How Do You Do It?

[Touchofinsight]

I guess from a woman's perspective, turnabout is fair play. I suppose women are pressured by advertisers about their sexual attractiveness and availability all the time.

Still, I'm offended by the very term "erectile dysfunction." There is nothing dysfunctional about being middle aged and not being as interested in sex. I'm a man. I'm not a dildo with a wallet.

I think its more targeted towards men who have a hard time maintaining an erection or can't achieve one at all and still want to enjoy a regular sex life. Men do lose quite a bit of testosterone after they reach about age thirty and on.

I look at "erectile dysfunction" the same way as I look at losing my hair, its just part of getting old and its really not that important (to me). So no big, but that isn't a popular mindset hence the creation and demand for these types of drugs.

Granted, social narratives about heterosexual men are all about how we are just thinking about sex ALL the time and its our only goal blah blah. All that nonsense. That is fairly annoying that people can actually believe that kind of crap and put stock in it when making life decisions.

[JDP]

I guess from a woman's perspective, turnabout is fair play. I suppose women are pressured by advertisers about their sexual attractiveness and availability all the time.

Still, I'm offended by the very term "erectile dysfunction." There is nothing dysfunctional about being middle aged and not being as interested in sex. I'm a man. I'm not a dildo with a wallet.

I think its more targeted towards men who have a hard time maintaining an erection or can't achieve one at all and still want to enjoy a regular sex life. Men do lose quite a bit of testosterone after they reach about age thirty and on.

I look at "erectile dysfunction" the same way as I look at losing my hair, its just part of getting old and its really not that important (to me). So no big, but that isn't a popular mindset hence the creation and demand for these types of drugs.

Granted, social narratives about heterosexual men are all about how we are just thinking about sex ALL the time and its our only goal blah blah. All that nonsense. That is fairly annoying that people can actually believe that kind of crap and put stock in it when making life decisions.

I read somewhere that the majority of prescriptions for ED meds is for men who don't have ED.

A lot of women are taking these meds, too, because it works for them as well.

The makers of Cialis and Viagra aren't marketing to people with ED, because there aren't enough of them to justify the advertising. They're marketing their products not as meds, but as aphrodisiacs, to people who are already having sex.

[gypsy_princess]

if there's something related to sex on tv, my parents always switch channel (they think i still don't know anything about sex and want to keep me away from it). if i'm alone, i try to watch if it's something interesting and educational; if not, i switch channel as soon as i start feeling disgusted.

[LenaLuthor]

I'm sick of Viagra and Cialis commercials. Really really tired of them. The implication is that only sexual vigorous men are worth having.

Enjoy your like for this post.

[skymessenger]

Depends on the commercial. Sometimes I'll be annoyed and ignore it best as I can. Other times I don't even care.

[Down in Texas]

Just for clarification I am a "sexual female" I do not enjoy nor endorse sexually explicit commercials or programs. As an old age mother and grandmother I think it introduces sex to children at an age that is way to young which I feel leads in PART to the early sexual experiences and expectation.of the youth of today and leads to the acceptance and partial early pregnancy in our society.

As for the Cialis and Viagra commercials and talk of Low T levels. The ads for the ED medication is such a hype and mega money maker that the drug companies are getting wealthy on the hopes of those that do have problems and make them feel even worse when the meds do not work as advertised. I can speak to both the Low T and ED meds neither work if the brain does not work and want sex and not just want to want sex. My husband is on Testosterone replacement and it does not help his erections but it does help his moods and his ability to not get over stressed at work. It's biggest help is in mood regulation he is much more even tempered on the testosterone than he is off of it.

[JDP]

I've thought about my testosterone level and have decided that I don't want to know.

If it's considered "too low," whatever that is, how do I know my life won't actually get worse after being treated for it?

I do have a libido already but that doesn't translate into sexual desire for my spouse or for anyone else. Increasing my level of male sex hormone won't solve my problems.

[The Majestic]

The Victoria Secret commercials make me cringe, couldn't they just put the underwear on mannequins.

[WhenSummersGone]

Anything I watch is recorded so I just fast forward, but if it's live tv I hardly pay attention. Carl's Jr. ads are silly though. Shows can be more annoying if the episodes are too much about sex. I tried watching the second season of American Horror Story but there's too much sex in it. I want to try watching it again but it might annoy me.

[Down in Texas]

I've thought about my testosterone level and have decided that I don't want to know.

If it's considered "too low," whatever that is, how do I know my life won't actually get worse after being treated for it?

I do have a libido already but that doesn't translate into sexual desire for my spouse or for anyone else. Increasing my level of male sex hormone won't solve my problems.

My husband has been on HRT for over twenty years now. It has not helped his sex drive however his Dr said that his body needed the hormones in order for his health to remain good. They told him his bones, muscles and other organs needed the hormone to function better and help lessen other potential problems. He has been on them now for those twenty years and they have helped his stress levels and muscular system.

Not all HRT (Harmone replacement therapy) is geared to increase sexual performance. Check with your Dr I can tell you that after trying just about everything on the market he has found the gel the best for him. It keeps his levels from to many peaks and valleys that all the other forms caused.

[ThorHera]

Ha ha SexJoe

I dont watch commercials, i flip the channel, if there is one on the other, i keep surfing til they are over or there is a channel that had substance on it. BUT, if i have to watch one (cuz i dont have the remote), i dont really notice it, or i am taking a bathrm break, or getting someth to drink.... and occasionally i will view one - which i kind of zone out of OR roll my eyes ... sometimes a "geez" will escape my lips.

[Touchofinsight]

I guess from a woman's perspective, turnabout is fair play. I suppose women are pressured by advertisers about their sexual attractiveness and availability all the time.

Still, I'm offended by the very term "erectile dysfunction." There is nothing dysfunctional about being middle aged and not being as interested in sex. I'm a man. I'm not a dildo with a wallet.

I think its more targeted towards men who have a hard time maintaining an erection or can't achieve one at all and still want to enjoy a regular sex life. Men do lose quite a bit of testosterone after they reach about age thirty and on.

I look at "erectile dysfunction" the same way as I look at losing my hair, its just part of getting old and its really not that important (to me). So no big, but that isn't a popular mindset hence the creation and demand for these types of drugs.

Granted, social narratives about heterosexual men are all about how we are just thinking about sex ALL the time and its our only goal blah blah. All that nonsense. That is fairly annoying that people can actually believe that kind of crap and put stock in it when making life decisions.

I read somewhere that the majority of prescriptions for ED meds is for men who don't have ED.

A lot of women are taking these meds, too, because it works for them as well.

The makers of Cialis and Viagra aren't marketing to people with ED, because there aren't enough of them to justify the advertising. They're marketing their products not as meds, but as aphrodisiacs, to people who are already having sex.

Yea there certainly are a portion of men who do take these drugs to "improve their performance" an actual selling point for one of them I have seen before. So yea a lot of men take them because they believe it will improve their ability.

The overwhelming majority of Erectile dysfunction drugs won't improve their performance it just increases blood flow to your penis by opening up the blood vessels there and helping it stay there. If you can't get an erection it'll help but in most cases it won't give you more endurance, increase your girth etc. However many ads for these drugs suggest they do or may.

[Down in Texas]

After many years of dealing with a husband who has said he is a Gray A and who has tried every one of these drugs some giving him a headache. You can not simply take the pill and wait for the pill to put you in the mood. They do not work that way. Nor can you take it at night and think it will work by morning. You have to want to engage in sex or Love making for them to work. They do not induce the brain to want sex. Thus they WILL NOT increase your desire for sex they will only help to a certain degree if you already have the desire.

[joesantus]

As a 57- year-old Natural Bodybuilder (meaning not using nor never having used steroids nor other growth-enhancing drugs) since age 16, I've researched testosterone for many years because testosterone is one of the four or five key physiological components which determines muscle mass. Both men and women have and need testosterone. Men have far greater levels, which accounts for their typically greater muscle mass. Testosterone is also one of the key components which establishes libido in both genders.

However, apparently much of what is now termed clinical "Erectile Dysfunction" (used to be termed "impotence") is unrelated to a man's testosterone levels or to his libido. Clinical ED is usually a matter of blood flow to the penis; a Sexual male with genuine ED might even have a high testosterone level, have a strong urge for sex, and feel generally aroused but nevertheless be unable to have and/or sustain an erection due to circulatory issues related to producing and maintaining an erection.

Of course, "dysfunction" is subjective. Something's only a "dysfunction" or a "disorder" if it involves or creates a personally-undesireable situation. Marketeers are skillful at choosing labels which intimidate consumers into feeling they have a "dysfunction" which buying the product will solve. The medical profession is sometimes careless choosing clinical labels as well; often, labels they create need to be understood as not meaning everyone with such-and-such a condition is "disordered" but in relation to what they establish as a "typical" to which to compare.

By the way, to put things in perspective as far as the differences in people...while some Sexuals prefer sex for, say, fifteen or twenty minutes in an encounter, some of us Sexuals actually do enjoy sexual connection (in which intercourse is only one possibility among many activities and options) for four and five hours and longer at a time (I know, because I'm one of those, even at age 57). Sexual appetites range just as any "likes and dislikes" can. So, for a man who, say, has been use to having sex for longer periods but has developed issues sustaining an erection, his happiness of life may be adversely affected. Viagra and Cialis might be what he chooses to regain what he's decided is an important part of what makes him happy in his life. Myself, I'd decline using those drugs in light of their potential and unknown side-effects; but, I nevertheless understand why some men take them -- and, also, why some of their partners might wish and even encourage them to.

As to the original thread question of, "how do Sexuals handle the sex-saturation in the media?" I'm a highly Sexual. I've always scorned the media generally, believing it seeks to manipulate potential consumers for profit, and suspecting the media of sensationalism, dishonesty, agenda, and/or error. But as far as sex specifically...I take a matter-of-fact attitude toward sex in life. For the majority of humans, it's as much a need as food and societal interaction. Advertisers know this, so obviously they're going to target that majority need to peddle their wares. I may scorn how they do it, but, I have to accept that advertisers are just people trying to make a living too. So, I either ignore sex in the media -- I'm simply indifferent to most of it -- or roll my eyes when it's blatantly exploitative or juvenile. Most sexuality that is potrayed or suggested is idealized or tactically demonized, so is to me no different than the myriad food-saturation in the media: it's meaningless to me and goes unnoticed by me.

[realcooldude]

when I see sexuality in a commercial, I put on a stupid grin and chuckle deeply like a creep.

huhohohouhhuhuh.......

I think it silly and react accordingly

[Perkins]

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[Martin de V]

I'm an asexual and i'm just wondering because i see this all the time... How do you deal with the constant bombardment of sex in commercials in everday life... I know i just don't feel anything toward it but for a sexual how do you deal with it?

Most often, I change the channel or get up to get something to drink. Or deal with my kids. I don't spend a lot of time with commercials, in general, and most of the ones I deal with are toy commercials on Disney.

When I do have to deal with them, though, I usually get a little honked off because they're doing some of the things they're doing in family time. I narrowly avoided having to explain "bow chicka bow bow" to my seven-year-old the other night. On TLC. Talk about honking a person off....

[trapped.within.limbo]

I'm an asexual and i'm just wondering because i see this all the time... How do you deal with the constant bombardment of sex in commercials in everday life... I know i just don't feel anything toward it but for a sexual how do you deal with it?

Dude, you just tune it out. I'm a highly sexual bisexual, with a Demi partner - what do you think it feels like to have all this speak to you!

Tune out and crack on.