What kinds of people, if any, do you find attractive (romantically or sexually)

[Plumcots]

I know that masculine and feminine are largely arbitrary, vague and subjective labels.

Attraction, in this case, will be defined as primarily physical. Therefore Demis (or people who aren't physically attracted to any specific type) can vote on the last option.

However, for purposes of this poll we can assume /traditional/ meanings of the words.

Masculinity: large, muscular, rugged, less emotional, etc.

Femininity: petite and/or curvy, romantic, delicate, dainty/"pretty" emotional, etc.

Androgyny: a median between the two, or not fitting into either category any more than the other

I'm asking because I'm wondering if I'm not the only one who is romantically, aesthetically and sensually attracted almost exclusively to androgynous-to-feminine males? I've never really been into the traditional masculine "man's man" types.

[TheKindredSoul]

I'm aesthetically attracted to everyone. I just find it amazing how we all can look so different.

[eamonn]

The drunk ones with the short skirts, obviously.

[SorryNotSorry]

I have my own ideas about feminine beauty, and they shorz hell ain't what the media tries to cram down our throats.

[Plumcots]

I have my own ideas about feminine beauty, and they shorz hell ain't what the media tries to cram down our throats.

Thanks for the response!!

I am actually interested to know what your personal idea of feminine beauty is, just to see other perspectives than the mainstream :3.

[JAKQ7111]

I have my own ideas about feminine beauty, and they shorz hell ain't what the media tries to cram down our throats.

This. I am capable of finding people of any sex or gender aesthetically pleasing, but I am romantically attracted to women, and a fairly unique type at that. The whole "sexy bombshell" thing actually turns meoff to someone, romantically and aesthetically.

[Notte stellata]

Not sexually attracted to anyone. Romantically I prefer feminine/androgynous men. This is more about personality and outlooks than physical appearance, since a very wide range of physical appearance is acceptable to me for potential romantic attraction. But I definitely don't like very muscular men.

[Kitty Spoon Train]

I'm hetero-romantic demisexual. VERY demisexual. So demisexual that everybody is a sexual blank slate to me initially.

If I wasn't hetero-romantic, I'd probably be something like Pansexual. ie It's not anything about craving the physicality of heterosexual sex that eventually attracts me to a person sexually, it's the personalised bond with the person. They just happen to be female because females are the only people my romantic orientation lets get close enough. If that wasn't the case, anybody could get through. :lol:

(I only realised the extent of this the other day, when doing some thought experiments that test the difference between Romantic and Sexual orientations, among other things)

[MadRat]

To masculine men.

I´m more masculine than average woman, so men who are too feminine seem more like females to me than me, which is unappealing. :lol:

[Plumcots]

To masculine men.

I´m more masculine than average woman, so men who are too feminine seem more like females to me than me, which is unappealing. :lol:

Hey that's interesting!

I've always thought that I liked androgynous to feminine men because my personality is probably more feminine than the stereotypical woman. I guess I'd say I'm rather meek and have a young mental age, I'm like a mouse -.-. So it's logical for me not to like masculine men as I'd definitely have nothing in common with them...

Which is odd because according to stereotypes or "common sense" someone like me would be looking for a strong protector. Not me though, I'm independent and I love people that take me seriously, who also tend to be people similar to me :P.

I'm wondering if women are generally more attracted to men with similar gender characteristics as themselves? Women with more masculine personalities/outlooks liking more masculine men and vice versa? OR maybe there really is no pattern.

[Notte stellata]

I've always thought that I liked androgynous to feminine men because my personality is probably more feminine than the stereotypical woman. I guess I'd say I'm rather meek and have a young mental age, I'm like a mouse -.-. So it's logical for me not to like masculine men as I'd definitely have nothing in common with them...

Which is odd because according to stereotypes or "common sense" someone like me would be looking for a strong protector. Not me though, I'm independent and I love people that take me seriously, who also tend to be people similar to me :P.

I'm wondering if women are generally more attracted to men with similar gender characteristics as themselves? Women with more masculine personalities/outlooks liking more masculine men and vice versa? OR maybe there really is no pattern.

Interesting question. I think the stereotype of "meek women + macho men" exists for a reason. But not everyone buys into such heteronormative gender roles. Some people find that off-putting and would rather find someone more similar to themselves.

As for myself, I'm probably the "undifferentiated" type regarding gender roles. I've done some gender role tests, and I don't have a high score on either masculinity or femininity (but a little higher on the latter). I'm very independent too. I want an equal relationship, not a guy who wants to take control all the time. So I can't get along with the dominant type of men.

[Plumcots]

I've always thought that I liked androgynous to feminine men because my personality is probably more feminine than the stereotypical woman. I guess I'd say I'm rather meek and have a young mental age, I'm like a mouse -.-. So it's logical for me not to like masculine men as I'd definitely have nothing in common with them...

Which is odd because according to stereotypes or "common sense" someone like me would be looking for a strong protector. Not me though, I'm independent and I love people that take me seriously, who also tend to be people similar to me :P.

I'm wondering if women are generally more attracted to men with similar gender characteristics as themselves? Women with more masculine personalities/outlooks liking more masculine men and vice versa? OR maybe there really is no pattern.

Interesting question. I think the stereotype of "meek women + macho men" exists for a reason. But not everyone buys into such heteronormative gender roles. Some people find that off-putting and would rather find someone more similar to themselves.

As for myself, I'm probably the "undifferentiated" type regarding gender roles. I've done some gender role tests, and I don't have a high score on either masculinity or femininity (but a little higher on the latter). I'm very independent too. I want an equal relationship, not a guy who wants to take control all the time. So I can't get along with the dominant type of men.

That is interesting too x3 So you're attracted to physically masculine types but not necessarily the traditional masculine personality?

I score really high on femininity even though I've never really felt any affiliation with the really "girly girls"... lool. I'm just me. And me too, I've never been interested in a subservient role in a relationship. MY dream relationship would consist of both of us taking care of and comforting each other equally. I love the sensitive artistic types :3.

I've /met/ many boys (especially older boys) who seem to think they get the automatic upper hand in social relations with me, i.e. the type that likes to correct me and give me unasked for advice while not seeming interested in the things I like to talk about. I find it condescending and the #1 dealbreaker. I only go for the types that take me seriously, which tend to be the more feminine/passive/easygoing/cooperative types, "right-brained" people or "Type B's".

It also helps I've always been attracted to boys that are more "cute" than traditionally "sexy". Usually ones that are more slender/lanky with pretty eyes, hair etc. I'd like to tell all the "cute" boys out there that they don't have to change and "man up" in order to attract women, lol. That said I don't think I experience sexual attraction (at least not 99% of the time), only romantic attraction. I wonder if my preferences would be any different if I had the same levels of sexual desire/attraction etc. as most women?

[Notte stellata]

So you're attracted to physically masculine types but not necessarily the traditional masculine personality?

Physically I don't have a specific "type"...I guess the extremely feminine or masculine types would be off-putting, but most physical types in between are acceptable to me. It has to do with that the primary aesthetic attraction doesn't matter much to me. But as I get attracted to them as a person, in most cases the aesthetic/physical attraction will increase, i.e. secondary attraction is more important.

I've /met/ many boys (especially older boys) who seem to think they get the upper hand in social relations with me, i.e. the type that likes to correct me and give me unasked for advice while not seeming interested in the things I like to talk about. I find it condescending and the #1 dealbreaker. I only go for the types that take me seriously, which tend to be the more feminine/passive/easygoing/cooperative types, "right-brained" people or "Type B's".

Yeah, same for me. :)

[Akabara86]

I'm attracted to androgynous people in general.

Now this doesn't mean a woman with a crew cut, and whom to look at you'd mistake for a man, or a guy whose physically femmed up to the nines.

It's a bit strange... I like men/women who dress in a somewhat stereotypical but none traditional fashion, I guess you could say. I like guys who take care of themselves, but to say I like a guy who wears more eyeliner, mascara and nail polish than myself is definitely going too far, or a guy who has to organize his wardrobe/drawers in colour coordination would probably make me second guess things. Like wise, I like women who are a bit feminine in appearance, but not always wearing dresses/skirts and high heels. So I guess you could say, externally, I'm more likely to take notice of a man if he's sort of 'metro' in appearance, and for women if she's a bit 'tomboyish'.

What I'm mostly attracted to is the personality. I'm drawn to feminism and people who believe in equal rights not just for humans, but for animals to have their rights met and for harsher punishments in animal abuse crimes. People who help others when they can, and enjoy it. People who have a serious side and a goofy side. People who like to have fun in terms of sports, activities, board games, but not so much partying and getting drunk (in other words, similar ideas of fun, as I'm not one for parties or alcohol). People love animals, especially cats, and are okay with the idea of cuddling in a bed with animals sharing the bed with us.

[Dame du Lac]

On those rare occasions I am attracted to someone either romantically or sexually it is a man with all the markers of maleness, i.e. body hair, deep voice broad shoulders, narrow hips etc. Never attracted to exaggerated maleness though. In an ideal world men should be a combination of boyishly handsome but definitely men!

I guess personality wise I am a bit androgynous.

[imemyself]

I only feel attraction to feminine women [romantically].

[Lirael1]

I like men ranging from somewhat masculine to somewhat androgynous, but I'm completely repulsed by the "macho" type and I don't really go for overtly feminine men, either. And I like women who are slightly androgynous, but not very butch women or very femme women. Basically, I don't go for hyper-masculine or hyper-feminine, regardless of gender.

I'm also demi, but the demi box doesn't entirely make sense for me because there's definitely a type of person I'm more likely to be attracted to sexually - I just need to be attracted to them romantically first.

[BaronTheCat]

I'm mostly romantically attracted to men... But the masculine/feminine scale doesn't work for me. Masculine and feminine looks and presentation can both be attractive, but personality-wise, I prefer those who are neither stereotypically masculine, nor stereotypically feminine... I like maturity and common interests and values. Macho guys can be very nice to look at... Less nice to be around.

As for women, I also prefer those whose personality is somewhere in the middle, but both feminine and masculine looks can be attractive.

That said, I'm rather looking at people who has done something about their surface. If they've tried to make themselves attractive, they are often more attractive in my eyes. So just a masculine girl with a hoodie and baggy pants = boring, but a girl who dresses masculine but who's also put some effort into it = aesthetically attractive. But that's just my personal opinion. And it doesn't influence what I think of them as individuals, only what I think of their looks.

[Estranged]

I checked both sexually and romantically for the fem/andro male. The instances of me feeling romantically and/or sexually attracted to anyone have been so few, but I've found that I have to find someone aesthetically appealing for any of that to be a possibility. Tall, lean guys that might look best in an everyday casual feminine presentation are more likely to catch my attention, especially if they actually do dress in drag sometimes. I don't like extremes either way, so military looking guys and too-high femme guys are pretty much out. The high femme look can be interesting at least, even fun, but I find the usual (around here anyway) military look to be incredibly boring and stereotypical, and it's not just the guys actually in the military here that sport that look.

As per the macho/dainty vs equal balance, I'm much more masculine than the guys I find appealing. As for relationships, I would want things to be as close to equal as possible, but I do have a slight protective instinct and wouldn't want to be with someone who felt I needed to be protected.

[snufflebottoms]

I put masculine men and does not apply. It changes, with varying sexual content. I think all kinds can be beautiful. Usually masculine men, with just a touch of femininity to them but I also like androgynous everybody and feminine women. Feminine men and masculine women can be quite good looking but I'm personally not attracted to them. I like masculine men the most because I like to feel feminine. I'm a girl, if that is relevant to the survey.

[Requiem]

I am sexually attracted to both masculine and androgynous/feminine men. However, I am romantically attracted to androgynous/feminine men. A manly man may be good in bed, but he's not what I'm looking for in a partner really.

[LaMaestra]

I am romantically inclined towards masculine men. I like the dark, moody types such as the man on my avatar, Tomas Ledin.

[SisterKate]

I find myself initially attracted to intelligence rather than anything physical. If I can bond with someone mentally, whether they are traditionally masculine or not, I am more likely to be attracted. That said, I do find myself aesthetically drawn toward leaner, androgynous men. Not attracted to brawny footballers. BUT, I don't feel romantically attracted to those I find slighter than me, either. As a feminist, I find this rather depressing, but there is a quality of feeling safe inside someone's larger arms that I enjoy.

[french queen]

I can't really answer the poll, it doens't really have the right category for me. I can find all sorts of people aesthetically attractive and appealing, but it is neither romantic nor sexual. They don't have to be conventionally beautiful or handsome. With men, if I notice a stranger on the street it's likely to be because he has features reminiscent of my beloved, who is the be-all and end-all of romantic and sexual attraction for me.

But really, I get more excited about cats than I do about humans. KITTEEEEEEEE! MUST PAT!

[Janus the Fox]

I seem to be none of the above, "neither romantically or sexually attracted to either gender, but aesthetically attracted to both"

[WhenSummersGone]

Masculine men romantically. I'm not sexually attracted to anyone. Sometimes masculine/androgynous women romantically but I don't think it's a crush, more like a squish.

[LimeTreeArbour]

It's tough to answer, I sort of like the (traditionally) masculine quality of independence/robustness and the (traditionally) feminine quality of nurturing/gentleness in woman or man.

[~No Reins~]

I would have to say I find feminine to masculine men aesthetically/romantically attractive. Mostly masculine, but I've found some feminine-looking guys attractive before.

[Kolibri]

Mostly masculine/androgynous men, the tall, dark type. But I am not sexually attracted to them, mabye romantically - I never experienced that yet.

To me, they are aesthetic. But I think there are also some women, who are beautiful, but I am whether sexually or romantically attracted to women ^_^

[Yukana]

Women or androgynes. I like a woman with a lot of piercings :P I don't really find women romantically attractive that would be considered sexually attractive to other people, so not a lot of feminine women.