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happiness and asexual

happiness and asexuality  

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  1. 1. happiness after discovering asexuality

    • yes, i am happy with being asexual
      73
    • yes and no, from time to time i do not feel happy being asexual
      39
    • no, i am not happy with being asexual
      2
  2. 2. my most important driver for not being happy is

    • lonelyness
      29
    • social pressure to sex( sex + love is so important to other and they do not see asexuality)
      15
    • social pressure by being different
      9
    • pressure by covering up
      7
    • bullying / jokes / ...
      1
    • I am happy, so it does not apply to me
      44
    • other reasons
      9
  3. 3. when you are not happy (after discovering asexuality), do you ever feel like you have to try to live sexual life ?

    • I am happy, so it does not apply to me
      59
    • trying to change to sexual is a crazy idea
      53
    • trying to change to sexual, i tried to it did work
      2


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asexual.virgin

many seem to be happy with being asexual. for me it changes. sometimes i feel OK , sometimes i feel pressured to change

and that makes me feel sad

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Heart of Darkness

I'm very happy with being asexual. I can see why some people may not because they feel like an outsider to the hypersexual world, but personally, since sex doesn't interest me, I don't dwell on the "odd" ways of others. My unhappiness is caused more by school and boredom.

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Mysticus Insanus

Perfectly happy with it. There's stuff that irks me about my life (learned to live with it and still be sufficiently content... antideps helped a lot), but not wanting sex has never been one of them.

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Fruity<3

Your last question is a little odd. Maybe you should have options? I would put that 'I would try to have a sexual life' if I'm upset about being ace. Also, someone could be avidly trying to have a sexual life and it 'not work'.

Just a thought. I like your poll though. I put "trying to change to sexual is a crazy" for the last one. Just because none of them apply to me, but that's closest to me (though I don't find it crazy)

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cavyX

I'm mostly pretty happy being an ace. I do feel lonely sometimes though and I wonder if I'll ever end up with anyone who gets me or whether I'll end up compromising and that can be a sad road. For the most part though, I'm pretty happy.

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`Silver

Happy with that. It's part of me and now that I know how to call it, I have no reason to regret it.

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Robin L

I am happy with being asexual, because I found myself!

(I'm not exactly happy with my romantic orientation, though)

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marmalade-cats

I'm very happy with being asexual! I finally have a label that fits what I feel, and I can relate to a lot of other people (at least online if not in person) that share the same label!

Sometimes I do get lonely though, but I don't regret not being sexual. Sex doesn't make me happy, so wanting a sexual relationship or being able to have sexual attraction to someone wouldn't make me any happier. It might make it easier to find a boyfriend, but again, sex doesn't make me happy. It has the opposite effect a lot of times.

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Pikanyaa

While I generally am happy with being (gray)asexual, sometimes I do get concerned with what that'll mean for my relationship with my sexual boyfriend. He knows all about asexuality since I've been open to him about it, but sometimes I worry that I will never be comfortable enough with the thought of sex to satisfy his physical needs, thus dooming him to a life of masturbation and temptation to indulge in hentai (a habit he recently broke) to fulfill his desires...

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Waist of Thyme

Happy with being asexual.

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Lesning

I'm happy about it. It's who I am, and I don't feel I need to change. Also, how would you do that?

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Hedgie

I'm happy being asexual; discovering my asexuality finally put me in touch with my true self. :)

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& I'm a heretic

For the most part I am happy. I like being this way.

I've identified for a little over a year now. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 10 months. I was out (after I identified) to one boyfriend before that, and out to the boyfriend before that after we had broken up (when I started identifying, but he obviously already knew I didn't want sex.) It's confusing for me because before I met my boyfriend, I was a complete virgin, the farthest I had gone was making out if you'd even call it that. Getting further into my relationship with my boyfriend, we started doing more sexual things and it took a lot of adjustment for me, but we did those things because we both liked them. Eventually I developed feelings~ and now we pretty much have sex without the sex part of it. I feel like I've changed in a lot of aspects, but not at the same time. It was easy to identify as ace before, but now that I do more things and have more feelings it's almost as if I feel less worthy of the term. But the bottom line is that I don't want sex with him or anyone else. I like that. I don't want to want sex, but sometimes I feel like it'd be way easier if I did want it.

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WhenSummersGone

Yes and no, from time to time I do not feel happy about my orientation. The no is mostly social pressure by being different and that I don't understand what most people are talking about. Trying to change to sexual is a crazy idea, and I've already tried to enjoy sex itself and it didn't work. I need the connection to experience sexual attraction.

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Guest member25959

It's not really something that I'd take pride in... I take pride in my achievements, and I wouldn't say that my sexual orientation is an achievement

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Skycaptain

I answered yes and no. Loneliness is the big problem. I am happy being asexual, and there is no point my trying to change, but an empty house every night does get depressing from time to time.

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