eli Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 I am definitelly homoerotic but I am not homosexual since do not care about sex. Am I asexual? A feedback from someone with the similiar weird experience would be appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
Hexpiral Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 There are other homoromantic (and hetero and bi) people around. That doesn't make them any less asexual. Welcome! Link to post Share on other sites
bard of aven Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 There are some ox-like people here, but no morons that I know of. :lol: A goodly number of us identify as gay asexual, or gaysexual, or gay-a. What this means to me is that I get aroused by other guys, and gratify that on my own in a way that has never extended to a desire to interact sexually with the stimuli of my arousal. Or, to put it more bluntly and informally--well, I did that last year. It's at http://www.asexuality.org/discussion/viewtopic.php?t=2932 And, welcome. boa Link to post Share on other sites
Opel the Old Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 you are not alone~ i am a lesbo-a, welcome here you are gay doesnt mean you have to be sexually active, dun let the society value affect your own feelings everyone is different~~ Link to post Share on other sites
Chozo Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 Well, if you can't have a homosexual asexual then you can't have a straight asexual either surely :) Link to post Share on other sites
Ban Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 nope, you're not alone. i'm 'homo-asexual' too, and it IS an interesting experience. i already came out as gay to people once, and now i have to deal with something twice as weird and misunderstood. i am actually going to start working on a year-long project concerning asexuality and maybe homo-asexuality, and was also wondering if anyone had some good sources on asexuality. it's gonna be very difficult, so any help would be appreciated :) Link to post Share on other sites
Opel the Old Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 nope, you're not alone. i'm 'homo-asexual' too, and it IS an interesting experience. i already came out as gay to people once, and now i have to deal with something twice as weird and misunderstood. i am actually going to start working on a year-long project concerning asexuality and maybe homo-asexuality, and was also wondering if anyone had some good sources on asexuality. it's gonna be very difficult, so any help would be appreciated :) same here, ahah. i am not an "out asexual" to most of my LGBT fds either. people even make up a term for lesbo-asexuals (lesbian bed death) that is just the fact that they think asexuals are abnormal... sigh~ Link to post Share on other sites
Overeager Otter Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 Eli, Thanks for asking that question. I'm a male that was in a relationship with another guy for a year, and just a few days ago he finally we broke up with me over the sex issue. It was just that he liked sex and I didn't. I was perfectly content being in a relationship with him where we never had sex. I'm glad there are others that feel the same way. Are there any resources out there that are applicable to this sort of situation? Link to post Share on other sites
Jael L Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 I'd describe myself as an asexual lesbian feminist as women are the focus of my political, spiritual, emotional and romantic ideals. I can't imagine feeling any sexual attraction to a woman however deeply in love I was, it would seem like the basest kind of betrayal. Link to post Share on other sites
Opel the Old Posted May 28, 2005 Share Posted May 28, 2005 I'd describe myself as an asexual lesbian feminist as women are the focus of my political, spiritual, emotional and romantic ideals. I can't imagine feeling any sexual attraction to a woman however deeply in love I was, it would seem like the basest kind of betrayal. the LGBT community (actually only 20 activists) are fighting for the LGBT rights in HK, i am helping out and doing 2nd line work (like writting letters, etc) something important but not high profile i am FED UP with all the idiot and ignorant people here (people are too close minded here, and LGBTQIA is getting NO RIGHTS at all) Link to post Share on other sites
cutenycgirl20 Posted June 3, 2005 Share Posted June 3, 2005 sometimes i think i'm homo-asexual, but I don't know. I'm asthetically attracted to beautiful women - but i have absolutely NO desire to act on it sexually. Sometimes I'm attracted to guys too - but not as much as girls. So I don't know... does that make me a bi-asexual who leans homo? lol, this is confusing... Link to post Share on other sites
eli Posted June 3, 2005 Author Share Posted June 3, 2005 sometimes i think i'm homo-asexual, but I don't know. I'm asthetically attracted to beautiful women - but i have absolutely NO desire to act on it sexually. Sometimes I'm attracted to guys too - but not as much as girls. So I don't know... does that make me a bi-asexual who leans homo? lol, this is confusing... Thank you for your contribution. I think that if you can physically in an intime way, but not sexually, interact with both girls and guys, you are definitely bi-asexual :? Link to post Share on other sites
Amcan Posted June 3, 2005 Share Posted June 3, 2005 Hi and Welcome! As you can see the term asexual can be used with others. I'm a hetero-asexual for example. Link to post Share on other sites
cutenycgirl20 Posted June 4, 2005 Share Posted June 4, 2005 I think that if you can physically in an intime way, but not sexually, interact with both girls and guys, you are definitely bi-asexual :? Yea, I think so too, eli. I used to identify as bisexual but something about it just didn't feel right. Especially since people would be like "Oh, you're bi! You must have a lot of sex!" And I'd be thinking... "But I don't even LIKE sex..." So yeah, this is more fitting. It's nice to know that other people feel the same way that I do. Link to post Share on other sites
eli Posted June 4, 2005 Author Share Posted June 4, 2005 It's nice to know that other people feel the same way that I do. I think so too. The discussion above is quite important for my emotional balance. :) Link to post Share on other sites
TheSMMG Posted June 7, 2005 Share Posted June 7, 2005 You are not alone, eli! I describe myself as a homoaesthete asexual. I find other males aesthetically attractive and emotionally alluring yet do not experience lust or arousal. I socialised on the gay scene for a number of years and found out that although I enjoy physical contact, I am incapable of sex with another person. Link to post Share on other sites
Jael L Posted June 7, 2005 Share Posted June 7, 2005 I'd describe myself as an asexual lesbian feminist as women are the focus of my political, spiritual, emotional and romantic ideals. I can't imagine feeling any sexual attraction to a woman however deeply in love I was, it would seem like the basest kind of betrayal. the LGBT community (actually only 20 activists) are fighting for the LGBT rights in HK, i am helping out and doing 2nd line work (like writting letters, etc) something important but not high profile i am FED UP with all the idiot and ignorant people here (people are too close minded here, and LGBTQIA is getting NO RIGHTS at all) Opel, would you mind expanding on your comment please? I'm not sure what you're referring to and whether I have (inadvertently) caused you offence. Thanks, Jael Link to post Share on other sites
eli Posted June 7, 2005 Author Share Posted June 7, 2005 I socialised on the gay scene for a number of years and found out that although I enjoy physical contact, I am incapable of sex with another person. I hate gay scene because everyone sleeps with everyone without any responsibility or ethics. :oops: Is this strong negative feeling based on my aversion to the sex? :roll: Anyhow, it is interesting what you do. Thank´s a lot for writing. Link to post Share on other sites
TheSMMG Posted June 10, 2005 Share Posted June 10, 2005 I know what you mean - imagine what it must have been like before AIDS! I got the impression it was more down to hedonism as a release from straight (and possibly homophobic, too) working environments and even home lives. The scene being a place where they can be themselves - thus excesses being somewhat understandable! They're by no means all like that, of course. Your aversion to sex is thus unlikely to endear the mainstream scene to you... Sex is something I'm not capable of so it gets wearing and on that level I don't fit in. However, I love gay people, I think they're great and have some very good gay friends. I also find that gay cafes, bars etc. have a much nicer atmosphere than the equivalent straight ones. Link to post Share on other sites
eli Posted June 10, 2005 Author Share Posted June 10, 2005 However, I love gay people, I think they're great and have some very good gay friends. Thank you for your words. I wish I could have good gay friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Green elf Posted June 11, 2005 Share Posted June 11, 2005 there seems to be a fair amount of gay/ bi asexuals from what i've seen, i've asked the question at the LJ comunity, and hetro- Asexual was nowhere near the majority orintaion, which makes sence, becuase if your asexual it should matter less who you like. :) Link to post Share on other sites
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