A sexual, but not asexual, who's afraid of sex?

[synoise]

Alright so, my predicament is this: I have no problem with sex or porn or talking about it like it doesn't bother me and it's all cool. But like, whenever I'm in romantic and sexual situations, I get really terrified and anxious. I have the 'fight or flight' thing where I get super sick and have to use the bathroom every ten minutes. I don't want this at all and I don't want it to hinder my relationships. Even when I'm comfortable with the person I'm with, I freak out. The moment I am added to the equation, it becomes a problem. I'm actually quite notorious for making out with a dude, taking a massive dump in his bathroom, and leaving because I feel sick. Wording it this way, I find it funny, but what it's actually happening, it upsets me that it's even a problem.

I'm posting here not because I think I'm asexual, but rather to gather input on what might be going on. Thank you for reading.

[The Great WTF]

Have you considered consulting a psychologist? They may know some tricks to help you, possibly a variant of exposure therapy, or at least be able to sort out why this happens to you and work from there. I honestly don't know much else that could be useful, as what your describing is pretty foreign to me. The closest thing I know of is my partner's tendency towards performance anxiety and it's annoying habit of coming true because he's so worried about it. We have yet to figure out how to get him past that.

[significantlysilent]

Some form of a sexual repulsion perhaps? I read somewhere (on here actually, I think) that those who are sexually repulsed can become sick when encountering sexual activities. It also said how some asexuals may or may not be repulsed, but there are sexuals as well that could be repulsed.... I'll look around some more and see if I can find any links, and post back if I happen to find some. Good luck though as this sounds frustrating for you to deal with. xx

[Wildheart]

Alright so, my predicament is this: I have no problem with sex or porn or talking about it like it doesn't bother me and it's all cool. But like, whenever I'm in romantic and sexual situations, I get really terrified and anxious. I have the 'fight or flight' thing where I get super sick and have to use the bathroom every ten minutes. I don't want this at all and I don't want it to hinder my relationships. Even when I'm comfortable with the person I'm with, I freak out. The moment I am added to the equation, it becomes a problem. I'm actually quite notorious for making out with a dude, taking a massive dump in his bathroom, and leaving because I feel sick. Wording it this way, I find it funny, but what it's actually happening, it upsets me that it's even a problem.

I'm posting here not because I think I'm asexual, but rather to gather input on what might be going on. Thank you for reading.

I just wanted to show some comfort because this sounds exactly like me! Every time a guy has tried to do more than kiss me I get this sick feeling in my stomach and I knew I'd be in the bathroom in a matter of minutes. Even with my ex (my husband) it took about a year of sex to not feel that way anymore. I thought it was normal. Like, maybe it's just because I'm super shy and haven't had much experience with it. But now I'm going to have to look a bit deeper at myself, see what I can find. You know, the performance anxiety thing sounds like it might fit. At least for me.

If you feel comfortable, talk to a trusted friend about this or someone you look up to. Or like another stated a psychologist? Keep your head up, the answers will come!