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Asexual FTMs on Testosterone - did it affect your sex drive?

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YoungFolks

I know one of the side effects of taking testosterone is that it can increase sex drive. I'm curious how it affected asexuals who have taken it. Did you feel increased horniness? Did your attitude towards sex/masturbation change? Did it affect your orientation? The way you interacted with people? Or was there no real difference?

I'm genuinely curious.

MTFs who've done estrogen are welcome to answer as well.

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Philip027

I'm not sure I would call myself trans necessarily, but since I was found to have low testosterone and might be placed on treatments in the near future, this is still a subject I'd want to know about. I have no sort of sex drive and I really don't want to have one.

The majority opinion I've heard so far from others though is that it will not affect your orientation, although potentially everything else you stated could be up in the air.

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jrs89

I've been on testosterone for 5 years due to being born with a female reproductive system (I don't feel like the terms trans or FTM are right for me, but I respect that they are right for others). I am demisexual and testosterone did not change that at all. I also only develop sexual attraction towards men and testosterone did not change that either. It did, however, greatly increase my horniness and need to masturbate. It settled down after a few years, but not by much. As far as my interactions with others, it's hard to say what was the testosterone and what was feeling more comfortable in my skin, but it did make me feel more comfortable in my interactions with others and I felt that I was more able to be myself.

My guess would be, based on my experience and what I know about the effects of testosterone, that if you do not feel sexual attraction towards others, that will not change. If you do feel horny sometimes, the instances of that occurring will likely increase.

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Glitter Spock

I'm not FTM but I am DFAB and did take testosterone to transition. My asexual orientation didn't change. The only sex-related thing that changed was that I felt like masturbating more often.

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Hiraeth

Am I the only person around who is/has ever seriously considered discontinuing T because they just can't fucking deal with this?

Seriously. Having those funny sensations down there feels so wrong that it gives me panic attacks just like how having monthly bleeding felt so wrong. I know a lot of people seem to not mind needing to masturbate [more] in order to deal with those sensations, but that doesn't work for me.

I also tried being sexual with someone, hoping it would remove that "mental block" and turn me sexual so the suffering could stop, which obviously didn't work, and I still feel guilty and deceptive because they thought I was attracted to them (as a demi) when I was really just so frustrated and desperate to stop feeling this way I was willing to try anything. I still haven't had this conversation with them. With my luck, they'll probably stumble across this post and decide to confront me, or not.

I'm at a point where I can successfully live stealth and I no longer have constant reminders of estrogen-induced dysphoria. But I do have constant reminders of inhabiting a body that thinks it should be sexual with a mind and spirit that doesn't have the faintest idea what identifying with sexual energy is like. I still constantly feel disembodied, and the fact that I'm a lot more comfortable socially now doesn't really relieve that distress.

I'm trying to figure out whether or not it's worth continuing. Which of the two evils is better, considering that I'm capable of fully passing now, unlike before.

I could use some guidance, I suppose.

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Nothings_Changed

I know one of the side effects of taking testosterone is that it can increase sex drive. I'm curious how it affected asexuals who have taken it. Did you feel increased horniness? Did your attitude towards sex/masturbation change? Did it affect your orientation? The way you interacted with people? Or was there no real difference?

One of the reasons I always assumed that I was a sexual person (besides the fact that I didn’t think anything else was a possibility) was that even prior to T, I felt that I had a high libido. The first few weeks it EXPLODED. I was ready to go all the time, but I think part of that is because blood flow changes down there and parts are growing. It’s gotten better, and now a few years since I started, I think it’s about the same level as it was before T.

I have a love/hate relationship with masturbation. I love how it feels but I don’t like doing it. I feel like I takes a lot of time and energy when I am literally just f*cking myself. But it feels so good, so I keep doing it.

Sex is hit or miss. Sometimes I love my genitals and I use them sexually, sometimes I’m indifferent. Recently I’ve been getting some bottom dysphoria so the feelings my body gets vs. when my brain is expecting is mismatched. Add another person to this confusion and it just gives up. I’m trying to find a balance so I can be sexual with my partner, but it’s really hard right now.

I feel the T cleared some of the emotional fog that I seemed to drift around in when under the influence of my biology. It makes me feel a bit more logical and less emotional in decision making, but it also helped clear up my interest in others. I used to push that I was into girls, thinking only lesbian want to be guys. While I do find woman pretty or cute, I have 0 sexually desire towards them. I have found men more romantically attractive and when I find someone attractive, it’s usually a masculine identified person.

I have more confidence in myself now since transitioning, plus my brains is a bit clearer so I feel more comfortable when speaking to others. I am bold and to the point when I need to be and I’m fine with chitchatting too.

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MiharuRokujou

I was going to post the same question because that's something that worries me as well. I am 18, asexual, sex-repulsed, have never masturbated before or watched porn or kissed or had sex before, NEVER. And I'm worried that once I start T, I will suddenly become sexual and will want to masturbate (I don't even know how I can do that and I don't want to find out). Can anyone help or give some advice?

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ThaHoward

Why are you worried about masturbating? And just because you get hormones, it doesn't mean that you'll become sexual, as sexuality is not detirmined by hormones. I got very much testosterone (like over the average) and I'm still asexual.

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MiharuRokujou

I'm worried about masturbating because everything that has to do with sex (masturbation included) repulses me. And I'd probably hate myself and/or see myself as "impure" if I did something like that. That's why I'm worried. But what you said makes me have some hope, thank you.

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Glitter Spock

I'm worried about masturbating because everything that has to do with sex (masturbation included) repulses me. And I'd probably hate myself and/or see myself as "impure" if I did something like that. That's why I'm worried. But what you said makes me have some hope, thank you.

Your quandary seems to be "I am repulsed by masturbation now, but what if I'm NOT repulsed by it in the future?" and this line of thought repulses you.

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xsmittyx

My sex drive did go up. I have no issues with masturbation, so....that's how I dealt with that!

It has calmed down though, phew

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AtumnL

Nothing has changed for me and I'm +2 years on testosterone.

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Robotic Emu

I am two weeks on T and my libido has gotten a lot higher...I have been a lot more interested in other people's bodies (aesthetic attraction + weird romantic fantasy such) and have actually had interest in the idea of having a relationship. I used to feel completely asexual (up until about 7 months ago) but now I am more in the gray area/ leaning towards normal sexual attraction. Having sexualish thoughts feels very right/ normal/ good. I have felt more self-confident with social interactions and just better all around.

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MiharuRokujou

Robotic Emu, were you "completely" asexual before T? I mean, you had no interest whatsoever in having/watching sex or masturbating or anything? If so, that worries me 'cause the same could happen to me. And in only two weeks! There are those like Lai who don't notice any difference so I'm hoping that the same happens in my case. But there's really no guarantee. At least the advantage we have is that we can stop T whenever we want. If it gets too unbearable and I already have a male-like appearance maybe the wisest course of action here would be to stop. That's my honest advice Hiraeth. Some things are just not worth it.

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NotYourGirl

Hey there, I don't define myself as trans nor have I taken hormones, but I had a FtM boyfriend who did.
He started the hormone therapy after we'd been together for a while, and nothing changed for a long time (~4-6months), then he got more sexual, but nothing that drove him mad at me.
The only thing i noticed was that he was a bit more agressive towards those people who made offensive comments on him or us, and he sometimes got a bit hyper during the day (he took the hormones in the morning).
That's it, I hope I could help!

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Beorcen

I'm a transman and I've been on T for 7 years now. I guess I'm kind of unusual in that when I started on T my libido actually went down. It was never particularly high to begin with - I never masturbated (still don't) and while I had had sex with one person (my first boyfriend), I was always unsure about whether I had actually wanted it. I didn't get the other usual side-effects of T either, such as aggression or high energy, so maybe I'm just unusual. I have wondered whether the drop in libido was actually a drop in romantic capacity, since I don't really have a libido unless I'm in a close relationship with someone (and even then it's hit-and-miss) but I was unaware of my (a)sexuality back then, putting it down to being uncomfortable with my body.

Though now I've been switched onto a higher, more infrequent dose (Nebido as opposed to Sustanon) I do ocassionally notice an increase in libido a few days after the injection. I'm in a relationship with a sexual person so she's pretty happy about it, but I do sometimes find it somewhat distressing, and I still don't want to have sex where I "benefit". But then I'm grey/demi so my experience will be different to asexuals here.

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