjoy the intense pleasure. I love masturbation. 😅

 

(Having sex is a different story, it freaks me out lol.)

 

I don't really need something to "assist" me. Sometimes I do watch pr0n and masturbate because it's fun, but this is by no means a requirement. Usually I don't watch pr0n while masturbating.

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