BDSM, Kinks, and "Asexual Fetishes"

[esc@pe]

I have a fetish for female feet and I like dominant women.

[NamTar]

I'm a furry. But not so much into normal furry art of cats and foxes and such, more insects/spiders/reptiles, and also robots, aliens, tentacles and women transforming into bugs.

science (it's like dirty talk except it's about string theory, not sex.)

Talk nerdy to me! lol.

I actually saw a shirt that said that at the mall last week, and considered buying it. ^_^

[Sae-Nan]

I have a transformation fetish. It's pretty embarrassing to talk about, so I'll just paint it in broad strokes. I like to imagine being turned into any form that hinders me in some way. It's fun to think about how I'd make do regardless of what I look like.

I had a lot of trouble getting to know about this side of myself, that exploring it would somehow lead me down the path to being a super sexual person or something. Of course, that never happened. I'm just as uninterested in people sexually as I was before. So, I guess the lesson to be learned is that fetishes/kinks can go hand in hand with asexuality and, well, the last 9 pages have probably already proved that. Haha

[Vampyremage]

I have a transformation fetish. It's pretty embarrassing to talk about, so I'll just paint it in broad strokes. I like to imagine being turned into any form that hinders me in some way. It's fun to think about how I'd make do regardless of what I look like.

I had a lot of trouble getting to know about this side of myself, that exploring it would somehow lead me down the path to being a super sexual person or something. Of course, that never happened. I'm just as uninterested in people sexually as I was before. So, I guess the lesson to be learned is that fetishes/kinks can go hand in hand with asexuality and, well, the last 9 pages have probably already proved that. Haha

That's a rather fascinating one. I'm a role-player and one of my favorite archetypes to play is that of a shapeshifter. I don't think it's quite the same thing, although I would certainly love the ability to transform and even the idea of forced transformation is something of an intriguing one. I do remember having fantasies of forced transformation of self that I still have on occasion. In my case I wouldn't call it a fetish and it's certainly not sexual, but it's interesting to hear of someone who has had similar thoughts.

[Qutenkuddly]

I have a transformation fetish. It's pretty embarrassing to talk about, so I'll just paint it in broad strokes. I like to imagine being turned into any form that hinders me in some way. It's fun to think about how I'd make do regardless of what I look like.

Would that be related to anything like pony or pet play?

[Laughing Jackal]

I thought a fetish was classified as something bordering an obsession. Such as, a person with a foot fetish would have a difficult time getting aroused unless feet were somehow a part of the, er, program. Unlike a kink, which is something that people are attracted to/derive pleasure from, but it's not imperative to arousal.

Unless all of these things are fetishes? Which would surprise me.

To answer your question, I do not have a fetish. I have a couple of kinks, though, like (most) everyone.

[Qutenkuddly]

I thought a fetish was classified as something bordering an obsession. Such as, a person with a foot fetish would have a difficult time getting aroused unless feet were somehow a part of the, er, program. Unlike a kink, which is something that people are attracted to/derive pleasure from, but it's not imperative to arousal.

Unless all of these things are fetishes? Which would surprise me.

To answer your question, I do not have a fetish. I have a couple of kinks, though, like (most) everyone.

I think those may have been the clinical definitions used, but, over the years, those two terms have grown far more interchangeable amongst the fetish life-stylers.

[Gho St Ory Qwan]

I like giants, giant robots (humanoid), giants in uniform or "gear". Mild vore fascination, and I like most things that would fall under the BDSM umbrella. I'm an all around sub/little.

Would this explain your giant shoe picture?

[Arctic_Revenge]

Dominance and submission.

I love having total control. I hate people physically larger than me.

I like scaring people, being strong for them and taking care of them, even if they don't really need me to.

[trueblue]

I like dominant chicks!

[MiniLo]

I like giants, giant robots (humanoid), giants in uniform or "gear". Mild vore fascination, and I like most things that would fall under the BDSM umbrella. I'm an all around sub/little.

Would this explain your giant shoe picture?

Yes it would. :>

Learning (and constantly re-learning) to take ownership of my crap.

[Sae-Nan]

I have a transformation fetish. It's pretty embarrassing to talk about, so I'll just paint it in broad strokes. I like to imagine being turned into any form that hinders me in some way. It's fun to think about how I'd make do regardless of what I look like.

Would that be related to anything like pony or pet play?

I don't think so. I don't really like the idea of being an animal or being owned by someone.

[Arches]

Warning, some serious fucked up bitch:

I tie myself up and imagine people torturing others without their consent (men raping men... I have anger issues), but I'm a misanthrope.

I like leather and spandex... but I don't wear it... domination and control... I'm a switch so doing it with myself lets me feel he pleasure of both at the same time.

I heard that strangulation and some suffocation (but always with the possibility to breathe...) makes the orgasm stronger... It,s true... and warning... addictive.

I can't possibly do that to some stranger... I am capable of such rabid anger and violence that I'm scared I might kill or heat the guy in the heat of the moment... (without limits... I'd so do knife play. I'd eat the guy. But I don't want that out of my imagination... I don't want to nurture it more than once in a blue moon with myself... I'd go crazy...) I'd have to love him to keep him in one piece... and I wouldn't do that to a loved one... I really hate the idea to share that with someone... that would ruin my fun. Apparently S&M is lad by the submissive and you have to ask him if he's okay and want more all the time... How boring. If the person like it it could turn me off... but if the person cry and throw up too... More of a reluctant... tortured... victim.

I so don't look it! XD But I scared very dark goths before... it's sad... not many people can bear my dark side... I'm like dexter a bit I guess. I wish I had a both~ and knew jujitsu~

Horror movies turned me on before. Porn turns me off.

I'm obsessed with hairs but I only want to pet it, and chew necks.

And if you use that as jerking of material, lucifer will take your eyes away. He's jealous from what I heard XD

(what he asked!)

I love to be physically overpowered by women, not big huge muscly women, just average physically fit girls. I like to be pinned down and held in wrestling holds, especially 'scissor holds' where she wraps her legs around you and squeezes tightly. I love athletic women, especially those with nice leg muscles, but not huge, grotesque amazonian bodybuilder types.

Hard to think that you wouldn't be aroused... but I guess it's the merging of genitals hat makes all the difference.

Dominance and submission.

I love having total control. I hate people physically larger than me.

I like scaring people, being strong for them and taking care of them, even if they don't really need me to.

oh GOD you again, I saw you before and knew I liked you but now... GOD!!!! This is why I like german people!

I should get out of here before my darkness comes out O_O

OH GOD SHAPESHIFTERS!!!!!!

DEMONS WITH TENTACLES!!!

Oh dear god *SHRIEKKS!!!!!!*

[5_♦♣]

According to my mom, I have a shoe fetish. Though I think it's actually a kink and not a fetish (from what I've gathered in this thread).

[newgirl]

I have a fetish for female feet and I like dominant women.

I think the Domme on website Fetlife would love you.

[WhenSummersGone]

Hands. Definitely hands. I look at hands on men all the time lol. If a man has good hands I find that very attractive :P

Also anything to do with hands like touching, rubbing, holding hands, anything really even sexual sometimes.

I also have other fetishes or things I'm curious about but mostly hands.

[YamCake]

When I was a kid, I was very much turned on by getting eaten by something in my dreams. It felt so good to be eaten I would just imagine myself getting eaten by Venom from Spider-Man. I'm not sure if I'm still into that, but right now I'm really into tight clothing.

[Rolling Everforward]

I have a bunch of 'em. Listening - the aural equivalent of voyeurism, I guess - tops the list.

[JAKQ7111]

Hands. Definitely hands. I look at hands on men all the time lol. If a man has good hands I find that very attractive :P

Also anything to do with hands like touching, rubbing, holding hands, anything really

It's funny that you mention hands, because I have a similar thing with female hands. I find hands very attractive, especially if they have smooth skin, no nail polish, and little-to-no rings on their fingers. The left ring finger should especially be bare to me, simply because I find rings there, even if not engagement/wedding rings, to diminish the woman's aesthetic appeal, for some reason. Maybe it and my dislike of marriage are somehow oddly related, but that is my experience. I really enjoy hand-holding, and probably would not be able to be in a romantic relationship where I wouldn't be able to do that. So...yeah...hands are a thing...

[BØØM]

I was just randomly reading through this awesome thread, and then I realised... I was the one who started it! How cool :P

[WhenSummersGone]

Hands. Definitely hands. I look at hands on men all the time lol. If a man has good hands I find that very attractive :P

Also anything to do with hands like touching, rubbing, holding hands, anything really

It's funny that you mention hands, because I have a similar thing with female hands. I find hands very attractive, especially if they have smooth skin, no nail polish, and little-to-no rings on their fingers. The left ring finger should especially be bare to me, simply because I find rings there, even if not engagement/wedding rings, to diminish the woman's aesthetic appeal, for some reason. Maybe it and my dislike of marriage are somehow oddly related, but that is my experience. I really enjoy hand-holding, and probably would not be able to be in a romantic relationship where I wouldn't be able to do that. So...yeah...hands are a thing...

It's nice to see others who are also into hands. I thought I was the only one lol :P

[femto-15]

This is tame, but I'll add it anyway. However, if you're sex-repulsed, you may want to just skip this one.

Sexual activity for me must be all about pleasuring a partner (in my case, girls). I guess I feel like sex must feel extremely good for sexuals, and I want to make them feel that. Since I'm ace, I can be completely altruistic. Also I really like the sounds =) But even though I talk about it like it's a choice, it's really something innate. I can't masturbate without fantasizing about my pleasing. Perhaps my relationships with sexuals have altered me in some way?

I wonder if anyone else feels like their "secondary sexual desire" is supercharged.

But other than that, I guess I enjoy the aesthetic appeal of certain dresses, lingerie, "sexy" outfits. Pretty boring!

[1helluvabutlr]

Let's see, am I going to expose my evil deeds now with fetishes lol.

I love voices that's for sure, I cannot take a horse voice,I do like low but not really low just mellow. idk I like a voice that can make me melt. I also have tried vampirism blood play with someone, it was fun but idk if I would try it again. Although biting and being bit as long as it doesn't hurt I do not mind.

I loved hentai, yaoi *boyxboy* and fantasizing over fictional characters and all that stuff since I was young, I do watch porn but it's more like vicariously feeling their pleasure without fantasizing about sex, weird huh? Role play is another one.

I also like androgynous ppls a lot, since I am agendered people that do not act in their gender roles are so yum.

I have a hand and collar bone fetish, I think it has to do with veins, because if the veins are very noticeable it maybe because of the vampire thing idk, but I like to feel the veins and feel the pulse, it's very fascinating, yes it does arouse me. I also like the taste of blood, mainly my own blood. Idk I think someone wearing a silver ring in their hand is very attractive mainly if their hand is veiny, and v shirts while having a nice neck is so beautiful to me. But that's about it nothing more than that.

Now that I think about it since I like hands if I find the hands attractive if they touch me or hold me or I kiss them that's so much better, also when they grab things or move their hands quickly stuff like that makes me swoon.

I done sub and dom relatinships online but, I rather be a dom, and it would be cool to try this irl style just that I be no dictator.

[NekoGetsu]

Kittenplay is my big sexual and non-sexual fetish. Collars and leashes are what I find most sexually attractive, no clue why... I have other specific stuff but that's the most important things.

[UnknownUnknown]

Asexual bondage fantasy with white guys in preppy clothing, and nothing else. I haven't the slightest clue why my brain decided to be this specific with my fetish. I have yet to figure it out. (I'm a guy btw)

....I also find it highly ironic (i think its ironic anyways), because I'm a black guy who is anything but preppy. God must be a writer, huh?

[~No Reins~]

Well... I've always been ashamed of it... but seeing people bound and gagged has always made me feel jittery inside. And they have to be afraid or something like that. It's weird. and I'm not proud of it.

Oh I just thought of this as I was reading other peoples posts. I'm a girl, and I like guys. I could never date or be with a girl. Yet I think I might have a thing for girls who dress like guys or can be mistaken for a guy. When I watched Ouran HS Host Club, Haruhi instantly became my favorite character and I had no idea why. Then, for an anime convention, I thought I'd cosplay as her. After that I had a small cross-dressing phase and honestly, I would do it again if I could just get my hair to behave. But even now watching movies where girls legit look like a guy, I get light headed almost. It makes me want to cut my hair and put on a suit again.

[NekoGetsu]

Well... I've always been ashamed of it... but seeing people bound and gagged has always made me feel jittery inside. And they have to be afraid or something like that. It's weird. and I'm not proud of it.

Oh I just thought of this as I was reading other peoples posts. I'm a girl, and I like guys. I could never date or be with a girl. Yet I think I might have a thing for girls who dress like guys or can be mistaken for a guy. When I watched Ouran HS Host Club, Haruhi instantly became my favorite character and I had no idea why. Then, for an anime convention, I thought I'd cosplay as her. After that I had a small cross-dressing phase and honestly, I would do it again if I could just get my hair to behave. But even now watching movies where girls legit look like a guy, I get light headed almost. It makes me want to cut my hair and put on a suit again.

I actually have the same thing but Guys who look like girls (e,g "Traps") Set off my cross dressing phase too

[Gregg]

Abs,legs,and gentle voice.

[LightnIce]

I have le fetishes, but all I'll say is that they've been mentioned in this thread, they aren't *too* weird (by internet standards) and they aren't disgusting. Okay I'll one: Muscles. Oh my.

[JDBentz]

This was actually one of the biggest things that kept me thinking I wasn't asexual, lol. I have a bondage fetish, but only with clothes on. I can't stand the whole naked thing, simply because it normally leads to sex or torture porn with these bondage vids. So I stick with the clothing-only bondage vids, and I spend a lot of time on DeviantArt.

My fetishes? Hmm:

Bondage

Voreaphilia (that's the one with people being eaten, either by animals or other people, right?)

I'm sure there's one about strangulation (not happening to me, but to others but without them dying. Is that that autoerotic asphyxiation thing?) If there is, that's another.

Obviously, I watch a lot of crime shows as a result of my fetishes, and I write them in my stories as well. (Attempts maniacal laughter only to be interrupted by coughing fit) Okay, I'm gonna get that one down one of these days...

Oh, and in terms of the fantasies I have with people tied up with clothing on, well, its better if its fancy clothing (evening gowns, Sunday best, etc. Even a freaking prom dress....)