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When I pointed out that an innuendo didn't apply to me I got told, "that's just sad, [Firefly8]." No, but you just made me sad.

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21 minutes ago, Firefly8 said:

When I pointed out that an innuendo didn't apply to me I got told, "that's just sad, [Firefly8]." No, but you just made me sad.

I'm in this one group, and there's a trans woman who is into sewing things like historically accurate renaissance outfits.  She is also into the furry fandom.  Apparently she has a raccoon outfit that she's making and she has to polish it to make it look nice.  Someone else took it as a normal raccoon and pointed it out as animal cruelty or something, forget if it was sarcasm or not.  So she asked me "do you polish your raccoon?"  I pointed out that it was the sentence structure for an innuendo.  So the one asking said, "oh dear", because she didn't think of that.  But polishing a raccoon is very random.

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Janus the Fox

Innuendos are frequent in the Furry Fandom yeah.  Though many like to distance themselves from the sexual stereotype given often to Furries.  Separating the Furries from the Yiffers so you speak.

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Art of Matt Eldritch

Being asexual is starting to make me lonely and frustrated. I've been in many relationships, but due to circumstances, they tended to have to be hidden from disapproving others. And just this week, I was offered to be in a new, equally low-key friends with benefits relationship with one of my best friends.

I'm sick of these types of relationships, I want someone I can smooch and cuddle with in public. But I have no idea how to find someone like that.

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On 6/3/2020 at 1:09 AM, nerdperson777 said:

I don't know why my dad has to say things that I could do, when my entire life has said that I wouldn't ever do that.  When I first enrolled in university as a female engineering student, he said that I had to flirt with the guys to help me with the class and give me homework answers.  I've never shown interest in a guy, other than the time in middle school that I was daydreaming and he happened to be where my line of sight was, because I stare off into the void when I do that.  Acting class showed that the only way I can fake attraction is touching a shoulder three times, and I hate touching people. 

 

Second thing, my parents had apparently gotten me some exercise pants from Costco.  But they were more like tights.  My mom said that I wouldn't like it because it's too form-fitting.  My dad GUARANTEED that I would like it.  Nothing special happened.  I didn't like it, exactly as mom said.  Even after he lost this, he still tried to convince me.  He put the pants on himself to tell me "but it fits" and pointed his butt towards me to show the fit in the butt.  My mom and I unsuccessfully got him to understand that fitting isn't the same thing as comfortable.

 

So now, the third thing.  I started teaching my dad Tai Chi over Zoom.  I didn't want to go out in the living room and disturb my roommates (or show my parents the mess that isn't mine).  My room isn't very big so I teach from my bed.  I've pretty much mastered balancing so I can balance better on my unstable bed than my dad can on the kitchen floor.  I bought a mannequin for my costuming projects.  He just sits on the left of my bed past my plastic drawer that I use as a nightstand.  I've had it for at least 2-3 weeks but no one noticed him until this week.  My dad asked if I hug it when I go to sleep.  Are you kidding me?  I already felt awkward groping it whenever I put an outfit on it.  A mannequin isn't soft.  The arm can fall off if put the wrong way.  Since it's new, it still has a strong chemical smell.  Why would I ever sleep with a mannequin?  It could be that he thinks he's being funny but his words come out more creepy than funny.  Once I was arguing with him and suddenly he asked about sex.  Apparently he was referencing a Big Bang Theory episode where two people were arguing, one walked towards the other's door.  "Where are you going?"  "Isn't sex what we do after we argue?"  "True that."  Then they went to have sex.  But I'm not thinking about that when I'm arguing with someone, especially when sex isn't even on my radar.  And don't ask your kids for sex, even if it's a joke.

Big yikes in all aspects here. Parents sexualising their kids is super weird in any situation, so sorry that he's making you feel uncomfortable.

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I told someone on his birthday that I can make him a plushie and he casually said a character.  I decided that I can make it for him as a present for when he gets his master title in about 3 weeks.  I was looking up poses on Amazon, if they have figurines.  I found a related character figurine wearing a Speedo swimsuit.  I need the eye bleach now.

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I was playing DnD and at the beginning the DM said that we leveled up so I was looking at my spells.  There's an invisibility spell that works by touch.  So I asked, "that means I can't use it on myself?"  DM said, "[NP], you're allowed to touch yourself."  I said, "....I walked into that one."

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On 6/2/2020 at 9:00 AM, Skycaptain said:

My office (back bedroom) overlooks the back gardens of the terrace I live in. My computer desk means I can look out of the window, it also means that anyone in the gardens looking up can see me at the window. Next door neighbour decided to sunbathe topless in her garden. Cue awkward feeling, I didn't want her to look up and draw a wrong conclusion. #decided not to do any deskwork for a couple of hours 

My next door neighbours have a hot tub...I do not look out the window summer nights 

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23 hours ago, ClaryFray1984 said:

My next door neighbours have a hot tub...I do not look out the window summer nights 

Yikes... Is it bad that the first thing I thought was about how often they'd should change the water? Especially if... yeah...

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ClaryFray1984
51 minutes ago, Cee Fox said:

Yikes... Is it bad that the first thing I thought was about how often they'd should change the water? Especially if... yeah...

Facepalm! Lol

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8 hours ago, Cee Fox said:

Yikes... Is it bad that the first thing I thought was about how often they'd should change the water? Especially if... yeah...

Definitely an ace moment though!

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On 6/8/2020 at 2:28 PM, Cee Fox said:

Yikes... Is it bad that the first thing I thought was about how often they'd should change the water? Especially if... yeah...

It's like a pool.  The water gets fed through a filtration system that pulls most of the 'gunk' out.

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54 minutes ago, Zash said:

It's like a pool.  The water gets fed through a filtration system that pulls most of the 'gunk' out.

I still say sterilize it in a roaring inferno, but everyone's got their own sanitation standards.

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You definitely have to sanitise them, Legionella makes C-19 look like a cakewalk 

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Asexy in Miami
On 6/3/2020 at 11:33 PM, Art of Matt Eldritch said:

Being asexual is starting to make me lonely and frustrated. I've been in many relationships, but due to circumstances, they tended to have to be hidden from disapproving others. And just this week, I was offered to be in a new, equally low-key friends with benefits relationship with one of my best friends.

I'm sick of these types of relationships, I want someone I can smooch and cuddle with in public. But I have no idea how to find someone like that.

I don’t have a lot of experience with this, but I share your frustration, in the sense I too want to meet someone who truly gets me. I hope we both find that! (Fingers crossed) 

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always. singing.

I tried to tell a friend I was thinking I might have a crush on someone, but I wasn't sure. They asked me "Do you want to kiss them?" I said no, and they said I probably don't actually like them then. I tried to explain that I hadn't wanted to kiss any of my previous crushes, including two people I was in a relationship with for a time. (She knows that I'm questioning my asexuality), and she just said "Well, I guess you'll have to wait to find someone you do want to kiss." 

 

UGH    

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34 minutes ago, always. singing. said:

I tried to tell a friend I was thinking I might have a crush on someone, but I wasn't sure. They asked me "Do you want to kiss them?" I said no, and they said I probably don't actually like them then. I tried to explain that I hadn't wanted to kiss any of my previous crushes, including two people I was in a relationship with for a time. (She knows that I'm questioning my asexuality), and she just said "Well, I guess you'll have to wait to find someone you do want to kiss."  

Do you consider those people "squishes" then? :) Like kind of an aesthetic or even physical attraction, basically only the urge to be close and/or cuddle.

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1 hour ago, always. singing. said:

I tried to tell a friend I was thinking I might have a crush on someone, but I wasn't sure. They asked me "Do you want to kiss them?" I said no, and they said I probably don't actually like them then. I tried to explain that I hadn't wanted to kiss any of my previous crushes, including two people I was in a relationship with for a time. (She knows that I'm questioning my asexuality), and she just said "Well, I guess you'll have to wait to find someone you do want to kiss." 

 

UGH    

That's what I used to tell myself: "I don't want to kiss them so it can't be a crush". I wish everybody knew that romantic love can exists without kissing.

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always. singing.
22 hours ago, Plushval said:

Do you consider those people "squishes" then? :) Like kind of an aesthetic or even physical attraction, basically only the urge to be close and/or cuddle.

I would still consider them a crush as a squish is just a desire to be someone's friend with no romantic feelings. Whereas a crush, to me, is like a romantic or aesthetic attraction. Basically wanting to go on dates or cuddle or hold hands. 

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When people think that anything you have a unique interest in must be your substitution for sex, and such it is a weird obsessive fetish that you should get counselling on. 🙄 I swear, I feel like I need to hide anything unusual about my interests to avoid being thought of as a repressed pervert. Even from asexual people! 

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Comrade F&F

Since I'm part of my uni's LGBT+ and I (probably) have homo-romantic leanings, I have slowly but surely gotten an increase of ads with scantily clad women in lingerie and swimsuits...

 

C'mon Google, if you're gonna give me targeted ads, at least get my demographic right. 

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1 hour ago, Feys&Florets said:

Since I'm part of my uni's LGBT+ and I (probably) have homo-romantic leanings, I have slowly but surely gotten an increase of ads with scantily clad women in lingerie and swimsuits...

 

C'mon Google, if you're gonna give me targeted ads, at least get my demographic right. 

I’m so sick of seeing ads with near or fully naked women popping up. I am neither interested in ads for sex or porn nor that interested in women.

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6 hours ago, Bio 7 said:

I’m so sick of seeing ads with near or fully naked women popping up. I am neither interested in ads for sex or porn nor that interested in women.

Does anyone feel satisfied clicking on the "not interested" button?

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4 minutes ago, nerdperson777 said:

Does anyone feel satisfied clicking on the "not interested" button?

Yeah!  I do that whenever possible.  

Actually, one time I was reading manga online and suddenly a very explicit ad popped up.  In response I instantly closed the tab, which amuses me somewhat in retrospect because that is DEFINITELY not the intended reaction the ad was going for.  I ended up going back to the site later, but whenever there was an ad, I put my hand over the screen just in case.  

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Me trying to explain what asexual means to a friend

"wait isn't that just straight?" "everyone likes someone" "Why hate sex if you try it you might like it" 

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ever been in a sex-ed class and the teacher is like - "when you grow up, you all will have the urge to engage in a sexual activity" and you're just sitting there like. #AsexualProblems

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Just saying "I don't date" instead of "I'm asexual" because then you don't have to pull up a podium and powerpoint presentation. #AsexualProblems

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1 minute ago, rbex said:

Just saying "I don't date" instead of "I'm asexual" because then you don't have to pull up a podium and powerpoint presentation. #AsexualProblems

Every damn time I say "I'm asexual", I get the follow-up questions. LOL. I only tell my closest friends, but still. "Did you ever try?" "If you 'met someone' would you be open?" Etc. *sigh*

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1 hour ago, MakeupJunkie444 said:

Every damn time I say "I'm asexual", I get the follow-up questions. LOL. I only tell my closest friends, but still. "Did you ever try?" "If you 'met someone' would you be open?" Etc. *sigh*

I finally got the object fetish assumption.  And they really picked a random object, that I can't remember what it was.

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i just had this aroace moment a few hours ago. my brother started a topic about women doing housework and men doing nothing much and then my dad is like, when your sister gets married.... im just there like that aint happening, sorry

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