FeuxDartifice Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 What a breath of fresh air. After browsing the forums at asexuality.org, I think I finally found the language to finally describe my "orientation"! I'm 25, male, gay, and i live in Canada. I'm totally gay grey-a. This is the first time I feel like I have language that sums up how I feel, not that labels are all that significant. I used to think i was sort of crazy for being totally emotionally and sexually attracted to men but also mostly lacking the desire to sleep with them either. I'm not totally asexual but I have no desire to penetrate or be penetrated... or to fool around with most guys... especially more than once. When i do, it is usually a one time thing and limited to frot or oral, which I enjoy when I'm being sexual. I've felt pressured to have sex in the past by boyfriends and I've felt sexually assaulted after sex that was semi-consentual. i've also really enjoyed sex. I am totally capable of romantic feelings and I've even been with people that I've felt both sexual and emotional attraction to at the same time. I do masterbate and i do like porn. In relationships sometimes i want it [sexual intimacy] and sometimes I REALLY dont! In my experience, it makes finding a suitable partner very very difficult. I feel like I'm either i'm not sexual enough or too sexual! My friends dont really get it but they support me regardless. Maybe others on here might relate or see elements of thrmselves in this. Awesome forum! Link to post Share on other sites
Rakel Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Welcome to AVEN, FeuxDartifice! I'm happy you've found some relief thanks to this forum, and I hope you enjoy your stay here! I'm gray-a as well, and I can say I totally share your feelings about having some way of expressing yourself in words. ^_^ Link to post Share on other sites
13again Posted April 28, 2012 Share Posted April 28, 2012 I've got a similar story. I happened to join a facebook group (Wipeout Homophobia on Facebook) and they happened to post an article about a girl in Brittan who was asexual. My reaction was "that's a *thing*?" followed shortly by "But that's *me*?" It totally changed the way I thought about myself. I don't know what I'm going to do with this knowledge, but it's a start, right? Welcome, and good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Janus the Fox Posted April 28, 2012 Share Posted April 28, 2012 Indeed, the grey area helped me discover my non-driven/undesired bisexuality, I'm just attractions, a power fantasist and just about it. I wouldn't turn it down i don't have any desire to pursue relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
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