worldwanderer Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Hello Everyone! *warning-not really sure this fits here, if it doesn't feel free to move it Ah life, how you enjoy throwing these curve-balls. Well let me explain, never in my 23yrs on this earth have I've ever thought I was ever going to be in a relationship that was anything more than just friends. I lived a quiet life with family, school & friends and the "sexual-ness" of life was never really that big of deal in that situation so the whole issue seemed so far away. Then along comes "R". He's wonderful we met at school so my first thought was "oh a new friend for the semester" Its something that happens in college, as most of the people I meet in school seem to disappear after only a semester, but this turned out differently. Long story short, we are now going out & seeing each other on a semi-regular basis (different college degrees, work & generally life gets in the way during the week) Anyhoo, we've gotten a little closer & we actually made-out (that sounds so juvenile ) & I'm surprised that I liked it but that's not the curve ball. Its the fact that I woke up in the middle of the night with the biggest "ITCH" I've ever had in years :redface: I started identifying as asexual because those feelings came when I was thirteen and never came up again & life was live-able and enjoyable without them. By now you're probably wondering why I'm making such a big deal out of it. Maybe it's because I've had to rethink the whole asexual thing. But that's the weird part see because during the week I feel just the same as before i met him, but that feeling just has me questioning if I'm really not as asexual as I thought, demi-maybe? Link to post Share on other sites
Astryda Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Could be demi or anywhere in Grey- A. The most important is to follow your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Bily Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Could be demi or anywhere in Grey- A. The most important is to follow your feelings. Agreed. I had a confusing change as well. Thought i was asexual then i had a bunch of feelings arise that i never felt before. At first they were maddening cause i did not know how to cope with them but for me i identify as demisexual but only cause how i feel and how it happens sort of fits that definition. Also i learned that sometimes its best not to figure out why we feel a certain way but to accept we feel that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Nonz16 Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I think I've "become" a grey-a since dating my boyfriend. Kind of scares me a little, but I actually quite enjoy sex with him, which I NEVER thought possible. Link to post Share on other sites
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