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Meeting the perfect cuddle buddy at an ace meetup and wanting to develop a platonic aromantic cuddle relationship, but being scared of scaring them off because they identify as aro. And not knowing how strongly one should come on to a person one has a massive squish on because I've never done anything similar before.

#asexual problems #aro problems

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When people suggest that I should date random guys I don't even know, then they try to pursuade me by saying "He has a big dick." #AsexualProblems

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Having friends discuss something sexual using slang terms and not understanding what on earth they are talking about. And when you finally get up the nerve to ask them to explain, you get a mixture of "are you serious?" and "No, I refuse to tell you because you are too innocent." Then having to sit quietly because you can't join in on the discussion. #asexualproblems

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Using the classic "its not you, its me" line...only meaning it sincerely! But still feeling like a right shit because you know they don't believe a word of it! #AsexualProblems

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citizenofAcity

Having a mom that won't accept my asexuality, and then tells me to wait on having sex in college.

Well maybe if you'd accept the fact that I'm ace and that there won't have to be a waiting period, we could stop having this conversation. #asexualproblems

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VindicatorPhoenix

I had no idea what what was meant by "tossed salad." I decided to look it up on Urban Dictionary and found out that it sounds GROSS. I would much rather have a fruit salad with apples, strawberries, and kiwi, made from a blender.

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Going to a friend's stag night and having to endure 'the stripper' some bright spark organised...

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Going to a friend's stag night and having to endure 'the stripper' some bright spark organised...

Ah yes. I remember my mother once hired a belly dancer for one of my birthday parties-- my 16th, perhaps? Anyway, I failed to see what the big deal was, though my guests had a blast (those who weren't puking in the bathroom, or in my bed or on my couch trying to run around the baseball diamond, that is).

More recently I've heard from her multiple times that she's more than happy to accept me as gay. Well, I hate to disappoint, but...

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Going to a friend's stag night and having to endure 'the stripper' some bright spark organised...

Ah yes. I remember my mother once hired a belly dancer for one of my birthday parties-- my 16th, perhaps? Anyway, I failed to see what the big deal was, though my guests had a blast (those who weren't puking in the bathroom, or in my bed or on my couch trying to run around the baseball diamond, that is).

More recently I've heard from her multiple times that she's more than happy to accept me as gay. Well, I hate to disappoint, but...

#AsexualProblems

I hope the belly dancer wasn't too offended!

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Having everyone convinced I'm lesbian because of a rant about how girls bodies are usually more interesting to draw than guys. #AsexualArtistProblems

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Blue Elevator

Parents want me to "hurry up and get a boyfriend". Also fearing in the future having to awkwardly turn down marriage arrangement meetings. #asexualproblems

Also, I worry that openly saying I'm asexual will have people thinking that I don't want to date or maybe even someday marry. Maybe? It depends on if I meet the right person. But it's not very high on my "stuff to do before I die" list. Maybe a bit of commitment phobic too. My only relationship was with a dude I thought was normal and then it turned out he was crazy. Also, well, stuff with relationships in general. Not only is it difficult to constantly balance someone else's wants and needs, but the whole "wifely duties" makes me want to gag. If you're a grown person you shouldn't need someone else to do house chores for you.

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I'm tired of everyone thinking I'm this sexual person. I've been pretending/blind for so long that I don't know how to stop. Every time I say I like someone they think it means I want to have sex, and I don't! How do I stop pretending? And will people believe me?

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Having everyone convinced I'm lesbian because of a rant about how girls bodies are usually more interesting to draw than guys. #AsexualArtistProblems

Hahah yes! Girls are far more interesting to draw!

On another note, holding hands with your completely platonic best friend at a fair and getting asked if you "get shit at school" (implying we're open lesbians as we did sorta look such). #asexualproblems

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Reading aromatic as aromantic every. Single. Time.

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THIS. When I first realized I was asexual, I was taking organic chemistry, so I read aromantic as aromatic. Now that I'm done with that class, it's usually the other way around.

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"So, you and ______."
"...what?"
"I mean, you were flirting and getting all up close and personal. He was definitely into it."

"...was I? Oops."
#AsexualProblems

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Another #AsexualProblem: Watching porn makes me laugh and want to replace the soundtrack with Yakety Sax...

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Me: I can't watch Game of Thrones because of all the sexposition

Co-worker: That's just because you're not a hot-blooded male

Me: *a little frustrated* Yes, clearly I'm not

#asexual problems #repulsed problems

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Every time my grandparents call me at university, they ask if I've made any friends. Then if any of them are male. Then if I'm bringing them home for Christmas... -.-

#AsexualProblems #AroProblems

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Me: okay so you should know, i'm asexual, maybe google it.

him: oh er wow i've never heard of that before

me: yeah not many people have

him: sounds like you just need some fun ;)

me: *closes convo window*

#asexualproblems

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Every time my grandparents call me at university, they ask if I've made any friends. Then if any of them are male. Then if I'm bringing them home for Christmas... -.-

#AsexualProblems #AroProblems

I feel for you ! My wonderful rich deep platonic friendship with Dr Watson began 7 years ago and the grandparents on both sides have been convinced ever since that it is some day going to blossom into a relationship (or probably, that it already has). They know perfectly well that it isn't, and why ! but logic is apparently no match for wishful thinking :D.

Wanting to make friends with the nice chaps at ballroom dancing but scared they'll think I'm interested beyond the dancing, or worse, that they might be interested in me. Obviously I can't ask outright, that'd give quite the wrong impression !

#asexualproblems #aroproblems

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When all your friends are drooling over a bandmember and going 'He's so gorgeous' and you're sat off in the corner daydreaming because you really dislike the band and one of them looks up and goes 'the asexual in every friendship group!' because you're sat on your own -_-

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My friends talk about sexual fantasies all the time and then they ask me "Well would you do x, y and z with this person?" and I say no and they look at me like I'm crazy. They all know I'm asexual and yet they do this all the time. It's annoying.

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When your roommate makes a better teddy bear than the guy who wants to be your boyfriend...

# asexual problems # sexual dude needs to buy a clue (yes, I've told him)

Oh well, at least I still get to sit in the middle of the couch.

# best place for an ace teddy-bear # middle of the couch rocks # apparently I'm a space heater?

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A special holiday one...

Keeping your eyes on the roof to navigate social functions so you don't accidentally wander under the mistletoe.

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WhenSummersGone

A special holiday one...

Keeping your eyes on the roof to navigate social functions so you don't accidentally wander under the mistletoe.

I remember doing this, especially if a crush of mine isn't there.

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