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Very sexual kid, but Gray-A as a teenager?


Bryte

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Hi!

I was just thinking back on my childhood and something confuses me. I was very sexual when I was very young, such as playing out very sexual situations with my dolls for example. The fact that I was so sexual at such young ages kinda confuses me as well but my main confusion comes from the fact that as an older teenager, I'm actually Gray-A.

Being sexual is very rare, and feeling a sexual desire is even rarer for me. In fact, being in sexual situations are kinda weird for me( and sometimes boring.) So why is it that I'm so void of sexuality now if I was so sexual when I was a child? Has this happened to others too?

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I'm the exact opposite of you. I was not at all sexual as a kid and very sexually restrained as a teenager, but when the right person came, these sexual restraints came right off.

I guess that for you, time has made you refine your sexuality, in such a way that it's faded. I don't really know, but what you're saying is very interesting.

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Sockstealingnome

I'm much like you bryte. Pretty sexually aware as a kid

Tmi warning:

I started masturbating at five not knowing what I was doing but that it felt good.

By the time I hit puberty, no more crushes. There were people I found physically attractive but that's where my interest ended. It's one of the reasons I was hesitant to claim asexuality but it seems I'm autosexual if anything.

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I'm much like you bryte. Pretty sexually aware as a kid

Tmi warning:

I started masturbating at five not knowing what I was doing but that it felt good.

By the time I hit puberty, no more crushes. There were people I found physically attractive but that's where my interest ended. It's one of the reasons I was hesitant to claim asexuality but it seems I'm autosexual if anything.

TMI warning:

I also started masturbating at age five.

Also like you though I had no crushes when puberty hit. I don't even think I found people physically attractive until university. I had a crush on a guy in university but it was not sexual it was that i wanted to know him (emotionally i guess is the correct term?), but if he had returned my interest in a more than friendship way I would have not wanted that I'm sure. There was another guy in university I went on a couple dates with but it didn't amount to anything and i am glad now, but back then I think I wanted him to be interested in me but not sexually (and probably not even romantically?)...i do remember when we were sitting next to each other and our shoulders touched one time I got this warm feeling at the site of contact (like electricity/tingling?) and I liked it I think. Is that sexual attraction?

Anyway I'm off topic and not answering your question, sorry :cake:

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Jack Havock

Same here. I've put it down to that I was more easily aroused back then. Just the thought of sex.

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deleted00account

Same story. I vaguely remember being absolutely obsessed with sex when I was very little, to the point where my mom had to sit down and talk to me about how it was inappropriate to draw those kinds of pictures and make up those kinds of stories. I don't even know how I knew about sex and what was supposed to happen in it--must have found my dad's porn, or something like that.

That obsession faded, but I've always been the one with the dirtiest mind in my friend group, making innuendos whenever possible. Still, when I hit puberty and everyone was having crushes and beginning to date and experiment sexually, I couldn't bring myself to get involved. I got "crushes", but I wasn't physically attracted to anyone. All of my crushes were on personalities and shared interests. I just wanted to hang out with these people, but definitely not get intimate with them or touch them in any way. I was 18 before I could even bring myself to hug my best friends.

I can appreciate a person's beauty, male or female, and occasionally I'll feel a small spark of physical desire in response to some sort of visual stimulus, but when it comes time for action, I usually shut down and lose interest.

So, yeah, I know what you're talking about. I still think about sex and sometimes create fantasies in my head, but I don't have much interest in doing it or playing out those fantasies in real life. I've got better things to do with my time.

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Sockstealingnome

Same story. I vaguely remember being absolutely obsessed with sex when I was very little, to the point where my mom had to sit down and talk to me about how it was inappropriate to draw those kinds of pictures and make up those kinds of stories. I don't even know how I knew about sex and what was supposed to happen in it--must have found my dad's porn, or something like that.

That obsession faded, but I've always been the one with the dirtiest mind in my friend group, making innuendos whenever possible. Still, when I hit puberty and everyone was having crushes and beginning to date and experiment sexually, I couldn't bring myself to get involved. I got "crushes", but I wasn't physically attracted to anyone. All of my crushes were on personalities and shared interests. I just wanted to hang out with these people, but definitely not get intimate with them or touch them in any way. I was 18 before I could even bring myself to hug my best friends.

I can appreciate a person's beauty, male or female, and occasionally I'll feel a small spark of physical desire in response to some sort of visual stimulus, but when it comes time for action, I usually shut down and lose interest.

So, yeah, I know what you're talking about. I still think about sex and sometimes create fantasies in my head, but I don't have much interest in doing it or playing out those fantasies in real life. I've got better things to do with my time.

I've always known where babies come from but I don't know how. Nobody ever told me. I never saw any porn or walked in on anyone having sex, so that's one mystery I've never been able to figure out.

And yeah, this post? Story of my life. Makes coming to terms with asexuality so confusing because I seem like a sexual person and yet, am not?

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RandomGirlK

As a child of about 6 or 7, I went through a stage of being very interested in sex. I dont know how it started, but I remember finding my dad's porn collection, and drawing some very rude pictures, and making dolls have sex with eachother.

I am completely asexual now, and feel very embarrased about being like that as a child, so its good to know I wasnt the only one.

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I was the exact same way!! I was extremely sexual as a little kid, and then when I hit puberty when everyone started to feel sexually attracted to one another I felt totally lost! I'm Grey A as well, so hearing all of this makes me feel so much better seeing as I'm new here :)

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Princess_Chaos

I think this is normal, as a child you might have just been playing out sexual situations with your dolls because sex wasn't something you completely understood then so you found it interesting and experimented with it. But when you got older and figured out what sex was and gained more knowledge about it, you were able to figure out you were gray-a.

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