Bio 7 Posted October 23, 2018 Share Posted October 23, 2018 17 minutes ago, olivria1 said: Why do people think that calling someone asexual is a good insult? I'm aro-ace, and I'm not out to my family yet. I'm eighteen and I've never had a crush (obviously) or a S.O. My teenage brothers (who are most definitely not ace) regularly tease me about this. I usually ignore it and I don't pay much attention to it. However, yesterday I told them I'd never had any interest in pursuing a romantic relationship and my youngest brother asked me "t'es quoi, asexuée?" before laughing. This loosely translates to "what are you, asexual?" which wouldn't be that bad (other than that he considered it to be impossible and almost an insult) except for the fact that French has two different words for asexual individuals (des individus asexuels) and plants' asexual reproduction (la reproduction asexuée). My brother used the plant one, which makes me wonder not only how acephobic he could be, but how ignorant he is. How do people not know this? How does he not know what it sounds like? We live in Montreal, Quebec. It's one of the most progressive places, yet he insults me by calling me an asexual plant. I'm disappointed and even more reticent to come out to my family now. Fortunately, I've told a few of my friends and they've been nothing but supportive. On other news, I think my family believes I'm a lesbian because I've never had a boyfriend or shown interest in boys. I've never shown any interests in girl either, for that matter... *Sigh* I laughed at that bit. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 @olivria1 If it had been me I would've said "yes, I am actually", just for the looks on their faces. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nerdperson777 Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 3 hours ago, olivria1 said: plants' asexual reproduction I'd say, "are you sure you want me to make clones of myself?" 3 hours ago, olivria1 said: On other news, I think my family believes I'm a lesbian because I've never had a boyfriend or shown interest in boys. I've never shown any interests in girl either, for that matter... *Sigh* Well I get asked outright if I'm gay by my mom and then I daydreamed and in front of me was a guy so it was like I was staring at him. She tried to make me admit that I had a crush on him. First you think I'm gay for not liking boys and then saying I did..? 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lightning Blue Ray Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 My university has a facebook page for love letters and last week someone confessed to me via the page. I didn't even know there was a page for that, I saw the confession only when my fencing friends tagged me in it because they recognised me from the description. I actually cried soon after reading it, because I felt so uncomfortable. I'm pre-T and don't pass, so naturally the person who confessed addressed me as a girl, which I understand. I don't quite know how to tell the person that I don't mind being friends, but anything more than that is a big no from me, because I'm ace. I really wish they were attracted to someone else. 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WoodwindWhistler Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 11 hours ago, Fluffy Femme Guy said: Society in general needs more of a 'you do you' attitude. "I can't understand why you're like that, but I won't try to change you." , "That makes no sense to me, but that person must have their reasons." , etc. Except when it comes to vegetarianism/veganism, yes. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Laplace Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 11 hours ago, Fluffy Femme Guy said: Society in general needs more of a 'you do you' attitude. "I can't understand why you're like that, but I won't try to change you." , "That makes no sense to me, but that person must have their reasons." , etc. Life becomes much less stressful when you stop caring or wondering about people’s harmless habits. I can understand maybe if another person was spreading blatantly harmful beliefs like advocating human sacrifices, but asexuality pretty much harms no one and benefits some people because it potentially reduces competition for certain partners (and aromanticism even more so). 9 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Fluffy Femme Guy Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 48 minutes ago, Laplace said: I can understand maybe if another person was spreading blatantly harmful beliefs like advocating human sacrifices Yeah, I was referring to harmless habits/choices. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nerdperson777 Posted October 24, 2018 Share Posted October 24, 2018 1 hour ago, Laplace said: Life becomes much less stressful when you stop caring or wondering about people’s harmless habits. I can understand maybe if another person was spreading blatantly harmful beliefs like advocating human sacrifices, but asexuality pretty much harms no one and benefits some people because it potentially reduces competition for certain partners (and aromanticism even more so). Well allo people really can't be satisfied because if they're attracted to one of us, it becomes our fault for being bait. I lost a good friend because I thought we were friends but then I found out he was crushing on me for two years. Then I came out as not a girl and aro ace and he was incredibly devastated, eventually never wanting to speak to me again, even though he claimed that he was fine with my identity. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mx. Who Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 On 10/21/2018 at 4:11 PM, AmorphousBlob said: Just told a guy that even if I did like guys I still wouldn't like him. It was pretty funny but now everyone thinks I'm gay. Oh. no. The tragedy. How will you ever recover. (I'm pretty sure a good amount of my school's population are questioning my "straightness". Joke's on them.) 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Divide By Zero Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 I ran into an old acquaintance the other day. He said to me, " When are you going to outgrow your asexuality?" 12 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 1 hour ago, Tuple said: I ran into an old acquaintance the other day. He said to me, " When are you going to outgrow your asexuality?" “The same time you outgrow your heterosexuality” Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AmorphousBlob Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 I keep getting ads about 'hot asian women in your area looking for older men' There are just so many things wrong with that phrase... 14 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bio 7 Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 3 hours ago, AmorphousBlob said: I keep getting ads about 'hot asian women in your area looking for older men' There are just so many things wrong with that phrase... I hate those ads, all of them are just so wrong. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Destan Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 4 hours ago, AmorphousBlob said: I keep getting ads about 'hot asian women in your area looking for older men' There are just so many things wrong with that phrase... 1 hour ago, Bio 7 said: I hate those ads, all of them are just so wrong. I hate those too. When I watch anime, the ads are next to the video player. ''Asian/Russian women wanting to chat on a 'dating' website'' 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Fluffy Femme Guy Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 10 hours ago, Miss Who said: (I'm pretty sure a good amount of my school's population are questioning my "straightness". Joke's on them.) There's been one confirmed time in my life where someone couldn't figure out if I'm straight or gay. I've was also once called 'the gayest straight guy' by one of my friends at the time. (It wasn't an insult, I found it amusing) The joke is indeed on them. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lanti SF Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 So I'm running one of the "rocur" ("rotating curator") Twitter accounts, and "asexualawarenessweek" isn't trending on that account. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Laplace Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 13 hours ago, AmorphousBlob said: I keep getting ads about 'hot asian women in your area looking for older men' There are just so many things wrong with that phrase... 9 hours ago, Bio 7 said: I hate those ads, all of them are just so wrong. Google and website cookies know I’m Asian so they assume I want to meet other Asians. That’s racist! /sarcasm Honestly, beyond being stereotypically academically smart and law-abiding, I don’t typically mesh with a lot of East Asians my age; I don’t really associate with many of them. Even if I was romantic/sexual, IDK if I’d want to be with someone who looked too much like my relatives - it’d just feel weird 😬. 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ColeHW34 Posted October 26, 2018 Share Posted October 26, 2018 Bleh! I hate ad's like that, been spammed with them alongside lezhin comics or whatever just because I read webcomics. Step the hell off google. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 I get "sexy Russian women" on train websites, nowhere is safe. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ColeHW34 Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 The hell!? 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 1 hour ago, Anthraxite_Vampreza said: I get "sexy Russian women" on train websites, nowhere is safe. Train websites? That’s insane. That’s why people shouldn’t be Russian to conclusions about only seeing those ads based on unsavory searches. I’m sorry, I had to Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AmorphousBlob Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 9 hours ago, Laplace said: Google and website cookies know I’m Asian so they assume I want to meet other Asians. That’s racist! /sarcasm Honestly, beyond being stereotypically academically smart and law-abiding, I don’t typically mesh with a lot of East Asians my age; I don’t really associate with many of them. Even if I was romantic/sexual, IDK if I’d want to be with someone who looked too much like my relatives - it’d just feel weird 😬. I'm not even asian... or older... or a man... nor do I like anything hot... or women... 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 Unfortunately "asexual" has "sex" in the middle of the word, and computer algorithms "selectively" can't tell the difference. 9 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Carolynne Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 I get ads for Muslim women, for whatever reason. On the other hand, most of my ads are for clothing, feminine products, computer hardware, and cars. These make more sense, though I don't know why cars. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 7 hours ago, i.r3beka said: Train websites? That’s insane. That’s why people shouldn’t be Russian to conclusions about only seeing those ads based on unsavory searches. I’m sorry, I had to Ooh you'll fit right in on AVEN. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nerdperson777 Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 On 10/25/2018 at 8:38 PM, i.r3beka said: “The same time you outgrow your heterosexuality” I had a friend who posted a funny status: "to my cishet friends, when did you find out that you were straight?" 16 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ColeHW34 Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 I tend to screw with most people like that too. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bio 7 Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 16 hours ago, Skycaptain said: Unfortunately "asexual" has "sex" in the middle of the word, and computer algorithms "selectively" can't tell the difference. It probably sees it as a typo and things you are a sexual something, maybe deviant. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
PittAce92 Posted October 28, 2018 Share Posted October 28, 2018 On 10/23/2018 at 12:59 PM, Builderboy said: Update: When I tell the above story to my friends they don't realize how it makes me feel until I tell them to look at it if I were gay and my parents were trying to tell me to only date women. I know it's hard for allos to sympathize with asexuals but sometimes I wish that asexuality was more understood by the masses. Absolutely. Then we no longer have to make comparisons like these to make people understand, but rather, asexuals are our own identity (which is the case anyway). 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
OtakuAce2004 Posted October 28, 2018 Share Posted October 28, 2018 “When you’re older you’ll understand.” No. Go. Away. #asexualproblems 10 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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