ThaHoward Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 This is a serious question, do people in the ages of 60-70-80-90 have sex? Or is it less frequent? Do the things down there function? (I don't mean to offend anyone, it is a real question) Link to post Share on other sites
Guest member25959 Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Yeah Link to post Share on other sites
ithaca Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Yes, they do. There is a big taboo about talking of older people's sexuality in society, almost as much as talking of children's sexuality. But most do have sex and/or engage in sexual activities. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaHoward Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 How? ._. Or I know how people have sex, but let's say they are 88, is it still possible? And when you get older, will you get attracted to the same as you were younger, or will your sexual (and romantic) preferences change to your age? Link to post Share on other sites
krislox Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 I was curious about this too. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaHoward Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 Yes, they do. There is a big taboo about talking of older people's sexuality in society, almost as much as talking of children's sexuality. But most do have sex and/or engage in sexual activities. Yes I can think so. Honestly it is impossible for me to think of i.e my grand parents having sex. Link to post Share on other sites
ithaca Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 I think it changes from person to person. Some people's libido will diminish, some will remain there, some people's sexual organs will function differently and some won't much, I guess. I don't think I need to literally explain how people have sex, do I? :P Link to post Share on other sites
ThaHoward Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 Oh please tell me, never had the talk :p Link to post Share on other sites
ithaca Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Some links: http://theconversation.com/denying-older-peoples-sexuality-is-an-affront-to-their-dignity-9028 http://ageing.oxfordjournals.org/content/30/2/121.full.pdf http://www.helpguide.org/elder/sexuality_aging.htm http://www.nbcnews.com/id/20395061/ns/health-sexual_health/t/sexed-up-seniors-do-it-more-youd-think/#.UtQFmJ55Oxg http://www.nia.nih.gov/health/publication/sexuality-later-life Link to post Share on other sites
Amedot Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Hearing you ask how older people have sex reminds me of my grandfather, asking how gay men have sex is there's no woman. People have sex (and some people don't). It's not a big mystery, it's just none of your business (unless you're one of the consenting parties in said sex). Link to post Share on other sites
marki Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Sadly I know my 90 year old grandparents are still frisky. Link to post Share on other sites
Zerο Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Yes. I wanna say it's more dry than sweaty though. Link to post Share on other sites
howyoufeel_org Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Old sexual people has much more sex than I have, I am very sure about that :aven: :-) From a medical point of view the sexuallity last the entire life, it may change and be different but for the most people it will still be there, well at least it what they teach in med.school. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaHoward Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 Hearing you ask how older people have sex reminds me of my grandfather, asking how gay men have sex is there's no woman. People have sex (and some people don't). It's not a big mystery, it's just none of your business (unless you're one of the consenting parties in said sex). As you can see I was actually thinking of the physical issues (as i.e a 90 year old can't run around, and you also got issues like impotency and less body fluids (I think)) and the question regarding sex drive, preferences and attraction. And as ith said it is much of a taboo, so it is little information regarding this. It is really unfair of you to compere this to people who say homosexuals can't have sex with eachother, as only heterosexual sex is "natural". Link to post Share on other sites
Amedot Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 My grandfather said he was just curious about the physical issues, too, he wasn't trying to be homophobic. And I don't think it's unfair for me at all to compare your questions to his. You both are asking questions about how other people have sex. Ask them yourself if you are so curious. I'm definitely sure that health problems and disabilities play a role in what sexual activities a person can and cannot do, but these aren't only reserved for the elderly. It is good to talk about sexuality and age, though, as many people try to erase the elderly's sexuality and there are even nursing/old folks homes that won't allow sexual behavior between couples. Link to post Share on other sites
iamphoenixfire Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 speaking as someone who has walked in on her 80 year old grandparents, yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Zerο Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 speaking as someone who has walked in on her 80 year old grandparents, yes. That deserves a thread in T&S. Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 How? ._. Or I know how people have sex, but let's say they are 88, is it still possible? And when you get older, will you get attracted to the same as you were younger, or will your sexual (and romantic) preferences change to your age? It's entirely individual. Just as it is with younger people. Physically, yes, it's possible. Older people don't change bodies at some point. Link to post Share on other sites
Myssterry Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 I gather that they do. There was a TV propramme recently that had an older couple enter into a sexual relationship, Last Tango in Halifax. A friend of mine was delighted that older people were regarded as sexual beings. I, of course, was thinking "why is everything always about sex?" However, adults should be able to enjoy sex at any age if that's their wish. Link to post Share on other sites
Arethusa Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Sure, it's possible. Many do, some don't, it's really up to the individual. To cite just one example: my uncle is past 60 and involved with some crazy sexual drama (sleeping with his ex-wife and ex-lover at the same time... it's complicated and stupid, so much so that were forced to take steps to disinherit him). Link to post Share on other sites
ryutoshi Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Ever see those male enhancement pill commercials? They're not just for middle-aged men having a little trouble in bed... Link to post Share on other sites
Sockstealingnome Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Hearing you ask how older people have sex reminds me of my grandfather, asking how gay men have sex is there's no woman. People have sex (and some people don't). It's not a big mystery, it's just none of your business (unless you're one of the consenting parties in said sex). As you can see I was actually thinking of the physical issues (as i.e a 90 year old can't run around, and you also got issues like impotency and less body fluids (I think)) and the question regarding sex drive, preferences and attraction. And as ith said it is much of a taboo, so it is little information regarding this. It is really unfair of you to compere this to people who say homosexuals can't have sex with eachother, as only heterosexual sex is "natural". Yes, as ryutoshi said, Viagra and Cialis help older men to maintain their erections. If they have other problems like getting it up in the first place, there are also treatments for that. Women do become drier down there as they age especially after menopause but that's what personal lubricant is for. I took a class on human sexuality and I recommend it if you're unsure and interested in learning other things. Link to post Share on other sites
swim2thesun Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 Sure they do. Any sexual* person can have the desire for sexual intercourse at any age. *not specifically limited to Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 Yeeeees they do. My grandmother lived in an elderly apartment complex once and she had old men trying to bed her as "the new girl" and the other women all got jealous for being discarded for a new face. It was so drama filled and very much like something from highschool. I also recently read an article about a sex therapist teaching her elderly mom to masturbate after hearing about how few orgasms she had when younger and the mom calling her excited because the vibrator had caused her to " wet the bed". There is some dryness as women age for many but lube fixes that ( my mom used KY til she decided sex was too boring to keep dating). Men can take pills. And given the amount of 55-75 year old men that have asked me for sex... I would never count on less interest with age. Why people find it so taboo to think of older people having sex is beyond me. They aren't magically children again once they hit 70. Link to post Share on other sites
ithaca Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 They aren't magically children again once they hit 70. You are spot on on the problem, though. Society infantilizes old people, it doesn't only "asexualize" them. Since some old people lose autonomy with age, and they need help with daily care of themselves, society sees that as similar to child care and generalizes this unfair impression to all older people. Link to post Share on other sites
B.B Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 The taboo comes from young people feeling creeped out that an older person might get horny looking at them. The fact is, sometimes they do :) Link to post Share on other sites
MadRat Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 The most unbelievable thing about old people having sex is for me...I don´t want to sound disrespectful... looks. Old people are not very attractive. Some of them are good looking even in their 50s or 60s but later...you can´t stop the time. And considering how shallow many people are, insulting even people who look totally normal for every little flaw, I can´t imagine they would suddenly magically turn non-shallow with age. So do they sleep with hot prostitutes or gigolos or what? Link to post Share on other sites
ThaHoward Posted January 14, 2014 Author Share Posted January 14, 2014 The most unbelievable thing about old people having sex is for me...I don´t want to sound disrespectful... looks. Old people are not very attractive. Some of them are good looking even in their 50s or 60s but later...you can´t stop the time. And considering how shallow many people are, insulting even people who look totally normal for every little flaw, I can´t imagine they would suddenly magically turn non-shallow with age. So do they sleep with hot prostitutes or gigolos or what? This is kinda what I wondered before. When they get older (at least 70+) are they still having the same sexual preferences they had as when they were in their 20's and 30's or do they change to, erm, "match" their age? Link to post Share on other sites
LuneNoir Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 For the people wondering about how old people can be attracted to each other don't assume every old person has the same body and also don't assume that all old people have issues with their body. Some old people are comfortable with their aging body and sex is complex it's not just about aesthetics and obviously even in old age people have diverse sexual preferences. I have heard some people state that they became less picky about superficial characteristics of lovers/partners with age actually and I can understand why that may be the case for some people Link to post Share on other sites
Sockstealingnome Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 I'd say old people still very much find their old preferences to be attractive. They've just added more preferences to the list. Our likes and dislikes regarding anything do not stay static over time. Also, I'd like to mention that STD rates are some of the highest in nursing homes. So not only are old people having a lot of sex but unsafe sex as well which is really an issue no one likes to talk about. Link to post Share on other sites
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