kaylee123 Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 On 10/1/2013 at 7:58 PM, Sneaky Snek š said: That awkward moment when you read A&P, and didn't recognize the imagery as sexual until the end of the story... #asexual problems http://www.tiger-town.com/whatnot/updike/ Above is a link to the story, if you care to read it. I read it all and still don't get it.. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bio 7 Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 On 1/23/2021 at 9:25 PM, Cowgirl_Kat said: I should have realized I was asexual when duringĀ an ice breaker at a conference (What'sĀ your celebrity crush) it took me a foreverĀ to come up with one.Ā I just went with Leonardo DiCaprio, becauseĀ The Great Gatsby and most people think he's hot, I guess. šĀ Thatās quite a strange icebreaker. I have an easy answer but that would just be a bit awkward to be asked at all. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Destan Posted January 28, 2021 Share Posted January 28, 2021 One of my teachers once joked that one male classmateĀ was popular with the ladies inĀ class. It's because most girls just happened to vote for his posterĀ for the class project. Besides me and threeĀ other people, our class consists of only girls. All of us are also not teens anymore.Ā None of the students thought it wasĀ funny.Ā It was rather uncomfortable and gross.Ā (The teacher laughed at her own joke though.) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
cakeandcats Posted January 29, 2021 Share Posted January 29, 2021 People who KNOW Iām ace/aroaceĀ and stillĀ askĀ me if I have a crush and āare there any boys???ā. No? Thereās not? And I have many other achievements in life other than the possibility of male attention? Ā On 1/24/2021 at 9:30 PM, cogpsyche said: people assuming we're sleeping together because we're emotionally intimate etc I relate to that. All the prioritisation of romance and sex means that strong friendships are seen as an anomaly or a stepping stone to āadultā relationships at which pointĀ obviously youāll get all your emotional intimacy from whoever you have sex with. Itās a massive bugbear for me. I just want to have friends. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Scylactic Posted January 29, 2021 Share Posted January 29, 2021 When you and your best friend, who so happens to be the opposite sex, are affectionate and playful towards each other and everyone assumes you two are dating ... Ā I'm sorry, what??? o.O 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ExodusPrime2126 Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 On 9/20/2013 at 10:55 PM, ThePaperRose said: Yeah I've learned to stop asking things.... I couldnāt agree more Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LesbiVoid Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 āI consider myself asexualā Ā āOh, so you mean sapiosexual?ā Quote Link to post Share on other sites
evildolphins Posted February 2, 2021 Share Posted February 2, 2021 "You just have to find the right person!" No. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Zectarash Posted February 4, 2021 Share Posted February 4, 2021 On 1/30/2021 at 2:23 PM, LesbiVoid said: āI consider myself asexualā Ā āOh, so you mean sapiosexual?ā I don't... what? How did they get from ace... to sapio...? Wishful thinking? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 4, 2021 Share Posted February 4, 2021 On 1/30/2021 at 5:23 PM, LesbiVoid said: āI consider myself asexualā Ā āOh, so you mean sapiosexual?ā "I consider myself this thing" Ā "Oh, so you mean this thing that is entirely different from what you said" Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MakeupJunkie4 Posted February 4, 2021 Share Posted February 4, 2021 39 minutes ago, Moon Spirit ā½ said: "I consider myself this thing" Ā "Oh, so you mean this thing that is entirely different from what you said" yeah I've had this convo with a complete stranger. "Oh - that's celibacy" SMH Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 4, 2021 Share Posted February 4, 2021 @MakeupJunkie4Ā It's better to be open to the truth, they won't learn if they assume they already know everything. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bronztrooper Posted February 6, 2021 Share Posted February 6, 2021 On 2/3/2021 at 9:29 PM, MakeupJunkie4 said: yeah I've had this convo with a complete stranger. "Oh - that's celibacy" SMH Don't forget this gem: "You're just an incel." 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Aloney Posted February 8, 2021 Share Posted February 8, 2021 On 1/29/2021 at 9:19 PM, cakeandcats said: All the prioritisation of romance and sex means that strong friendships are seen as an anomaly or a stepping stone to āadultā relationships at which pointĀ obviously youāll get all your emotional intimacy from whoever you have sex with. Itās a massive bugbear for me. I just want to have friends. Yes! This! It makes me so sad people think others can only be emotionally close with their romanticĀ partner! Especially, since yes, what I want from my friendships is definitely the emotional closeness and understanding. Why would I only want to know people superficially? The amount of times one of my best friends and I have gotten the "couple treatment" while shopping when it's just the two of us, just because *gasp* he's male and I'm female! There can't be any other reason for these two people of same age group be seen together than that they must be romantically involved! Literally, just, SEEN together, too??? At first it was annoying and sometimes made us feel awkward with each other which was the worst, but nowadays we're used to it and usually just laugh about it š Not to mention, when my parents first learnedĀ that I got along with him, it took like half a year for them to stop asking where we "stand" and throwing around those knowing smiles š 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
JadeG94 Posted February 10, 2021 Share Posted February 10, 2021 Sister gets embaressed of sex scenes when I'm sitting there like "I got no say on this!" Ā #AsexualProblems Quote Link to post Share on other sites
superbrooke3 Posted February 15, 2021 Share Posted February 15, 2021 One of my high school teachers seriously thought I was massively promiscuous because my main friend group was males. I still laugh about that, because most everyone else absolutely knew nothing was happening. Ā Also, I love the classic: "You will probably like it when you try it." I mean, yeah. IĀ have a functional nervous system. That's also not what being asexual means.... 9 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jacinta13 Posted February 16, 2021 Share Posted February 16, 2021 When you hear ads say stuff like 'Sex is an essential part of a healthy relationship' and you just want to scream a little because A) No, no it's not; and B) I don't even know what I expected but I certainly hoped for someone who's supposed to be setting couples up to think past sex. 8 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
RoBoZaKi Posted February 17, 2021 Share Posted February 17, 2021 Making dirty jokes, only to be be told that an asexual person wouldn't make those kids of jokes. UmĀ I learned them from this sexual society. I still don't have any interest in physical intimacy. Stop making it weird, it's a joke. #asexualproblems 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ash_AnimeAndCatFan Posted February 21, 2021 Share Posted February 21, 2021 On 9/21/2013 at 9:39 AM, KillerDarling said: Having to come up with some sort of answer for your friend's questions of "So what did you think of him? Did you LIKE him?" after meeting a new guy. I've known him for 2 seconds & we talked about the weather--how should I have an opinion already?! #asexualproblems I know! Right! My mom does this! My Aunt does this! My cousins do this! Even my friends do this and i just dont get it! how do you see someone and think, oh yes, date? 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MoonSedai Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 On 1/23/2021 at 2:25 PM, Cowgirl_Kat said: I should have realized I was asexual when duringĀ an ice breaker at a conference (What'sĀ your celebrity crush) it took me a foreverĀ to come up with one.Ā I just went with Leonardo DiCaprio, becauseĀ The Great Gatsby and most people think he's hot, I guess. šĀ Oh, Lordy I had a hard time with this question as a teenager. Even as an adult! On one of our first dates, my husband asked about my celebrity crush and I said, "I don't know... I kinda like that guy who played Obi-Wan Kenobi in the new Star Wars movie?" (Ewan McGregor). He was literally the last film I'd seen in the theater so the first person I could think of.Ā Ā That should have been a hint to me as well, I suppose. WHen the only male 'celebrity' I could think of was 'that dude from Star wars?' Ā Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SpaceDustbin Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 14 hours ago, MoonSedai said: WHen the only male 'celebrity' I could think of was 'that dude from Star wars?' I mean.... a lot of people would agree with you there no matter what š (or at least, I would, given that he's pretty much been my no. 1 "celeb crush" for the past 16 years š)Ā 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MoonSedai Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 7 hours ago, SpaceDustbin said: I mean.... a lot of people would agree with you there no matter what š (or at least, I would, given that he's pretty much been my no. 1 "celeb crush" for the past 16 years š)Ā I'll admit, he's not hard to look at!Ā 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BunchOBees Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 āI canāt wait to have my little grandkids come over and playā āYeah, youāll be waiting foreverā āI wonder what my future husband looks like right now.ā āMe tooā āOh, really?ā āYes, Iām also wondering what your future husband looks like now.ā Ā When everyone youĀ know has this constantĀ knowledge of their life plan, to get married andĀ have kids, and they think everyone shares their common, basic life plans, so wondering or asking others about their specifics is normal, and you have to brush off the assumptions and stay inconspicuously asexual. #asexualproblems 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
cakeandcats Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 The complete lack of asexual characters on TV or in books. I don't want to be that person who mentally labels everyone without a relationship as ace BUT I'm so desperate for some good mainstream representation that I do anyway. My friend, who is lovely and seems fairly ok with me being ace, was suggesting that this character in a book we both like is ace (he's probablyĀ not because I found on wikipedia that he gets married and has kids) and he's the irritating stereotype of someone ace--scientific and socially awkward and badly dressed. Just like Sheldon Cooper and Sherlock Holmes and all the other characters pulled out whenever anyone says there's no ace representation. I don't want someone who is just too interested in science to be interested in sex, I want someone asexual!!! It kind of upset me that she would buy into that stereotype, but I also know that it's so common. Ā Florence in Sex Education made me cry, and she was only in it for half an episode. Just having an ace character who is not a stereotype was amazing. I guess that shows how starved I am for ace representation! 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
a little annihilation Posted February 26, 2021 Share Posted February 26, 2021 Mom about my depression: aren't you looking forward to anything? Sex? #asexualproblems 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bronztrooper Posted February 26, 2021 Share Posted February 26, 2021 On 2/25/2021 at 9:01 AM, cakeandcats said: The complete lack of asexual characters on TV or in books. I don't want to be that person who mentally labels everyone without a relationship as ace BUT I'm so desperate for some good mainstream representation that I do anyway. My friend, who is lovely and seems fairly ok with me being ace, was suggesting that this character in a book we both like is ace (he's probablyĀ not because I found on wikipedia that he gets married and has kids) and he's the irritating stereotype of someone ace--scientific and socially awkward and badly dressed. Just like Sheldon Cooper and Sherlock Holmes and all the other characters pulled out whenever anyone says there's no ace representation. I don't want someone who is just too interested in science to be interested in sex, I want someone asexual!!! It kind of upset me that she would buy into that stereotype, but I also know that it's so common. Ā Florence in Sex Education made me cry, and she was only in it for half an episode. Just having an ace character who is not a stereotype was amazing. I guess that shows how starved I am for ace representation! Well, there is Todd from Bojack Horseman- from what I know, he has a pretty good character arc. Ā Also, there's Parvati in Outer Worlds (a game, btw) who is just great. Ā I do like to think of Molly from MIB: International as being aro/ace because every time she's asked about it her response is basically "lolno", and I interpreted it as her just defaulting to it as a convenient excuse so that she doesn't have to go into a full lesson about her lack of interest 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
cakeandcats Posted February 27, 2021 Share Posted February 27, 2021 11 hours ago, Bronztrooper said: Well, there is Todd from Bojack Horseman- from what I know, he has a pretty good character arc. Ā Also, there's Parvati in Outer Worlds (a game, btw) who is just great. Ā I do like to think of Molly from MIB: International as being aro/ace because every time she's asked about it her response is basically "lolno", and I interpreted it as her just defaulting to it as a convenient excuse so that she doesn't have to go into a full lesson about her lack of interest I know thereās a few but so few that most people still donāt really know what aroace/ace is and think that Sheldon is a valid representation. I just want to come across characters in all the really mainstream programmes and it be completely normal. Iād like to watch MIB though and relate to Molly! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Caffeine vi Posted March 1, 2021 Share Posted March 1, 2021 Telling a friend you don't like them that way and feeling terrible and anxious. #asexualproblems (o - o) 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Marianna_Esc Posted March 1, 2021 Share Posted March 1, 2021 -Not clicking on any Netflix series that has a TV-MA rating. -Hearing people talk about milkshakes and saying "I love milkshakes" and having people laugh at you because they weren't talking about ACTUAL milkshakes. -Rolling my eyes at sexual innuendo and sex jokes. -Listening to people talking about 'hot'Ā celebs, seeing a picture of them, and feeling completely neutral. -Wanting kids, but not wanting to actually 'do the deed' to have them. -Not knowing how to explain it when people ask why I'm not married nor in a relationship. -Not wanting to be alone, but not finding the right partner with whom I can connect emotionally and who would be okay with not having sex. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LetzLill Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 Whenever my little sister mentions growing up and having kids or if my mom says something about grandkids and wanting to see her kids get married Iām just like..... no thanks.Ā First of all, I donāt want biological kids (I would maybe consider adoption), and secondly they assume I would want a husband even though Iāve come out to my family as bi.Ā Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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