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Any asexuals like me, over 60?

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daveb
3 hours ago, Rockblossom said:

There is, but cheating is encouraged and you can chalk up any wrong answers to forgetfulness or fogged-up glasses.  Both are considered valid excuses.  

I thought the entrance exam was if you can enter you pass. :P 

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will123

On a serious note, with the number of asexuals in their 50s growing older there will be a lot moving in. 

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Nick2

When you move in I will be ready to move to the 70s thread...wait...does that exist?

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will123
3 hours ago, Nick2 said:

When you move in I will be ready to move to the 70s thread...wait...does that exist?

I don't think so. That's an interesting thought, folks of that demographic discussing their non-heteronormative identities. I'm sure we'll have advice for the younger folks. Hopefully we can help them understand that identifying as asexual doesn't mean a lifetime of being isolated from society.

 

I may not have wanted a sexual or romantic (I'm aro too) partner, but it doesn't mean I adverse to friends of the opposite sex.

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bharani1949

Just turned 70 on the 29 Dec.   I wish I could find other asexuals to hang out with. I'm not ashamed of it nor do I fear rejection. I figure the most I,d have to deal with is boredom on the other persons part. Why be freaked out if someone is asexual? It's not as if I'd be dangerous.

Slept through the passing of the year, I'm in Siem Reap Cambodia and they party hard. Not my schtick (sp?). Don't drink. Don't do drugs. Used to dance but my knees don't like it anymore🤣.

Anyway, Happy New Year guys and gals and everyone else

 

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pickles mcgee
On 1/2/2020 at 2:30 AM, bharani1949 said:

nor do I fear rejection.

I've never feared rejection either-- asexuality seems benign.

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teatree
On 1/8/2020 at 4:37 AM, pickles mcgee said:

asexuality seems benign.

It does, doesn't it? ☺

 

On 1/2/2020 at 5:30 AM, bharani1949 said:

Just turned 70 on the 29 Dec.   I wish I could find other asexuals to hang out with.

If you lived in New England, I would!

 

C'mon, @Nick2, we have our work cut out for us to make this thread more exciting.... 

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teatree

And by "more exciting" I meant more active.... 😬

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will123
14 hours ago, teatree said:

And by "more exciting" I meant more active.... 😬

Be careful what you wish for...

 

Us 50 year olds are coming.

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Benny The Jet
On 1/8/2020 at 4:37 AM, pickles mcgee said:

I've never feared rejection either-- asexuality seems benign.

Interesting comment.  I have pondered if the sort of women who have gay male friends might also have asexual male friends for the same reason (and if not—why?).  The gay male friend(s) may be seen by many as “non-threatening”, but perhaps not so much the “benign” asexual male friend. There seems to be a slight difference, in that her being seen by her female friends (as well as potential straight male suitors) with openly and obviously gay men may elicit a smile (or even a chuckle) from them, while her hanging out with an asexual man might not be seen the same way, as there really isn’t such a thing as being “openly asexual” (is there?).  That makes me think that aces are really in a different category than most of the other sexual orientations in that we don’t have “alternate” sexual proclivities—we have no sexual proclivities.  I very much believe that a serious relationship (especially a living together relationship) between an ace and a non-ace is is going to be a rare thing.

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Place
On 12/28/2019 at 4:07 AM, will123 said:

@Catpaws Great points. For AVEN I created a different username than I normally use for my online use. As much as I'm comfortable discussing my personal life here with fellow aces, I don't want someone Googling the other name and having it turn up here (if that's possible).

 

I think the generational thing also applies to younger people questioning their identity much sooner than us older folks. I was 44 when I stumbled onto asexuality. This year there have been several people post here that they just found out about asexuality and they're in their 50s.

 

I agree with you about keeping our asexuality under wraps. Facing possible backlash isn't going to help our happiness if we randomly tell people. It took me 12 years to actually come out to a friend. The decisions to come out to other friends took a lot of reflection and thought on my part. Trust me if you think it's hard coming out to a friend, deciding who I should tell isn't easy either. Thankfully each time is a little bit easier.

Well I have just found out I’m asexual and I am 61!!! Somewhere on here I wrote that I put it down to the time I grew up. None of my friends raved on about sex, and ‘good girls’ didn’t engage in it until married. I was heteroromantic, so how could I ever know I was asexual? Through 2 marriages I just thought I had a low sex drive. (Which I do!!!!). But never questioned it as an orientation or really thought about it. A few years ago I flippantly told my husband I was asexual, not even knowing what it was and that it existed in people like us. I just said the word as I knew ‘a’ meant not. Only this year have I started exploring what it is- what I am.

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teatree
2 hours ago, Place said:

None of my friends raved on about sex, and ‘good girls’ didn’t engage in it until married. I was heteroromantic, so how could I ever know I was asexual? Through 2 marriages I just thought I had a low sex drive.

I did have one friend who was sexually active in high school, and I always remember thinking "Ewwwww!" Was always attracted to guys, just didn't want anything past that stage. And I always thought my marriage's lackluster sex was my husband's fault! (Thought that it might be different with someone else....) So the signs were all there, just didn't know there was a name for it.

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