anticulus Posted February 14, 2006 Share Posted February 14, 2006 No thanks. I've always detested kids. Although having been in a pantomime the last two Christmases with a large number of them I've found myself thawing very slightly. Occasionally they seem almost human. But I still have no ability with them, find it very hard to interact with them and could certainly not imagine having any of my own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yam Posted February 14, 2006 Share Posted February 14, 2006 I was originally yes on this answer. I may have recently been converted to a no. Though it's always different when the kid is yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dyyanae Posted February 14, 2006 Share Posted February 14, 2006 I never wanted children of my own. Thankfully, I am beyond that now. But the 'that's selfish' argument was something I had to deal with all my life. I found it upsetting because to me the fact that someone truly doesn't want a child is an awfully good reason not to have one! I know I would have been a *terrible* parent. However, I am fairly involved with raising my brother's children. I enjoy teaching them fun things and encouraging their creative sides. They seem to get a lot out of it, and their parents appreciate it too since they are struggling with jobs and school etc... In a way, my family resembles the old extended family model rather than the more recent nuclear family. I take care of the oldest member and help with the youngest. There was a time when it was common for unmarried sons or daughters to play this role in a family. And it makes sense to me, at least for us. But I get some amazingly rude comments from people when I mention that I live with my father. Sorry, if I've wandered off topic. But I guess I'm exploring some of the reasons I feel so strongly that *everyone* should not be expected to have children. Genetic disease, overpopulation, and environmental issues all figure in too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remirath Posted February 15, 2006 Share Posted February 15, 2006 I really don't like the idea of having kids of my own but I chose yes because I am sure that one day when I see myself as capable of supporting another human being I will probably adopt a child, if only for the purpose of having an heir. I think the child will be somewhere from five to ten (probably closer to five) because I don't want it to be so young that I have to teach it basic human functions but I also don't want it to be so old that it will not be changeable. I want to be able to raise it to act and think in a certain way and after a certain age that will be much more difficult. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derp Posted July 15, 2006 Share Posted July 15, 2006 *bump* Just in case anyone's still undecided... http://www.glumbert.com/media/babylunch.html :shock: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mithril Posted July 15, 2006 Share Posted July 15, 2006 Well, I wasn't undecided -- I don't want kids -- but that video just strengthens my decision. Sick! If a kid ever puked in my mouth, I would shoot it. Okay no I wouldn't actually kill it, but I would get rid of it. Give it up for adoption. I've never wanted kids for many many many reasons. Main one is that life just seems pointless if all we are meant to do is grow up, accomplish nothing, haved kids that grow up and accomplish nothing, they have kids... etc... I want to spend my life learning and discovering and doing something. Not slaving at some crap job to support some dumb-kid that I would probably traumatize anyway (I can only tolerate being annoyed for so long before I crack. Then it would be a yelling fest until the kid was a silent recluse... :oops: ) Plus how can it be selfish to not have children? I don't want to bring another person into this crappy world. I don't mind them sometimes for short periods of time but that's about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cerhiunnhn Posted July 15, 2006 Share Posted July 15, 2006 I know that I at least want to adopt because children flock to me! They're my minions. :D Plus, it'd give me a chance to raise little people to be responsible, open-minded, caring adults. Y'know, make the world a little better of a place. As for having my own children, at this time I'm strongly opposed to it, but my feelings are subject to change. I suppose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mithril Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 I was thinking about this some more and the only way I would be interested in caring for children is if I was experimenting with conditioning and upbringing in some way. Okay, that sounds kind of cruel but let me explain. Boy children are most often encouraged on their strength/intelligence when they are young whereas girls are always praised for being beautiful/sweet, things like that. I know a teacher who was raising a child and giving her "boy" praise instead of "girl" praise in her younger years. Now something like that would interest me, to study upbringing conditioning in children. But we're not supposed to experiment on humans... And I would still probably want a way to get rid of the children later or something like that. Also, I would feel slightly bad if I became a cause for the child to grow up and have huge problems in life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drakalor Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 i love kids, there so cute Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nescience Posted August 3, 2006 Share Posted August 3, 2006 I've never wanted to have children of my own. At one point, I thought of adopting a kid or two, but I think I'd make a terrible parent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pixies Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 I used to think that it was my responsibility to grow up, get married and have children. It wasn't something I ever wanted to do, but I just sort of expected that suddenly in my late twenties, I would get some sort of "maternal urge" to run out and start reproducing. The realization that I didn't want, nor would I ever want children came shortly before my realization that I didn't want, nor would I ever want a husband. Also, I'm the oldest of four children with an abnormally large age difference between me and my siblings. My two younger sisters, currently ages seven and eighteen months old, were both almost exclusively raised by me for a stretch of time. I'm in no hurry to deal with that again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
einafetz Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 i have two kids,my daughter is 8 and my son is 4,and i want more kids Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vianecita Posted September 23, 2006 Share Posted September 23, 2006 Hum, I love kids but I don't think I could have the sufficient patience to have one of my own. When you have kids you are sort of chained down, you can't go anywhere on just an impulse, have to organize everything first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kallan Posted September 23, 2006 Share Posted September 23, 2006 I might adopt one-day. I don't like dealing with infants. Pretty much I don't do well with kids younger than 2. Plus I don't want to be a single parent, that's just to much work and responsibility. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neurofreez Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 While I choose "No," I'd like to point out that I think it should be more like "HELL NO!!! I'd rather cut my leg off and eat it first!!" My thoughts, exactly :shock: The world will get along just fine without a mini-me wandering the globe. In a way I understand how people can say it's selfish to not want to. Selfish to think only of yourself and not others; benefit human race and whatnot. But you are doing yourself AND the child(ren) a disservice if you have them and don't truly want to. It will show in your attitudes toward them and how messed up they turn out. Wish the people who think it's selfish would understand that. Though, I will admit there are always exceptions. People can raise semi-decent humans even though they did not truly want them for whatever reason. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farfalla Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 My parents think I'm being selfish if I don't want kids and that I'll probably "change my mind" or something. I'm not really sure how not wanting to have kids is selfish, but my dad is adamant about the issue. He thinks it's extremely selfish and I'm going to die alone. Point out to your dad how selfish it would be to have a child just so you aren't alone... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farfalla Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 I don't want kids of my own. I do love to work with kids and I enjoy other peoples kids. But to have one 24/7/365/18+ NO WAY Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Razzie Posted September 30, 2006 Share Posted September 30, 2006 I don't mind children (there are four in this house where I'm a lodger, all under 10!) but I've no interest in having my own, or being responsible for any. My brother is getting towards the age when he may find a mate, so I'm already curious (not worried, just curious) how I would cope with any neices / nephews? Weird thing is, I wouldn't mind donating eggs if I was asked, they're going to go to waste if I keep them... Seems almost cruel to keep them while someone else who genuinely needs them could have them :? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
raspBerry jam Posted October 9, 2006 Share Posted October 9, 2006 If you were to ask any of my friends they'd tell you I eat children. XD But, yeah, me and kids, we don't hang. =P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aesthesia Posted October 9, 2006 Share Posted October 9, 2006 I like kids, and I've done a lot of work with them (daycare, tutoring), and I think I'd like to have my own, but I'm terrified that I'd be a bad parent. But I've still got a lot of time before I'll be ready to consider having children-I definitely have to get out of school first-so we'll see. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InControl Posted October 10, 2006 Share Posted October 10, 2006 Religion, Children, and Drug-usage are the three main subjects I try to avoid entirely b/c I have such strong (and highly offensive) opinions regarding them. I have NO DESIRE to ever have children. I've had my mind made-up on this matter for many many years. I can barely deal with adults... and I surely cannot imagine how I'd react around a child. Yes.. there are times when my maternal instincts try to kick-in, but they've been supremely surpressed. Like someone mentioned earlier, they really do nothing but get in the way and hold you back. This world needs to shape-up before I even think about bringing another child into this world; plus, I'm not ready to forgo my life to raise another ungrateful child (that'll probably put me in a nursing home [or some other hellish place] once I become 'their problem'). Simply, there are more than enough unwanted/uncared for children floating around on this planet. BTW... I have two cats whom I love dearly, and they are my 'children'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hpets Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I think that if I don't find someone with whom I'd like to conceive children, I'd like to adopt or do artificial insemination. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moreau36 Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 I have no desire for children. I enjoy as much freedom as possible. Besides, I don't think I'll find a partner, which is fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Placebo Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 Erm. . . I couldn't answer the poll. My answer is "Maybe. Depending on financial and emotional circumstances after I'm more mature." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brodertun Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 I might adopt one-day. I don't like dealing with infants. Pretty much I don't do well with kids younger than 2. Plus I don't want to be a single parent, that's just to much work and responsibility. same here. At first I didn't want any kids younger than 8, but now that I've learned how to manage kindergarteners I want to take them home too. so maybe i'll adopt a preschool kindergarten age child Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
agentkgb Posted January 20, 2007 Share Posted January 20, 2007 No. I'm considering being a teacher when I graduate but I don't want kids of my own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Astryda Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 I love children but don't want to have any on my own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LimeTreeArbour Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 kind of do kind of dont i dont like babies that much but i think id be alright once they get a little older Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
squiggle Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 but I'd have to adopt 'cos I can't have kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Filmfan Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Some of them can be cute for 10 minutes at a time, but that's as long as I can stand to be around them. They're just boring little creatures who mess up your house and drain your energy and bank account. And I'm sure you're wondering... No, that's not my dog. I just found him on the net. I don't have any pets. I kind of feel the same way about animals. I do think they're awfully cute, though! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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