Luisa Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 How do you feel about relationships? Link to post Share on other sites
xena_trade_center Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 i couldn't choose. How about: I want at least one friend that I could share everything in my life and all of myself with. So far, I've come up with nudder/zip/zero. Maybe they're out there..... some where. i certainly don't want to be alone. I'm not too fussed on "romance" either. I'd even settle for a few semi-close friends. Right now the friends department is looking a little barren... But I supose that happen when you move a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Luisa Posted July 10, 2003 Author Share Posted July 10, 2003 Has anyone else noticed that it isn't as easy to make friends as it used to be when everyone was a kid, on the schoolyard? Now, there are so many things to worry about, and so few situations to meet new people...if you don't work with the public, you don't get exposed to as many people. Link to post Share on other sites
seandon Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 Hi, I do have many nerdy buddies, but I have --and have only had-- two close friends in my lifetime. Still, there are many situations where I feel "isolated in public", so-to-speak, because I relate to so few people. I do have a romantic drive, but I haven't the slightest clue what'll come of it. I've never had a female friend, and I'm not at all interested in "flat-out" dating. That is, I might try to be social with someone, but I do not have the nerve to ask a person out. Sean Link to post Share on other sites
Izzy Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 I actually find it easier to make friends out of school.. at the moment its just a case of teenagers are far too immaure,bitter and spiteful for me ... It would be nice to have friends who you can have a friendship with ..and also someone who you can have a relationship with...i guess my attitude toward relationships is that it would be nice to have one where sex doesnt come into it.... it would be nice to go out for the evening... come home, watch a film..cuddle up...few hugs and kisses...and bed....to sleep!!!.... but we can all dream. Link to post Share on other sites
seandon Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 Hey Lzzy, I actually find it easier to make friends out of school.. at the moment its just a case of teenagers are far too immaure,bitter and spiteful for me ... Sounds like my High School :evil: Have you ever been to college? Well, I guess there are a lot of "party colleges" out there with mostly immature people. But my college is especially quiet; many students work and are in their 30s; and every one I talk to tends to take education very seriously. I love college. Sorry, I missed the thread on college; so, I'm making up for it here. It would be nice to have friends who you can have a friendship with ..and also someone who you can have a relationship with...i guess my attitude toward relationships is that it would be nice to have one where sex doesnt come into it.... it would be nice to go out for the evening... come home, watch a film..cuddle up...few hugs and kisses...and bed....to sleep!!!.... but we can all dream. Hey actually, my romantic drive isn't much different from yours. Alas, I think my parents --and even my doctor-- are expecting me to get involved in sexual relationships. I read a story at some site the other day. It was about a teenage guy who kept getting dumped by girls he tried to date; basically it was because he refused to have sex with them. ;-) I should hope that, if I ever become more social-able, I won't have to play the same game. Sean Link to post Share on other sites
Luisa Posted July 10, 2003 Author Share Posted July 10, 2003 Sean - very interesting! You don't happen to remember the site of that story, do you? Everyone - (sigh.) Yes, school is a great time to make friends...but it's also a good time to have to ~tolerate~ people who are, shall we say, a little low on their "maturity" score. I feel for ya! Link to post Share on other sites
Izzy Posted July 11, 2003 Share Posted July 11, 2003 Sean - tell me about it!! ..... you meet a real nice guy ...or girl.. you really wanna get involved, yet theres no point!...cuz they wont stick around long once they realise youre not putting out!..... so so silly...lifes far too more interesting than to waste time on that! ;) I think ive said this before, but it really gets on my nerves when people think that its either a phase, or one day youll wake up and go..oo i think ill get laid today!.............personally, i dont think its gunna happen! and it annoys me that people obviously dont have enough faith in me to know myself.... Link to post Share on other sites
seandon Posted July 11, 2003 Share Posted July 11, 2003 Luisa, here's the site with that story: http://www.geocities.com/thevirginclub/Guys.htm Actually, I've been out of that awful high school for about three years now. My college is so much better -- since most of the truly immature people don't last very long. I'm feeling chatty, so allow me to elaborate on my experiences. I've actually never been dumped by a girl, since I had never "went steady" with one to begin with. However, in high school, there were a few girls that either tried desperately to get me interested or flirted radically with me. I would never pursue them because I either hardly knew them or, I knew them, but I wasn't very good friends with them. The story from that site interested me because I am under the impression that, at least in my case, making friends with the opposite sex will tend to have its complications. I do have a few "buddies" that are female, but I've never been close to one. Lzzy, I guess my point is that I have an annoying romantic drive, and I don't know what to do with it ;-) I guess it doesn't bother me much anymore, but the pressure my parents and friends put on me to try dancing and dating can sometimes re-spark these anxieties. I have one close friend who is convinced that being romantic with someone and having sex with him or her on occasion go hand and hand, but he respects my position. :roll: Lastly, I think I even hate dancing, but I'm still open-minded to it :) Thanks for Listening, Sean Link to post Share on other sites
Luisa Posted July 12, 2003 Author Share Posted July 12, 2003 Thanks, Sean! Your parents are right about dancing - it's fun! ;) Link to post Share on other sites
guardianoftheblind Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 My social life was much more active in high school. It was a lot easier to keep in contact with people when I saw them at school every day. And there were shared experiences in school; now after high school my life and my friends' lives have taken different directions in different places. Now whenever I actually do get to talk with them, we don't have as much to talk about. I think I'm going to vote for the last option. I enjoy the company of friends. The problem for me is creating friendships and then holding on to them. But frienship is something I desire. Romance is a confusing word for me, but I do hope to share my life with another person and get married. My dream is to marry my best friend (not necessarily the person I consider my best friend today, but whoever I am closest to in the future when I'm ready for marriage). But I don't envision myself in a "romantic" relationship as I understand it. Flirting and dating and stuff like that go over my head, I've had female friends who I felt close to emotionally but never called them girlfriends. On second thought, I'll vote for the second option. Link to post Share on other sites
aury Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 friends are more important to me than anything. except for family, of course. Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 guardianoftheblind, I love your icon :) I voted already but didn't post about it, so I'll do that now. I'm sure most of you have already guessed that I'm happy being almost all alone. Just a few good friends is enough for me. By a few, I mean from two to five . . . Friends can take up a LOT of time hehe (hell, I can't imagine what a significant other must be like). I'm not too good at making friends either, so shooting for more than five would be a little unrealistic *L* If it happens though, it will happen. No sense in saying no :) Ahh high school . . . That is another story, for another time. Link to post Share on other sites
seandon Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 It almost goes without saying that friendship is very important to me, while dating makes little sense to me. Fortunately, I'm very good friends with my brother and father; and yes, I even get along with my mom on occasion ;-) Sean Link to post Share on other sites
seandon Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 [...] Just a few good friends is enough for me. By a few, I mean from two to five . . . Friends can take up a LOT of time hehe (hell, I can't imagine what a significant other must be like). No kidding. Hey, five friends is a lot. I've only had two close friends in my life. And I think some people here have never had even one close friend. Ahh high school . . . That is another story, for another time. Hee hee :) Sean Link to post Share on other sites
Izzy Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 hmm .... I think, if there is one, that my "perfect" partner would probably be a bisexual guy...... whether this theory would actually work or not i dont know......... but theyd be there for you with the whole romantic thing, cuddles..kisses etc ......... yet any sexual frustration theyd need to relieve would go to their other partner.. i guess this is one of those male/female things.. abit similer to how guys would have a threesome with 2 girls but not with another guy cuz they would be in competition for power...... but i wouldnt mind a 3rd person in the relationship if it was a guy.. but i wouldnt want it if it was a girl..........weird. Anyhow!...got abit sidetracked there..... i guess its hard when you actually spend loads of time with someone who is a friend yet you grow to really like them.....but because of different wants/needs it can never last.. its so bad when that happens! ......... slightly disheartening too! Link to post Share on other sites
Righteous Babe Posted July 12, 2003 Share Posted July 12, 2003 I really like being loud and obnoxious with friends. It's awesome. Secondly, I really like to be intimate with someone. I don't know...it's just important to me. *shrug* I feel like it's just my need for human contact: my theory of energy and stuff like that. But whatever. Link to post Share on other sites
ogbg Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 After my high-school "friends", even mentioning the word "friend" makes me cringe :evil: Don't get me wrong - I'm friendly toward people, and I treat them with respect. But all in all, I prefer MY OWN COMPANY. Closeness? Intimacy? Trust? HELL NO!!!!! (clicks the "I am happy being almost entirely alone" option) And that, as they say, was that :P Link to post Share on other sites
Izzy Posted July 14, 2003 Share Posted July 14, 2003 i wouldnt mind friendship so much.. if all the people ive met in the past didnt turn out to me complete bitches!.... what a world we live in! Link to post Share on other sites
kithara Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 ... It would be nice to have friends who you can have a friendship with ..and also someone who you can have a relationship with...i guess my attitude toward relationships is that it would be nice to have one where sex doesnt come into it.... it would be nice to go out for the evening... come home, watch a film..cuddle up...few hugs and kisses...and bed....to sleep!!!.... You can read my mind! Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 I'm happy being almost entirely alone. *clutches solitude to chest* Cate Link to post Share on other sites
birdnerd Posted October 1, 2005 Share Posted October 1, 2005 I like living alone, but I still enjoy hanging out with my friends sometimes. I have no interest in a romantic relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
anticulus Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 Option two for me. I like to spend large amounts of time - in fact probably the majority of time - alone, but I like to socialise from time to time. Link to post Share on other sites
Lady Heartilly Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 "Friends are nice, but I want a romantic relationship." It makes me feel safer--having someone who cares about me and wants to protect me and keep me happy, and vice versa. Sometimes it's hard to keep in touch with my friends since they'll move away or just be busy, but in a relationship, both sides try to be together as much as possible, so you always have someone to talk to and share your life with. I don't think I'm ever going to find someone who's asexual and compatible with me though . . . Link to post Share on other sites
Vicious Trollop Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 I voted in this poll way back when, but I have no idea what! I'm sure, in my time at AVEN, I would have said any of the four. I love my solitude, and could happily live a hermit life. That's not something I say lightly -- I know I could. I do love my close friends. I do want a relationship (or do I?) -- but increasingly, I cannot picture myself with anyone I'm attracted to, and I don't know what I want... it's problematic. Link to post Share on other sites
Astryda Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 ' I like to spend some of my time with friends.'- this one I think. Link to post Share on other sites
Frigid Pink Posted May 2, 2009 Share Posted May 2, 2009 Friends and romance. Link to post Share on other sites
Shinnok Posted May 3, 2009 Share Posted May 3, 2009 Relationships can be great when they work Link to post Share on other sites
kt8 Posted May 3, 2009 Share Posted May 3, 2009 A mixture of all choices: I'm happy alone, I do like to spend some of my time with friends, I would like a romantic relationship, and I'm open to new friends and possible romances. However, my desire for a relationship (like, I want a relationship NOW, rather than "maybe in the future...") depends entirely on me liking someone, romantically. If I don't have someone in mind, then I'd rather be single. I'm not into dating. Link to post Share on other sites
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