Bio 7 Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 29 minutes ago, nerdperson777 said: Those people ought to be asked why they're straight/gay/bi/pan then. I don’t understand how it is so difficult for them to not understand how people can know they are Ace,Aro... They know themselves so how is it so complicated to them, not everyone is the same and that’s good. 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Fantastic Name Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 I hate Pride Month. I know it sounds terrible, but I really do. It's the one month of the year when you can't go anywhere LGBTQ-related without seeing some sort of acephobic gatekeeping BS. On the flipside, at least it helps me know which accounts on Twitter I should block. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DuskFire Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 46 minutes ago, Fantastic Name said: I hate Pride Month. I know it sounds terrible, but I really do. It's the one month of the year when you can't go anywhere LGBTQ-related without seeing some sort of acephobic gatekeeping BS. On the flipside, at least it helps me know which accounts on Twitter I should block. What do you mean? Acephobic? Who is? I thought pride month is in June? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 I hate the commercialisation of pride month, and the fact people and companies can stick rainbow stickers on stuff for a month and think that's their work done. It's basically the real life equivalent of just retweeting "save the oceans!". 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Fantastic Name Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 10 minutes ago, Lonely Mudkip said: What do you mean? Acephobic? Who is? I thought pride month is in June? Lots of people, particularly on Tumblr. If you look up "the discourse" or "acephobia" on there you'll see what I mean. Pride Month is June, but the fact that Ace Awareness Week is coming up just reminded me of it I guess. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Carolynne Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 People who treat asexuality like a novelty. I have this one friend who keeps making really stupid jokes, or mentions it for no reason. It's rather uncouth, and bothersome. Recently, he felt the need to shoehorn that in while we were in the car and subsequently confuse my oldest brother who then asked in a really snarky and judgemental tone "since when was [deadname] asexual?" like it was the most ridiculous thing ever. The joke itself was stupid. I adjusted my glasses, and my other brother (who knows I'm ace) asked me why I was touching my nose as he saw something else. My friend decides to spout off "that's how asexuals reproduce". Well hardy har har, that created a really awkward moment. I'm just glad the subject just kind of changed, and nobody had any questions. My mom was there too, and had just went through a little homophobic rant with my openly gay brother right there, and I know what she thinks about my lack of interest in girls. My parents are paranoid I may be gay and have voiced their concerns over me "becoming like my brother". Nevermind that I'm trans, I can't even talk about my asexuality >.< 8 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 My mother used to treat everything about me as a novelty; she seems to have grown out of it now though, thankfully. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DuskFire Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 3 hours ago, Spooktastic Name said: Lots of people, particularly on Tumblr. If you look up "the discourse" or "acephobia" on there you'll see what I mean. Pride Month is June, but the fact that Ace Awareness Week is coming up just reminded me of it I guess. Oh. What week is Ace awareness week? And Tumblr I've never been on cause I'm sex repulsed and most social media sites have sex stuff everywhere but AVEN puts warnings and so it's safe. AVEN is my Haven. 😃 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nerdperson777 Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 4 hours ago, Spooktastic Name said: Lots of people, particularly on Tumblr. If you look up "the discourse" or "acephobia" on there you'll see what I mean. Pride Month is June, but the fact that Ace Awareness Week is coming up just reminded me of it I guess. I always forget this once in a while. During some previous year, within Ace Awareness Week, my birthday was Ace Day or Cake Day or something. 1 hour ago, Lonely Mudkip said: Oh. What week is Ace awareness week? And Tumblr I've never been on cause I'm sex repulsed and most social media sites have sex stuff everywhere but AVEN puts warnings and so it's safe. AVEN is my Haven. 😃 My birthday is like the last week of November so sometime around there is how I remember it. I don't use Tumblr so I probably saved myself from seeing some stuff I don't need. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Fluffy Femme Guy Posted October 12, 2018 Share Posted October 12, 2018 16 hours ago, Lonely Mudkip said: What week is Ace awareness week? This year it's Oct 21-27. 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rey129 Posted October 12, 2018 Share Posted October 12, 2018 My mom, after I came out, said that she still expects grandkids. Note: I'm not an only child and I was only about 20 at the time. As for my dad, he spent majority of my middle and high school years trying to set me up with a guy I actively admitted to loathing and would not accept no for an answer (unless I was dating someone, I think, I don't know, I only "dated" once, and it was based on what was most likely a squish). 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted October 12, 2018 Share Posted October 12, 2018 41 minutes ago, Rey129 said: As for my dad, he spent majority of my middle and high school years trying to set me up with a guy I actively admitted to loathing and would not accept no for an answer (unless I was dating someone, I think, I don't know, I only "dated" once, and it was based on what was most likely a squish). That's just creepy. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nerdperson777 Posted October 12, 2018 Share Posted October 12, 2018 8 hours ago, Fluffy Femme Guy said: This year it's Oct 21-27. Maybe it's a different week that I'm thinking of instead that was in November. Ace moment of the week is moving in with friends and the parking space we got was #70. One friend was disappointed that they couldn't get 69 and I'm just like....why??? *facepalm* 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Destan Posted October 12, 2018 Share Posted October 12, 2018 12 minutes ago, nerdperson777 said: Ace moment of the week is moving in with friends and the parking space we got was #70. One friend was disappointed that they couldn't get 69 and I'm just like....why??? *facepalm* Even though I know the reason (unfortunately), I still don't get why people would think more passed a number. It's JUST a number. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nerdperson777 Posted October 12, 2018 Share Posted October 12, 2018 6 minutes ago, Destan said: Even though I know the reason (unfortunately), I still don't get why people would think more passed a number. It's JUST a number. I meant "why" as in why is that number so important? Are allo people really that obsessed? I've gotten 69% on an exam before, but my most recent one was probably 69 out of 75. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted October 12, 2018 Share Posted October 12, 2018 1 hour ago, nerdperson777 said: Are allo people really that obsessed? No, some just have a dirty sense of humour, as do some aces 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
badatnames Posted October 12, 2018 Share Posted October 12, 2018 4 hours ago, nerdperson777 said: Ace moment of the week is moving in with friends and the parking space we got was #70. One friend was disappointed that they couldn't get 69 and I'm just like....why??? *facepalm* A person I sit next to in one of my classes is on the track team, and today they were talking about how they got 67th place in a race and how they wished they had gotten 69th place. I'm not quite sure how much they were joking... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Neutral nerd Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 Well, the number 69 is also special in homestuck for completely different reasons. So if someone was like that, that would be my default thought. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
aerodynamicAce Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 14 hours ago, Neutral nerd said: Well, the number 69 is also special in homestuck for completely different reasons. So if someone was like that, that would be my default thought. Lol, that's literally my first thought too. They're obsessed with the Sufferer. But talking seriously, I don't know why they're obsessed with the number 69 either. Is it a sexual joke or something? Edit: Nevermind I just looked it up and it made me laugh xDD Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ColeHW34 Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 My brothers except me thought it was funny as hell. I didn't get it one bit. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ColeHW34 Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 Also I keep being spammed with dating, BL and GL junk. They are wasting their damned time. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lucy in the sky Posted October 14, 2018 Share Posted October 14, 2018 *me at 14* parents worried that I'd go around kissing boys *me at 21* parents concerned that I don't want to kiss anyone 😂 15 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bio 7 Posted October 14, 2018 Share Posted October 14, 2018 17 hours ago, aerodynamicAce said: Lol, that's literally my first thought too. They're obsessed with the Sufferer. But talking seriously, I don't know why they're obsessed with the number 69 either. Is it a sexual joke or something? Edit: Nevermind I just looked it up and it made me laugh xDD I watched a graham norton show red chair clip of a woman talking about that position, sounds disgusting but made for a great story. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Builderboy Posted October 14, 2018 Share Posted October 14, 2018 I don't know where to put this post, if there is a better place let me know please and thank you. Yesterday I went to a pride festival, this was the first one the county has ever hosted. This was not do to the political climate more because of how close this county is to Los Angeles (The have a massive pride from what I have seen and from what I've been told). Anyways I volunteered to help and found it comforting that the first pride fest of this county was also my first pride fest ever. I went there hoping to find other aces to talk to and connect with, however I didn't find anyone. There was representation for every other group that I could think of but no asexual representation other than the shirt I was wearing... A few people commented about how they have asexual friends but I didn't find anyone else representing ace things or even selling ace things. I would like to say this: It didn't make me uncomfortable that I didn't find any other asexuals it made me want to try and push ace awareness more. I remember feeling so confused and broken when I was growing up and as soon as I found out what asexuality was I no longer felt broken. I know not all aces were confused or felt broken but I have heard and seen a lot of stories similar to mine on here. It makes me wonder how I would have felt if I found an asexual group sooner. I'm not trying to make a support group, I'm just wanting more visibility for awareness and education. Finally yes I will be going to more prides and I hope to find other aces there or aces to go with me. Maybe I will even try and table at smaller prides for asexual awareness and education. Again If anyone knows of a better thread to put this in or anything to help that would be great 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ColeHW34 Posted October 14, 2018 Share Posted October 14, 2018 Don't worry too much about it, There are a lot of aces who might still be hiding or very introverted or a rarity in the county. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Fantastic Name Posted October 15, 2018 Share Posted October 15, 2018 On 10/12/2018 at 12:53 PM, nerdperson777 said: Ace moment of the week is moving in with friends and the parking space we got was #70. One friend was disappointed that they couldn't get 69 and I'm just like....why??? *facepalm* I wonder who got #420. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
An_Ace_Of_Hearts Posted October 15, 2018 Share Posted October 15, 2018 Those sudden boosts of confidence when you think of coming out And when you feel like you're so ready to do it But then the person you plan to come out to says something that makes you change your mind :'D #AsexualProblems 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Laplace Posted October 15, 2018 Share Posted October 15, 2018 On 10/14/2018 at 3:14 AM, Lucy in the sky said: *me at 14* parents worried that I'd go around kissing boys *me at 21* parents concerned that I don't want to kiss anyone 😂 Yeah it’s like... Before 18: “Oh Laplace is such a good student. He’s focused and doesn’t get distracted by girls, and we don’t have to worry about him doing something scandalous 😇.” After 18: “Wait, he’s never dated anyone yet? Well, I guess if he wants to focus on academics, that’s okay. At least we don’t have to worry about any bad behavior while he’s away for college.” After 22: “Oh...he might be serious when he says he doesn’t care about dating 😧.” At 24, people are finally starting to believe me cause I literally have zero romantic or sexual experience and have never made any attempt to change that fact. 10 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bio 7 Posted October 15, 2018 Share Posted October 15, 2018 30 minutes ago, Laplace said: Yeah it’s like... Before 18: “Oh Laplace is such a good student. He’s focused and doesn’t get distracted by girls, and we don’t have to worry about him doing something scandalous 😇.” After 18: “Wait, he’s never dated anyone yet? Well, I guess if he wants to focus on academics, that’s okay. At least we don’t have to worry about any bad behavior while he’s away for college.” After 22: “Oh...he might be serious when he says he doesn’t care about dating 😧.” At 24, people are finally starting to believe me cause I literally have zero romantic or sexual experience and have never made any attempt to change that fact. I wonder how people will react to me once I reach 24, 25. Being 19 nobody has really cared but I wonder how long it will be before someone points out I haven’t dated anyone. I kind of want to not “come out” just to see. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bronztrooper Posted October 15, 2018 Share Posted October 15, 2018 44 minutes ago, Laplace said: Yeah it’s like... Before 18: “Oh Laplace is such a good student. He’s focused and doesn’t get distracted by girls, and we don’t have to worry about him doing something scandalous 😇.” After 18: “Wait, he’s never dated anyone yet? Well, I guess if he wants to focus on academics, that’s okay. At least we don’t have to worry about any bad behavior while he’s away for college.” After 22: “Oh...he might be serious when he says he doesn’t care about dating 😧.” At 24, people are finally starting to believe me cause I literally have zero romantic or sexual experience and have never made any attempt to change that fact. For me, it was this: My dad (when I was in middle school): "You see any cute girls at school?" My dad (high school): "You see any cute girls at school?" My dad (when I was with my girlfriend in high school): *silence * My dad (after graduating high school and starting working): "You see any cute girls at work?" Definite trend there 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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