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Asexy Artist

I'm a little weird, I continue on with normal thought about... whatever (philosophy, did I order pizza, etc), but while.. you know

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I don't think I've ever masturbated to the image of an attractive woman or man. I've definitely never imagined myself having heterosexual sex with an attractive woman. The thought of doing that doesn't get me excited in the least.

Little background info: I'm a crossdresser. I love wearing female clothes and trying to look more like a female. This has been going on since early childhood. The earliest I could remember. And when I entered puberty I used the image of me dressed up as a way to get off because I just couldn't get excited by the image of a person at all. At the time I wasn't comfortable with crossdressing. It brought me lots of shame and self-loathing because I had been brought up that people who did that were screwed up in the head. But it came so natural to me that I couldn't ignore it. I'm 28 now and have fully accepted my crossdressing, but as far as masturbation goes I've gone further than just an image. Now most of the time when I masturbate it is a sexual situation, but it's me as a female involved with men. And the scenario always involves the female clothes that I'm wearing, like a "How did I get into this situation?" sort of deal.

If I ever do have sex in real life it would have to involve me wearing some form of female clothing for me to even get it up.

To this day I'm still not attracted to women or men, but I will always check out a woman if she's wearing something I want to wear or they have their hair styled in a cool way.

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Mostly just attractive men, if they are doing anything sexual it is either masturbation or stops at oral. When I'm doing it, it seems attractive and interesting, but when I'm not in a horny mood, I don't feel an urge to do it. The fantasies usually have a storyline, and sometimes it's not even sexual, just nude men. On the odd occasion, I view straight men having sex with women, as I like the way straight men look during intercourse. I've never been in a fantasy, either.

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ignoranceisn'tbliss

I don't know how to start writing this, so I'll put it in list format:

  1. No genitals (either covered or "missing")
  2. Close contact (obviously?)
  3. Female
  4. Tends to be someone I've seen (fictitious or real(I'm lazy, ok!)but doesn't act like the person they are) though not always(sometimes there's not even a person and just a sensation of being in contact with someone)
  5. Doesn't involve sexual acts (which I suppose is implied by number 1)

on a side note, one dream that I did happen to recall afterwards involved me being female and in a situation (#'s 1,2, & 5 above) like this with another female, though that could be completely irrelevant.

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For the most part nothing.. If I do think it kind of puts me off and makes me feel disgusting :s But generally when I think in any situation I find it incredibly difficult to visualise faces so if I do happen to think about a person or something they tend to be faceless and it's just kind of impersonal and not something I think about a lot afterwards for fear of making myself feel ill :/ I don't really gain any kind of sense of satisfaction from it and I hate doing it but sometimes it's kind of necessary you know?

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Institutionilized

All I think about for the most part is "Just suck it up and do it. If you stop for 10 seconds it dies and then we've got to start all over again. Besides, you don't want to get blue balls AGAIN, do you?"

It helps get me through it. u.u

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The idea of sexual things being done to me, but not by another person: the sensation but not the situation. If that makes any sense.

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butterscotchwm

Wow ok, I guess I'm a little relieved to find out that I'm not the only one who will masturbate occasionally to the fantasies of other characters, not including myself. I'll also just do it because it feels good... It's EXTREMELY rare that I'll actually want to masturbate, and even more rare for me to hit orgasm... Because once a REAL person enters my fantasies, and I try to imagine MYSELF having sex, my brain and my everything just goes NOPE. And I get turned off.

Lol is there a sexual orientation specifically about getting attracted to or aroused from a smut fanfiction going on in your head, but not from real people with or without yourself? Or is that just called kinky nerd ace? Lol.

(I'm a fricken weirdo... I just realized that...)

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I don't think about anything......maybe I think about wanting to be finished because it is gross.

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I can only ever reach climax when I'm reading dom/sub porn. I don't get off on videos and I guess I just don't have a good enough imagination to get myself off on my own? Generally I resort to fanfiction where someone is being dominated, preferably when they are not enjoying it, though I don't get off on sadism/masochism stuff, dirty talk, or humiliation, and it doesn't even have to be porn or featuring sex as long as it has dom/sub byplay happening. Gender doesn't really matter but I usually gravitate towards male/male stuff because I'm female and I find it weird recognizing parts of my body like breasts in a sexual scenario/context.

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The physical action to start, then just focas on the feeling. Actual people(fictional or real) are an instant turn off if they cross my mind, seriously if anyone crosses my mind my insta reaction is "gaahh!! omg!! Get out of my head!!" Lol

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Sexual imagery, usually with women I find aestheticially attractive. I don't feel any particular attraction or desire to actually have sex with these women, and I don't try to imagine what it feels like. It's sort of like looking at porn, you can see it, but you can't feel anything.

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Totally Schwuaat?

Similar to some others here, furry and transformation related things. I also tend to be explore being another gender, not to get into excruciating detail. The former stuff has been with me since I was a kid, made for an interesting growing-up experience.

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spoidersquiggle

As an asexual fetishist, I think about my *erm...* fetish...usually fictional characters doing this... fetish-y thing.... I still dunno if I feel comfortable sharing what it is on here yet (cuz I'm embarrassed). Its not something that anyone I've told would define as 'sexual' or 'sexy'. It has nothing to do with genitalia, sex acts, erogenous regions, etc. To me though, my fetish is pretty much the only thing on earth I find 'sexually' attractive. Interesting, I only experience 'sexual attraction' to a non-sexual action seen fairly commonly.

Personally, I love my fetish and get so much more pleasure and arousal from this simple thing than anything that would conventionally or even controversially called 'sexy'. The reaction I've gotten from the 4-5 close friends I've told is 'Huh? *blank*? That's sexy? hm. Never heard of THAT fetish before!'. My siblings were more like 'ah-ha! I thought so. THAT's why you've always acted weird whenever anyone *blank*ed!'

:redface: I'm too embarrassed to share now... mebe eventually...

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I have images of white-hot streaks. I think about my skin. I think about sweat. I think about the neighbors hearing me and saying "Oh yeah, someone's giving it to her good."

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Aisntllecxtual

Very conventional I guess. If it was onscreen, there would be a lot of yawning, if not, snoring. :lol: I visualize actual women that I have been romantically interested in and the situations involve me. The images are romantic and mildly physically intimate, yet largely lacking in sensuality, seem rather detached, and don't approach, rigorously avoid any explicit sexual scenes. If an imaging sequence approaches the sex act, there is ephemeral glide over (blip), all gets very detached, abstract, an uncontrollable automatic avoiding self-sensor it seems. A fetish - in imagination stimulating but in reality absolutely hated - is always involved in these scenarios and is essential to yield excitation to point of orgasm.

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I think about having intercourse with a faceless person. But I never wish for this fantasy to become true at the moment.

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As an asexual fetishist, I think about my *erm...* fetish...usually fictional characters doing this... fetish-y thing.... I still dunno if I feel comfortable sharing what it is on here yet (cuz I'm embarrassed). Its not something that anyone I've told would define as 'sexual' or 'sexy'. It has nothing to do with genitalia, sex acts, erogenous regions, etc. To me though, my fetish is pretty much the only thing on earth I find 'sexually' attractive. Interesting, I only experience 'sexual attraction' to a non-sexual action seen fairly commonly.

Personally, I love my fetish and get so much more pleasure and arousal from this simple thing than anything that would conventionally or even controversially called 'sexy'. The reaction I've gotten from the 4-5 close friends I've told is 'Huh? *blank*? That's sexy? hm. Never heard of THAT fetish before!'. My siblings were more like 'ah-ha! I thought so. THAT's why you've always acted weird whenever anyone *blank*ed!'

:redface: I'm too embarrassed to share now... mebe eventually...

Wow. I recognise this. Fetish about a totally everyday, normal, non-sexual thing, and the fetish is the only thing that can induce a sexual response for me. But what is terribly ironic in my case, is that when my fetish (which is a better-known one than yours) happens in real life I find it really yuk.

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I like to think of sentual thing's, like slowly removing a womans clothing one item at a time, like unwrapping a present while caressing her body. Or going down on a woman and get of on her pleaser. It's always the same woman whose face I never see.

In real life I have cringed while kissing before, so it's slightly unrealistic.

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ItsALongHardRoad

I am not asexual and the two times I tried it,I remember that these were more or less my thoughts:what should I get from the supermarket tommorow,I have 3 assignments,this doesn't feel all that good,I want to buy new curtains,what is on Tv right now etc.Supersexy huh? I tried to think of dirty scenarios but I was like ok,nothing changed.

I almost feel dysfunctional :S

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Sex that doesn't involve me at all. More like a voyeuristic thing I suppose? The thought of myself being intimate with someone (including sensual things like kissing) just doesn't do anything for me. It's something that I could (potentially) enjoy were it actually happening, but thinking about it does bugger all. I feel uncomfortable if I think about people that I actually know, too, so it's only really sex between strangers that is very far removed from myself and the people around me.

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editingatwork

I'm similar to the people who've mentioned the voyeuristic thing, if I think of a sexual situation I don't see myself as involved in it. And it's only as my imagination, seeing actual people in sexual situations makes me uncomfortable for the most part.

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Wow, so much answers... I had the project to read them all, but I guess I'll just write mine.

Well, for all I know, I've only masturbated like... Three, four times in all my life. Because I didn't feel like doing it. It didn't matter... And during those four times, I didn't think about anything special. I concentrated my thoughts on the pure physical sensation. It was more of curiosity : How does it work down there ? How does it feel ?

Well, it felt nice, but I didn't really need to to it or thought about it after so, I guess we can say I just don't masturbate.

The end of this sentence felt weird to write, because it felt like a lie.

Actually, I don't masturbate, but I enjoy turning myself on. This, and only this.

I used to read a lot of fanfictions and erotic texts, juste because it felt good to be aroused. I never imagined myself in a scene or pictured the scene happening in front of me. Just the words, the way they where put together, the way I heard them and the way they described such... Pleasure...

When this type of text is well-written, I get turned on almost instantly. And just the heat, the euphoria and the tension of being tunred on is enough. I don't need touching myself.

Well, that was weird too. But at least I don't feel like I'm lying !

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Crushing my enemies, seeing them driven out before me, and hearing the lamentations of their women.

Although in actuality, fictional characters. Sometimes, fictional characters of my own creation, but fictional characters none the less.

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Fictional characters. Not them having sex, just them getting to know each other in power inequality situations.

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I often wouldn't think of anything at all--I'd just pay attention to the physical sensations occurring in the reality of that moment.

I never needed visual stimuli to become aroused.

If I did fantasize it would always include generic human beings, never myself.

When I was really young it was not a sexual thing in my mind, but it involved someone getting spanked, usually cartoon characters. When I got older and I began to see it as sexual, the spanking component diminished.

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